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Yet Another Attempt at Weight Loss...

well i will skip the whole sob story, the why's and wherefores, let's just say, i am FAT FAT FAT. i am '5 "4 and weigh almost 250 lbs. wow that is depressing. won't make this long and dramatic, but i just wanted to get a little support. i have started watching what i eat better, not cutting things out completely, just trying to be smarter about it (no way i can do a full on diet anyway, i am BROKE) but trying to buy more fruits and vegetables and eat them more often instead of processed snacks, for example. if i have to eat out of the snack machine at work (which is preferable to fast food anyway), i go for the crackers instead of the candy bar. yes, not perfect, i know. i am not ready for a full on life change at this point in my life. the other thing is i have started working out in the morning. well...i have ONCE so far :) normally i am up at 5 am (work at 8) and i have always gotten online, facebook, on here, etc, some mornings i take my shower, if i didn't the night before...and i always considered that my "me" time, so now i am really going to try to make it my "me" time that gives me this precious gift of better health. i am so borderline - my health is great (so far), blood pressure, resting heartrate, cholesterol (*somehow!), and i am able to keep up with my son whatever he wants to do, go to the zoo, park, take walks, whatever the case may be. but i can see myself teetering on the edge of just a big blob that can't do anything. i have always been proud that even though i was big, i could work as hard as anyone else and keep up. i'm starting to not be able to. and in all my life i have never LOST weight, only gained, unless i had a good hard physical job. well i am a "grownup" now so changing careers at this point is not going to work for me. and i am in my mid thirties now. the time is now.SO mamas....any words of wisdom? advice? anyone actually come back from where i am, and made some minor adjustments and turned the corner successfully??

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What can I do next?

So What Happened?™

thank you all for your kind words! i am not going to jinx myself by saying "this is the time i will stick with it!" but i am very motivated :) especially after reading your responses. i have now worked out THREE days in a row (because sunday we went to the park, walked about a mile and a half, and i played with my son, instead of watching from the bench - i count that!) and i feel so great. little things. a huge new life of counting calories, making all new meals, buying all new groceries, i can't face that yet. i also have a husband and a four year old who would fight me right now. i am doing ME right now. we don't eat too bad, and i feel my biggest problem (besides getting no excercise) is sweets and portion control. hence the replacing snacks with fruits and veggies. kinda like what many of you were saying. i think the biggest thing is being active. i am also constantly thinking of things for us to do as a family, now. weekends are going to be active and fun :) thanks again for all your advice, i will check out some of the resources you all suggested!

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Well if your not ready for a full on life change how is it going to work? You need to learn how to lose weight, its really hard when you just try to wing it.
Its serious, if you want it to work, you have to be serious. Start a food journal, write down everything you eat and the calories. I had great success on weight watchers. Losing a lot of weight is never easy, but nothing worth doing ever is.

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Check out transitionslifestyle.com
This was the best program I did. They teach you how to eat real food so you learn something you can continue for life. It's not a diet. They also have personal coaches. I can try to help you find one in your area if you would like.
:)

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Losing weight is basic math. You must burn more calories than you eat for a long period of time. Once obtained you must burn as many calories as you eat to maintain weight.

I wish it was easier, i really do.

You need to commit yourself to a good diet(not dieting) and a wrokout that is difficult, and you have to do it often. Other than surgery, this is the only true way to become skinnier. Sweating, grunting, cursing the fatty foods and complaining. But none of that compares to the feeling you get with every jean size you go down. When you no longer unbutton the pants or wear spanx. The work is totally worth it, and working out becomes more fun the fitter you get.

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Words of wisdom?
Hmmm:
When you THINK you are hungry, stop, drink 6 oz of water, then wait 5 minutes. If in 5 minutes you still feel hungry, have a snack. If you forget or don't really feel hungry... then move on.

And realize that it took a lot of years to get to where you are now. Stay positive. At some point you will start expecting results faster than you are actually seeing them...but don't get caught up in that. You spent a lot of time slowly gaining...so it will take a lot of time to slowly lose in a healthy way. If you are weighing on a scale, don't do it more often than once per week. If you weigh more often, you will start expecting results faster and will end up setting yourself up for disappointment, which can trigger that giving up feeling. Be positive, and don't touch the scales more than once a week.

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I didn't read all of the responses but I think its great that you started exercising! Keep it up walking is great for you and you can make your morning walk your me time, listen to a book on your ipod or music and walk. the is how I lost my baby weight after my 3rd Little one! I do also think you should see if there is a nutrition class you can take? A Lot of people think they are eating healthy whe really they are not! Anything in the snack machine at work is usually not healthy for example - try brining things to snack on with you to work, or instead of visiting the fast food place go to grocery store.. Or subway. try changing one thing first and take baby steps- like cut out regular soda if you drink that- move to water or cut back to one soda a day only. Do you watch the biggest loser? I think it is very motivational and they have some great tips on there. But most of all keep at it, one day at a time. If you have a "bad" day all is NOT lost. Start brand new again the next day! =) good luck I know you can do it.

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I have a healthy diet, but sounds like you really aren't quite ready to diet.. Maybe you are getting there, but don't really sound committed, just frustrated. I understand it's hard.

So, start learning. Get some books about nutrition and learn how to eat. Portions are the key once you have learned what a healthy balance is.

Goal: eat 5 times per day, but small portions. 3 meals and two snacks. include protein at every eating.

Goal: Exercise. Make it doable. Walk 30 minutes in the morning, at lunch or after dinner most days. 30 minutes! When I hear people say they don't have time.........I bet most of us (especially on mamapedia) spend that much time surfing the net every day. And, My sister swears that if she exercises twice a day it kicks her metabolism into gear. This, I don't know, but it worked for her.

Here's a book that might interest you: The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person by Judith S. Beck

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I gained 100lbs in a year when I was in a bad marriage. After I divorced I had to work on my mind first and get back to loving who I am again. Next I started working on my body. I packed all of my regular plates away and only used the small desert plates for all of my meals. I stopped frying and began baking foods with less oils and salts and more seasonings to make up for the lack of salts. I cut out 85% of my bread/pasta intake and started walking.
I lost 85lbs this last year and I do go up and down but never enough to go a size bigger in my jeans! As soon as I went from a size 28 to a 24 I got rid of all my 28's and so on. I am now a size 15/16 but almost in 14!!! I weighed 289lbs now I am 204lbs. I am 5'8" & 44yrs old and I feel sexy, beautiful and alive again!!
I wish you the very best and just remember it starts with your HEAD first! Unless you are in good frame of mind and ready to change you will never make it. Love who you are now and start realizing you are worth it and change will start to happen.

God bless,
Sully

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I wish you the best-my cousin has had great success with weight watchers. My mom uses the Atkin's diet when she needs to and my sister uses the healthier-South Beach. I did one over the summer called the Sacred Heart diet. Stick with the fruits and veggies-cut the carbs-take salads and chopped veggies and a hard boiled egg and a few strips of chicken or turkey-maybe a few slices of cheese and a couple of tomato wedges to work. Take a cooler if you have to-walk 500 extra steps a day-stand whenever you can. Drink lots of water. My biggest downfall is -dare I say it? Wine! When I quit drinking , I lost 10 in ten weeks without doing anything else. Good luck-this is a great thing you are doing!

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