J.W. asks from Southampton, PA on February 20, 2008
Won't Sleep in Crib
My 12 week old daughter got in the habit of sleeping in her car seat/bouncy seat/swing to help treat acid reflux without medicating her. Now she won't sleep in her crib. I have tried everything....from swaddling, to using a crib wedge to elevate her head. I have even put her in the car seat in the crib to get her used to the surroundings. Unfortunately, I have read too many books with too many differing opinions (none of which seem to help). If I put her in there while she is asleep, she wakes up screaming. If I put her in there while she is drowsy but not yet asleep, she ends up screaming too. I've tried to soothe her without picking her up, but it seems to make her angrier. Forget about letting her "cry it out"....that usually ends with her crying non-stop ALL day without any naps. The few times I've gotten her to sleep in the crib, she is awake within an hour and usually has bad gas (Did I mention she is colicky too?...she cries most nights from 6-9). I have used the same routine before every nap, and at bedtime since she was 6 weeks old. She fights the sleep fairy every time. I would love any suggestions, or at least to know that someone else has had the same problem to give me hope that it will get better.
So What Happened?™
I was totally against medicating my daughter. However, in a moment of desperation, I called her pediatrician and asked to have her put on zantac. 2 days later she started sleeping through the night...11 hours (in her carseat). A week later, I was able to put her to sleep in her crib at night without any fussing at all. She is a totally different baby. She rarely cries anymore, and is always smiling. I really thought her reflux was getting better because she wasn't spitting up so much, but she was really crying all the time because of the reflux. Had I known it was going to make such a dramatic difference, I would have done it sooner to save the both of us a lot of sleepless nights. By the way, the crib wedge is a totally useless invention....she just scooted off of it. I haven't tried putting her in the crib for naps yet...we are taking baby steps.
M.G. answers from Pittsburgh on February 21, 2008
My son would not sleep in the crib or bassinet either. He didn't have reflux issues, just didn't like laying flat. We tried everything, positioners, proping up etc - nothing really helped. I talked with the Ped. and he said to relax about it and let him sleep where he was comfortable & he'd come around the the bassinet. So, for about 2-3 months he slept in the swing, carseat - I called it the bucket, and bouncy seat - then one day he was fine in the bassinet.
The Ped. told me to help him get used to laying flat, since that is a new position that he isn't familiar with yet. I continued to play with him while laying him on his back on a comfy blanket and once in a while tried laying him down to sleep. I'd pick him up instead of "crying it out" that didn't work for me (1st time Mom) either. Just like the Ped said, one day he had gotten used to the new position & wimpered a bit and went to sleep. Good Luck!
C.M. answers from York on February 21, 2008
This sounds pretty normal to me I have 3 kids and none of them would sleep in their cribs until they were between 6-8 months. After a few sessions of crying it out they slept in there cribs okay but before that I spent all night trying to get them to sleep and then lay them down only to have them wake up as soon as they hit the matress. My first two were also very colicky so I was desperate to get them to sleep. I say do what works for now you can worry about getiing them into a routine of sleeping in the crib when they get a little older, it will get easier around 6-8 months. Don't feel bad I don't know anyone who hasn't had this problem and have either co-slept or used a swing in the beggining. I have a 5 month old who is still sleeping in the swing. Hope this helps.
T.S. answers from Pittsburgh on February 21, 2008
crying it out is not reccommend for babies under 4to6 months.
Theres a bed for babies with colic. Its quit pricy and I think its called the "amby?" try a google search or maybe someone else on here will know.
Also, did you read the book "the Happiest Baby on the Block"?
D.D. answers from Scranton on February 23, 2008
Acid reflux is very painful. As an adult, i suffer with this and there are many nights I can not sleep because of it. The primary issue is that when in a prone or fetal position there is less resistance to the acid coming up into the esophigus. sitting up is often the only answer. Consider getting of those sofa backs with the arms that looks like a chair without a seat and placeing it in the crib with her and sitting her up to sleep. Another point I see is the possibility of "mothers presence". Are you in the same room as her crib? Is she generally in the same room when in the bouncy seat or other devise? If so it is very possible that her sreaming is a result of her wanting you to take away the pain of the acid reflux and when you are not present, she feel unsafe and alone. This can actually manifest in a greater level of acid reflux as stress generates stomic acids. Aside from the couch back try placeing her crib in the same room as you are in. This willallow her to maintain at least some degree of comfort knowing you are present when she wakes.
