S.H. asks from Mountlake Terrace, WA on January 02, 2010
When Did You Potty Train Your Child?
My son KMH will be 2 in April. He's not interested in potty training yet. My son, DRH, was potty trained just before 3. I know each child is different, but with pressure from all sides of the family, I'm at my wits end with trying to explain to everyone he will use the potty when he's ready. I've done everything to get him interested. We tried the trainer potty, put the seat of the trainer onto the big boy potty, and nothing.
So, when did you potty train and how long did it finally take for your babies to become interested in the potty?
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So What Happened?™
Thank you to everyone for your words and stories of wisdom. I guess for me its different because MY mom bragged about how my brothers and I were all potty trained by 2 years old with hardly any accidents. My dad said everyday after we ate, my mom would just put us on the trainer with our cups and let us sit for however long it took to go potty. Now, I've tried that with KMH, but he's not in the slightest interested in just sitting there. He does however tell me when he is wet or if he's "booped" in his "baper".
But, all of your stories and words of encouragement have been very positive and extremely helpful. For those of you still fighting the good fight (potty training), keep at it. We will all get there when the babies are ready!
M.T. answers from Portland on January 03, 2010
It was around 3, give or take a few months. I didn't try until she showed interest in it first. One day she followed me to the potty and when I got through, she said, I want to go to the potty. I then pulled her diapers off and sat her on her potty and she went. When she did, I jumped up and down and acted like I was 12 and she laughed and laughed. Since then, she has always wanted to go and that is when it started. Now pooping on the potty has been a little bit of a difficult task and a little more training but it is getting better. She is 3 and 1/2 now.
B.W. answers from Seattle on January 03, 2010
Do you mean he is going to be 3 in April? Because if he is under 2, that is still very young to potty train. Also, most boys are trained closer to 3.
J.W. answers from Seattle on January 03, 2010
Okay, I've read so many potty training posts about children who aren't or won't potty train when they are 2, 3, some as old as 4. My kids were all trained by the time they were 2, completely. No time accidents either, unless they were sick. "Our" secret... first get a potty chair that sits on the floor. Introduce this as soon as they start walking. Have a few books in the bathroom for them to read while they do their business. Put all modesty aside and model the behavior you want to see, take them with you when you go to the bathroom. Yes, this means Dads and well as Moms and everyone is seated during their performances. This is how my parents trained all of us, and it worked beautifully for my kids. Next make sure that they can push their pants down easily, elastic waists, no buttons or zippers. Be prepared for heavy laundry for about a month or so, but it works. Reward them for their successes. Express disappointment if they ignore their bodies and don't get to the bathroom. Don't set them up for failure, before you leave to go anywhere, trip to the bathroom to empty their bladder and bowels. When you get to the mall, first stop is to the restroom. If they are dancing around in the store or restaurant, get them to the bathroom. You can't ignore them or wait until it's convienent for you. It's a now not later situation.
Kids love to emulate their parents, so give them the behavior to copy. You can teach good hygiene as well, by using a step stool for them to get up to the sink to wash their hands while you wash yours after you're finished.
I wish you well.
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I.G. answers from Seattle on January 02, 2010
My daughter started showing interest in the potty at about 1.5, but not enough to use it regularly, just a few times in the summer, while running around naked.
She is now a little over two and her interest fluctuates. She will sit on it a bunch but usually doesn't go - which is fine for me at this point.
There is no use pushing it, they won't be truly potty trained until they are developmentally ready anyways and that can be different between children.
Most of my nieces were potty trained by 3 and it took about a week (of course all children have the occasional accident afterwards). My youngest niece was 4 and it took her a long time to stay dry at night - her body just wasn't ready for that step yet.
Tell your relatives to back off and mind their own business.
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R.M. answers from Portland on January 02, 2010
I was a Nanny for many years and now I'm a parent coach. I've potty trained a lot of kids over the years, and this is what I've learned. Yes, children start potty training at very different times. Many boys won't start until 3.5 and be fully trained until 4.
You need to watch your son for signs. First, he will be dry for long periods of time. He will dislike his diaper, he will also know when he went in his diaper. Since he will have another child rollmodel, he will want to use the bathroom like Big Brother does.
