Hi Everyone!
So my husband and I are torn over what we're going to do. He has a reunion for his military unit in June in Vegas but it just happens to be the same weekend for my daughter's dance recital. I use that term loosely because she's 3 and we basically watch them go through a few songs, no chorography but it's still cute. This is also the last time she will have this dance teacher as she is graduating college and moving back home.
We have thought of my husband going ahead on that Friday and me following with the girls on Saturday night. I don't have a problem with him going early but we also have a 4 month old little girl. He's willing to take just her the night before but I'm still breastfeeding so that wouldn't work. I just don't think I would be able to handle a 3 year old and 4 month old on a flight. What if someone has to go to the bathroom on the plane? Those bathrooms are so small, I can't fit everyone inside and I can't leave anyone alone! Also 6-8 hours of flying with two little ones may prove that I'm not superwoman.
Do we miss the dance class and go on vacation because she will undoubtedly be in dance class a million more times or do I chance what could be a disaster of flying with two kids so she doesn't miss out?
Hubby has offered to go late but then he would basically miss the whole weekend and this only happens every 10 years.
What would you do?
Thanks!
Thank you all for your responses! I should have done this earlier, less guilt and ticket prices might have been cheaper!
I told my daughter last night that we would be going to Las Vegas (one of her friends lives there), driving to Nana's and all the other fun things we're going to do. You were all right, she was excited and dance class wasn't even mentioned. :-)
As always, you girls are the best! THANKS!
If it was my daughter i know she would much rather go on a plane than do the dance she is only 3 if you dont mention it she probably wont realise.
I think that your husband should go early and take your 4 month old with him. He can take frozen milk and bottles with him. You can take a pump with you. There are family bathrooms that will give you some privacy and will help keep your daughter contained as you pump.
It would be cool if your daughter could go to her recital, but really, she'll be okay if she misses it. If you and she really want to stay for it, trust your husband with your daughter and just go a little later.
I'd skip the dance recital. Your daughter probably doesn't really have any true idea of what she'll be missing, so it's no big disappointment for her, and that would be my biggest concern with my child. I'd go have a wonderful time with you husband and family.
Many, many more years of dance recitals to come!
Kristal,
Skip the recital, Tell the teacher about it and see if she will let you come in to a rehearsal and video it. It will be similar to their recital, your daughter will remember it and you really wont be missing out on it too much. And you are right, she will have many more times to be dancing and preforming:) It sounds like you know what you think you should do, I would go with the decision that makes you feel the most at ease.
Good luck
E.
Go with your Hubby to his reunion!!!
This is something special and important that only happens once in 10 years. People will literally die before the next one, and your hubby isn't 3... he'll remember this reunion for the rest of his life. You'll have hundreds of photo ops over the next 10 years. Guaranteed. 15 minutes in a pretty dress... versus once every 10 years.
I would ask someone else to come along to help such as my step daughter or mother in law.
Skip the dance recital momma! Video the rehearsal for sure! Go with your family together!! Have fun!
I would just skip the dance recital! At her age, you'll most likely miss something "cute" but if you're sitting there instead of Vegas, you'll probably be asking yourself why you did that!
He could take bottles and frozen packs of pumped milk to feed your 4 month old if you want to stay and join him later.
I would skip the dance recital. As you said, she is only 3 and will have many more recitals to attend in her childhood. Sounds like it would be a huge pain for you to try to fly on your own with the kids. Doesn't sound like it is worth it.
You know your child best but I would say that it is probably not going to upset her for too long (if it bothers her at all) to miss the recital. As you said, if she stays in dance, she will have many more. You need to balance the needs of your WHOLE family and it seems that in this case, it is extremely inconvenient to arrange the whole weekend around the recital. Maybe you and she can make a small gift for her dance teacher and find a time for your daughter to present the gift and say goodbye.
Hope the weekend ends up being a great time no matter what you decide!