Another possible solution to the acid itsself is to reduce the amount of milk, fruit juices, and other acid proiducing food sources from her diet. She is too young for medication so I am glad to see you are aware of this and have taken measures to avoid this solution. One possible source to INCREASE is unlevened breads, they contain no acid producing ingredients and absourb acids at the same time. prehaps a cracker or three half hour before bed will work. Patas are also a good solution. They have worked for me and many I have talked to that sufffer acid reflux. Its worth a shot
M.J. answers from Scranton on February 21, 2008
I feel your pain. My oldest Daughter was the pretty much the same way. The only way I made it thru it was holding her while she slept. Even at night. She would sleep with my husband and me, right next to me. I was a new mom and had no clue what to do. Nothing would work. I did what I had to do to get sleep and keep myself from going out of my mind. Once we were outside or out and about shopping she was just fine. It was only bedtime, nap time she would just going crazy. She would cry and cry all night unless I was holding her. I say do whatever it takes to help her and yourself.
As she gets older it will get better. Hope this helps.
D.G. answers from Reading on February 21, 2008
As a nurse I urge you to speak to your pediatrician about this. It is possible she still has acid reflux that you cannot see. She could be damaging her esophagus or have inflammation on the lower part of her esophagas. Either of which requires attention from a medical professional. Crying that long and not sleeping isn't normal or healthy for the baby.
Good luck and I pray you take this seriously,
V.P. answers from Philadelphia on March 03, 2008
hi, it seems you need to speak to a pediatricain about this problem....if allowing the baby to cry on a regular basis,knowing of course that nothing is wrong with your baby...and as mothers we can tell the difference between a baby's spoiled cry or the cry that something is really wrong cry...again i say if baby has been feed and changed, and it is either nape time or bed time,then i would suggest first to allow the baby to cry...old habits even with babies are hard to break...remember it took awhile for your baby to get use the first method of sleeping and i'm sure it will take equally as long to get use to another way...hang in there....if that fails see your pediatrician....
J.H. answers from Philadelphia on February 23, 2008
I created my own monster, 10 years ago, when i had a 30 week preemie, then they encouraged co-sleeping, well i am still co-sleeping, do yourself and your daughter a favor, and i mean this sincerely, let her cry it out, your not giving her enough time to "get it", and for the colic, my daughter drove me bonkers, i gave her alittle bit of mylacon drops, it helped her tremendously, administered prior to feedings, good luck. Do the right thing for all of you, let her cry. its you that it is driving crazy, she will be fine.....
C.H. answers from Altoona on February 20, 2008
Well, I am a 37 yrs SAHM of four great kids and my youngest at acid reflux when he was an infant but we ended up going with the meds after all else failed. We too did the swing, the car seat, etc. and since she is only 12 wks old, my advice is DO WHAT WORKS. If she isn't comfortable in the crib yet, then let her be. But eventually I know you will want to get her in her crib so my suggestions are two things . . . I am not a mom that believes in letting them cry it out - that only makes everyone frustrated beyond belief. Let her play in her crib, be with her more and more each day in her crib letting her know that it's OK to be in there. LOL. I also came across a neat little thing that you can attach to the crib and it will "rock" the crib. It's been a long time since my guys were little - the twins are now 8 so bare with me. But it seems to me that there was a gadget that you could attach to the crib and it would softly "rock" it. Perhaps she has gotten used to the rocking motion to fall asleep too or perhaps just the "snug" feeling of the swing and the car seat. If you have a Pack N Play or smaller play pen perhaps try letting her sleep in that. I was really lucky when it came to my kids when they were little, really didn't have too many issues but have had plenty of friends who did. Hope it helps. My last tid bit of advice is simply - don't give up and keep trying things til you find what works and be patient. As much as it feels like it will never end and she'll never sleep in her crib, she will. Hang in there. Good luck and god bless. Reeny
H.M. answers from Pittsburgh on February 21, 2008
Hi J.. My son was the same way. He would only sleep in his bouncy chair and/or swing. I started transitioning him to a bassinet with some soothing sounds and that seemed to work better. I think the crib seemed to big for him. At 3 months I didn't let him CIO either. I didn't start that until after 9 months. He also cried every evening from 5:30 -8 pm. It was horrible. I ended up buying a baby sling and would just wear him around the house, while making dinner, taking walks, etc. and it was much better! He is 13 months old and I still use the sling. I purchased it at www.slinglings.com and it was a lifesaver. I have bought one for all of my friends that have had kids after me.
As for the crib, I transitioned my son to his crib around 6 months for naps. I started out by putting his bassinet in his room next to the crib. Then moved him to the crib. Then after he was okay with naps I put him to bed in there. I hope this helps.
I'm moving to Bridgeport in March so I don't know anyone yet. I wish you luck finding something that works for you and your daughter.
M.R. answers from Philadelphia on February 21, 2008
Try buying a "Swaddle me" blanket. They make them in size large which would likely fit your 12 week old. This blanket made all the difference in the world for my daughter. She'll sleep anywhere now!