It took ONE time to get pregnant with my daughter... now we want a second child and we have been trying for 6 months with no luck :/ Has anyone else had this problem?
You're trying too hard. Stop trying. Go on vacation. Drink some wine. Have some fun. You weren't taking care of a toddler the first time around. Regular life is stressful with a child. Plus, trying to conceive and thinking "Why aren't I pregnant yet?" on top of that...
Stress, trying too hard, timing off, health, chasing after a kid these all affect how you conceive.
Stop worrying and go away for a weekend. Let the grands have fun with the baby. Get good and drunk and enjoy each other for just the two of you.
When it is time it will happen. Six months is a short time in the scheme of things to make a baby.
the other S.
Doctors usually recommend trying for at least a year before even considering fertility tests, etc.
You could try using ovulation tests, but I agree with Doris-- the emphasis on 'sex for the sake of making a baby' may be stressing you out. Maybe decide to take a break for a couple of months (meaning, don't worry about 'when' in your cycle you are doing it, just have sex for the joy and pleasure of being together) and see if that helps.
(I'm not one to ask if I can 'relate', necessarily-- I had years upon years of miscarriages before getting pregnant with my son.... but we DID get pregnant-- not trying-- and had a healthy kiddo, so don't be surprised. I know a LOT of women who had a tougher time attaining a second and third viable pregnancy.... it is very, very common. )
I used babycenter.com for their ovulation calendar and it helped us.
Convince yourself that it will happen *only* when the time is right. I tried-tried-tried for three solid years. Every. Single. Month. Sure enough, I got pregnant the month after I gave up. Just have fun, don't wear yourself out, and "play" a little before ovulation as well. Good luck.
My first three pregnancies all happened immediately, with one attempt. My last pregnancy took some time. I think it had to do with my stress and anxiety. As soon as I started drinking lots of wine and just have good sex, I got pregnant.
What birth control were you on after baby #1?
I was on a pill before baby #1 and #2. I stopped taking the pill, and was pregnant within 3 months. After #2, I got on Depo. I took THAT for 4 years. After hubby and I decided we DID want another, it took us two years to conceive. Depo seriously messes up your hormones.
I'm due at the end of May.
Added: We had BOTH given up and decided that even if we WANTED a third, maybe we weren't going to get that third child after all, since it was taking me so long to get pregnant. As soon as we both threw our hands up and said "to hell with it" I got pregnant.
Keep trying. Six months is really not that long. I tried for six years, went through failed fertility treatments, then got pregnant on my own at the age of 44 by surprise after I gave up.
My best advice is to eat lots of cruciferous vegetables (i.e. broccoli, cauliflower, greens, cabbage). These are known to help regulate hormones. Also, if you exercise, only do moderate exercise. If you gained weight after your first pregnancy, get back to a normal weight BEFORE trying to conceive because bodies don't like to get pregnant while weight is declining. Try to get lots of sunshine and let it actually hit your eye...this actually helps regulate ovulation.
I don't know your age, but it does take longer the older you get...even if you're not "infertile".
It took us a while with baby #2. I changed my diet to something healthier and went to the Dollar Tree and bought a ton of ovulation tests. The second month of using the ovulation tests I got pregnant.
