Wanting a Second Child :)

Go for it! It will always be too hard or too soon! LOL If we wait for the perfect time to have a child, there will be very few children in this world!

That's a very personal decision. My daughter is 20 months now and I since she is born I have gone in waves of whether or not I want another one. For us it was the best decision to wait. I think we may even wait until she is 3 to start trying again. I like that I have been able to focus on her and give her my time and attention she deserves.

My sister-in-law had her's two years apart and she says its hard. When they are still little it can be very difficult and draining for you. Is your son sleeping through the night regularly? If not think about how it would be if you had to get up with a newborn and him. How if you did have a rough night with one child and the other one wakes up early you can't sleep in. Also finances. Just some thoughts. :) I know a lot of moms that do it, just make sure you're really ready and your husband too. Good luck to you!

I have a lot of friends that chose the age gap you are looking at for their kids. We had our first two at 6 years apart and the last three at 2 years apart. I must say my favorite was the 6 year gap for a few reasons:

- I was able to spend one on one time with the oldest until he went to school full time

- The younger one was born when the older one started school full time so I was able to have the one on one time with the younger one too.

- The older one was able to help a lot with the baby

- I didn't have two in diapers

- The older one was able to be a good example to the younger one

With three younger ones there were ups and downs but overall I found it more difficult for the following reasons:

- They fight more

- I had two in diapers a couple of times

- I was pulled more directions, when kids are young they do not understand patience or care too.

- They pick up a lot bad habits from each other and are not necessarily old enough to understand

- Feels like they gang up on you but really they are just little and want what they want.

- Explaining things to them does not work so well so you have a hard time keeping the peace.

In short, I wouldn't change any of it for the world. If you want children, just do it. They are the most wonderful thing in my life! I had an easier time with a larger age gap but really don't care that much, they are fantastic no matter when you have them!!

Good luck to you.

I think this is definitely the stage when I first started wanting another. Your "baby" isn't so much a baby anymore, and I began to get baby fever. I let it pass though, and we are finally pregnant with number 2 (my son is now 4). Ideally, I would have loved to have another around the time he was 3. It is definitely a personal decision though...I cannot imagine having two kids in two years, but that's just me. My sister and I are 18 months apart, and my parents survived! My best suggestion is to wait another few months and see if the feeling is still as strong. I know lots of moms who want another around that age, wait until the "baby" is a little older, and decide to wait. Good luck!

It isn't the age of the child. It's the maturity of the person or people having the child if you two are already thinking about baby number two then you are ready to have you second child.

It is much easier when the child is a bit older. It is not all that harder with two that way. The older ones like 5 and up like to help too. I have heard that having them close can sometimes be easier though depending on how much attention you can give each of them. Or it could be harder if they both want mommy time at the same time all the time.

For us...I am waiting until this one is done with potty training...then we will see.

Will it be too hard? This depends on the person. I know a couple who have a boy who is 20 months and a girl who is three weeks old. They handle it with grace and more patience than needed; they are amazing! Then I know a couple who has one kid and can barely handle that one kid. My daughter is 28 months old and my son is 6 weeks. We had them close together because we both have siblings who are within 2 years of us and we wanted that for our children. The last six weeks have been stressfull but once the kinks are worked out it is wonderful. We had our daughter bottle broke at 14 months and potty trained at 24 so all the "baby" was out of her by the time our son came and she has not reverted back which was nice. I know myself, I would not want two in diapers but that is just me, if you think you and your husband can handle it then start to try. I believe God gives us these little gifts of children so when He beleives you are ready he will bless you with another one; could be next month or could be in 10 months.
Good Luck!

I think you should look at you household finances and calculate if you can afford 2 children in diapers (plus the cost of formula?) simultaneously. Diapers and formula are expensive, and money pressures can really strain a marriage.

I would also suggest that you wait 6 months before you decide... Because, right now your 10 month old is barely mobile. Wait until your current baby no longer stays in one place--and then picture yourself running after a toddler and trying to entertain/discipline a toddler while juggling the demands of an newborn--all while feeling sleep deprived for the first year! It's definitely a handful.

Many, many women do juggle multiple children under the age of 3 at the sometime. But it could definitely stress your patience, finances and marital relationship. So my advice is just think it through beforehand.

I had two kids within 2 years. I didn't mean for it to happen but it wasn't that bad. The potty training and stuff like that will feel like forever simply because as soon as one is ending that the other one is beginning.

Your older one might actually behavior better with a new baby around as kids that age love to look at and help with babies. So the terrible twos won't seem so bad with the first one.

It's different for everyone, but if you think you're ready, then go for it. We had twins, so we didn't have a say in how close in age our first and second children would be. :) Everything worked out perfectly for us!

It will be hard, but I would do it now to "get it over with." Plus, they will be close in age, which will be nice for them. Happy baby-making!