Would You Separate Your Kids in Two Different Daycares?

I think it's important to keep them together. They will learn to play together, but it will take practice and patience.

I have an older sibling 3 years older than me and we ALWAYS played together when we were little and he learned to always take care of me and to be patient with me.

My children are 3 year old boy and a 9 month old girl. If I had to put them in Daycare I would put them together. 1) she would definately learn to to do things faster such as speaking, playing, and potty training. 2) GAS is way TOO EXPENSIVE to drop off and pick up two children at different places! it will also take you longer to get home/work too, who really wants that.

My son loves to play with his sister and whenever he gets frustrated with her ( which is hardly ever) I just tell him to be patient and that he has to share becuase it's his little sister and we always share. At first it was a little hard for him becuase he is the first grandson on both sides and was used to all the attention, but now he craves for her to wake up from her naps so he has her to play with....Well anyways, i think it would be best for BOTH of your children to go to daycare together, that way one learns how to do things faster and the other learns how to tolerate thier sibling, I think it will be eaiser for the older to not be so frustrated if she sees others showing her how to play with her younger sibling. I really hope it works out.

N.

I would not separate them. Before I stopped working and started my own in-home daycare I found a great provider that offered fun for different ages. My daughter who is 5 cant stand to always be with her little bothers but she made that easy by giving her older things to do and still gave my 2 year old the love and time he needed. Also my three year old got his own special things too. I follow by her and offer al types of things for different ages. I think that having your children together in the same daycare not only brings your kids together it also helps you out by not having to go to two different places. Its just a matter of finding the right daycare for you and your young ones. Good luck

I think it depends on how you feel about it, what is available and what works for your family as far as convenience and financially. I personally would like to see siblings together especially if they are in daycare. But that is my personal opinion and I know everyone's situation is different... My mom worked in a daycare center and then started watching kids in her home. Having kids in her home seemed so much more personal than the daycare center. She often had siblings together. Good luck!

Hi A.,

I think that if they are together that would be great or apart would be great. Your daughter is still young and your son is mobile and getting into everything so her frustration is warranted. My oldest is 4 and my second is just now 1 and she gets frustrated too. I have told her that if she wants to play without Anni getting into her stuff. Then she needs to go into her room. I'm not sure how well that would work her only being 2.5 but it might be worth a shot. Slow but sure Marley knows and remembers that if she is in the living room playing her toys might be somewhat messed up by Anni. I wouldn't stress too much about keeping them together or apart. Once your son is older they'll be playing together great. Atleast that is what I am hoping lol ;0

K.

I am a home daycare provider (the kids are napping right now) and I feel that it is important to keep both children together. At this time I have one sibling group ages 2.5 and one year and then one other child. The third child's mother is having a baby next month and I will be taking that baby.

Here is why I feel keeping siblings together is important:

1) The bond between siblings becomes even stronger.
2) All of the children learn how to treat a younger child with respect, love and kindness.
3) The younger child will be more at ease with major transitions that take place at home or at the daycare.
4) The younger child will learn how to talk, walk and explore new things sooner.
5) Conflict resolution-even though your children will be with each other 24/7 they will soon learn how to share and resolve conflicts with each other, the older child will also learn patience.
6) Drop off and pick ups will be much easier on you.
7) Financially it may save you money. Many places offer sibling discounts.
8) A good provider will be able to give each child the individual attention that they need and deserve.

These are just a few benefits that I could think of off of the top of my head, but I am sure that there are many more.

My children have always been together and I am proud of the siblings that they have become. My son does go to preschool in the mornings and when he does my daughter longs for him to come home. I could probably compare their relationship to that of twins. They love each other, have a strong bond and respect each others privacy. Your 11 month old is too young to know about respect, but he will learn and them being together will also teach your daughter patience, love and understanding. I would definitely recommend keeping your children together:)

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I would separate them. Sounds like your daughter could use the break. My boys are only 16 months apart and they do just fine when separated for school.

I have 3 kids. the first 2 are 20 months apart and the next is 19 months following. Before the birth of my second the pediatrician told me to put the first in school at 1 1/2 years old so he could have a place of his own. so i didn't do "daycare" i did "school". There were other classes from infants up thru kindergarten at "school" along with pre-care and after-care if needed. So... being in the same buiding but in different rooms seems like the logical solution. One drop off, different caregivers/teachers. Most churches/synagoges have this type of setup. The better ones usually have waiting lists though.
Your daughter will appreciate her brother more as she will enjoy telling him about her day as girls like to do.