Many family members and friends will try to force the issue, but honestly, if you force your son to train too soon it will be stressful for both of you. Just tell them you're waiting for his body to be ready. It's a process of his brain and muscles to work together, not laziness on either of your parts.
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H.B. answers from Portland on January 02, 2010
My daughter was fully trained around 3 years old (able to go on outings with undies and sleeping through the night). Each child IS different and they aren't going to be 16 and still pooping in their pants.
Just shrug it off if people think they know better than you how your child should be progressing.
2 years old is young to be fully trained. I think you are doing just fine if you are starting to introduce it and have it available, but don't pressure him to learn.
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G.R. answers from Spokane on January 02, 2010
Hi S. - Tell the family to let you do your job as a mom as each kid potty trains on their own schedule. I have 2 boys & both trained different. One took until he was 3 1/2 yrs old & still had an accident here & there. My youngest took longer but when he was ready it happened almost over night and he had no accidents. I am one of 6 kids & the girls did it faster & the boys a little slower. Many older generations (including my grandparents) said they had the kids trained way younger than it really was (our memory about these things gets distorted as we get older - my mom even told me this). Again previous generations kids had cloth diapers & many of them played all day outside without shorts (ok - disclaimer - my grandparents raised my parents in the mid-west on farms, so it was not like today living in close neighborhoods or apartments).
The biggest thing I can tell you is to tell the family to (politely) to back off, if they dont ask them if they would like to keep your son & do the potty training themselves (not likely but it might get them to shut up & think). Just relax & let their comments roll off your back, it will happen when the time is right for each kid. God Bless
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S.D. answers from Bellingham on January 04, 2010
With my one twin, he was fully potty trained when he was about a year and a half old. he would sit on the potty if he had an inclination...get up and something would be there....I introduced the potty seat at about a year when they could walk and sit. we would read or just sit...and make noises so that they knew...then if they wanted to watch me potty, I would get up and show them then say "yucky" and make the face and flush that way they knew that it was not for playing with. When they went with dad for the first time for three days, he kept them in diapers and they reverted back to needing to train again. now the one twin is 9 and still has night time issues...but has gone through emotional stages where he was trained well, then not at all...peeing in kindergarten and not wanting to go to the bathroom. He finally got tired of having to change pants and be embarrassed in school and now he deals with waking up wet. He is a hard sleeper and we have tried all things in prevention or cure...he just wakes up and deals with it alone now...and it is getting fewer and farther in between. some folks have way better luck and it happens much sooner. What ever happens for you, I wish you patience. this is my story, the other twin trained and just got it over with at 4 and was done. He has no problems. It is also typical for children to revert back and forth for a while at these ages...
A.W. answers from Seattle on January 03, 2010
Don't let people give you pressure. It takes time and each child is different. I started "prepping" for training around 22 months, but my daughter didn't show true interest until about 26 months and has been fully day time trained about 3 to 4 months after we started. She just turned 3 in November and we are still not night time trained. I thought we were but then we weren't. I am not worried much about that. I think closer to 3 to 3 1/2 is a normal age for most children to be potty trained. Or at least that is what I have read. Each kid is very very different. If people keep asking, just ignore them. I don't know why everyone is in such a rush for kids to grow up.
A.B. answers from Eugene on January 03, 2010
You need to keep reminding yourself, like you said, that each child is different. My friend and I used to tell each other all the time "they're not going to go to kindergarten with diapers on... it will happen in time!" It seems that pediatricians are even recommending these days to introduce the potty around 18 months with seems ridiculous to me. My son had absolutely NO interest in the darn thing until he was about 2. And even then, he didn't GO on the potty until he was around 2 1/2. We let him go at his own pace. We'd offer the potty even though he was in diapers. If his diaper was dry and he actually went potty, we'd reward him. This system went on for a good couple of months and eventually we were noticing that his diaper was always dry when he went potty. That was when we put him in big boy pants. He was fully trained at about 2 months before his 3rd birthday. I had to keep telling myself that it would happen when he was ready. As a parent, we have an awesome ability to know what's best for our children. So keep it up... offer it to him (before bathtime seemed to be the best time to offer for our son) and don't push it. You're doing great! :)