My friend was due on March 15 and about 2 weeks ago she was put on bed rest for unexplained spotting. Anyway, she gave birth today. I know very little because her sister in law let a bunch of us know very quickly because she didn't want to speak to anyone but from what I got..........the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and he was born without a heart beat. He is currently on a respirator. That's all we know and I'm panicking. I know we have some Mom's out there in the health care industry or maybe who have had such experiences? I just wonder what the prognosis is. Does this baby have a good chance of making it or is this as bad as it sounds to me. I'm so worried about her and her new little baby. If you don't have anything you can share on this, please say a prayer!
Thank you all so much for the prayers and please keep them coming because as far as I know now he is not out of the woods though there has been progress. He is now 64% breathing on his own but his blood pressure is very high and he's not responding as well as they would have hoped at this point. Also, the medicin they put him on can affect the kidneys so they are hoping he begins to respond before this medicine begins affecting his kidneys. Please, please keep her and the baby in your prayers and I will post here again with updates. Thank you for all your kind words and when I get to talk to her I will pass along how everyone is rooting for her little boy.
I will definitely be praying for this baby and your friend and her family. I am a labor doula and it just depends. Some babies are ok, and unfortunately, some are not. Please, let us know what happens. I just said a prayer now and will continue to pray. I am so sorry to hear this. how scary. Let me know ok?
S. Bailey CLD
Aurora
www.tendermomentsdoula.com
Hi K.,
Your concern is understandable and we will definitely be praying for your friend and baby! Babies are VERY resilient and odds are her little one is going to be just fine.
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Don't have any info on this but she and her baby are in my prayers!
K.,
I just wanted to jump on the "you're a great friend" bandwagon. 3 years ago my son was born at 29 weeks, no heartbeat and he was not breathing at birth - it was a very scarry time for us (by the way, he's perfect now!). We lost a lot of friends through our 3 month NICU stay simply because people didn't know what to say and felt so uncomfortable that they just sort of layed low when we needed the love and support of our friends.
Be there for your friend. Make them dinner, drop off a book or magazines for them to read while in the hospital, do little things - even just a phone call to let them know that you are thinking about them and wondering if they need anything (even mention that you know that they are busy, so a return phone call isn't needed).
I will keep their baby in my prayers. Medical advances are so amazing these days, the doctors will do everything they can. I know nothing is for sure, but he certainly has a great chance of pulling through this with little or no complications. Please feel free to email me with any questions.
B.
Prayers are defiantly being said for both the mom and baby. I am a L&D nurse and not a special care nursery nurse, but I would have to say you would need all the facts to determine how bad the situation is. Things to find out is how long was the baby without a heartbeat, or did he have one but it was just very slow. There is a big difference. If his brain was not deprived of oxygen his prognosis should be pretty good. Look at the positive, God let him survive for a reason, we may not know what it is now but the mom will know someday. Just be a support person for the family when they are ready for it. I would maybe wait to see them in the hospital because they may all be a little overwhelmed right now. Plus if you are pregnant also, you don't need to be subjecting yourself to the thoughts that you are already probably thinking (which you shouldn't, this was an extreme case but totally normal to wonder.
I'm praying for your friend!
A.
Hi K.,
just wanted to say you are a good friend,they are hard to come by. I 'll also pray for this little baby. I have three and it must be hard not knowing and waiting.
Marion
The same thing happened to my son he is now 5. He was born at 36 weeks also had the cord wrapped around his neck 2x he was not breathing and was blue when he was born. Luckly they revived him and he was put on a respirator and was in the nicu for 10 days. The prognossis from my experience and from what I hear is very good. Although my son did suffer damage due to the lack of oxygyn. We didnt realize till he was 2 and he has been in therapy ever since. It has been a long road but he his a true blessing. I would have your friend keep an eye on him as he grows older and make sure he is meeting his milestones. I wish the best for the baby. Good Luck...
Hi! I didn't experence anything like that,but my mother did with my lil brother.He was supposed to be born at home,but she had difficulty. The cord was wrapped around his neck. When he came out he was considered a blue baby. He weighed 4lbs and was full term. He is now 22yrs old. He had health issues when he was small ,but he is bigger than I am. I would think that the hospitals are better equipped for these things now than back than. I hope your friend & baby pull through.
Your friend and her baby will most definitely be in my prayers..She is lucky to have someone who cares so much.
P.
my newphew was born 4 days apart from my daughter and he wwas about 5 weeks early!! he also had to have breathing tubes and he couldnt eat normal he had to eat through a tube for about a month but dont worry its almost 4 months later and he is home and doing great eating and breathing and kicking and playing i will say a prayer and just be there when she need you and needs someone to talk to maybe even about other things to get her mind off it!! try making heer laugh!!
Having an umbilical cord around the neck is very common- it happens in about 25% of all births. Usually it causes no problems at all. Hopefully it sounds worse than it is- about 10% of all babies need some help to transition at birth and about 1% of all babies need serious help. This is not many, but things like this do happen. I am Neonatal Rescusitation Certified and those are the stats from the AAP. I work in Labor and Delivery.
I hope things turn out well for your friend and her baby. Maybe you could call the hospital and just leave a message for her at the desk or quickly drop off some food or a gift for her. If she feels like talking she can invite you to visit.
Prayer said, twice and I will include more later! Post us on what happened!!
