R.C. asks from Elburn, IL on March 29, 2009
Tantrums - Macomb,IL
Help... My daughter is almost 17 months and has been throwing fits. Shes not teething and is not talking yet. But when she is told no or isn't allowed to do something she just screams. She will also scream and cry if she doesn't get her way. I know this is a normal phase, but what is the best way to deal with it.
I hate that she screams and cries. I have heard to just ignore it and she will stop, but I am not sure if that's the best way to do things. Please help!!!
What is the best way to deal with screaming fits when I am not completely sure why she is upset. I always try to figure it out, and make sure she isn't hurt before I try to deal with it.
I have tried talking with her, and telling her that there is no need to cry. I am not sure she understands what I am saying.
How can I help her through being upset?
S.S. answers from Chicago on March 30, 2009
Good luck! I have an 18 month old boy who has been throwing tantrums since he was around 16 months...and they just keep getting longer and louder..I have noticed that when we ignore him he tends to get over them quicker. Time outs at that age just seem a little too much because they are still too little to understand what is happening. And I dont know about yours but there is no way my tough guy will stay still for even a few seconds. I feel ya..its really hard when they cant tell you or express their needs to you. Good Luck! :)
A.D. answers from Chicago on March 29, 2009
I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do, but I always try to ignore it. I'll say, no screaming, or stop crying and walk away. Once she is done with the tantrum, I will go over and hug her and give her attention. I don't try to talk to her until the screaming stops. It's working for us-the tantrums are getting much less frequent.
D.G. answers from Chicago on March 30, 2009
My 17 1/2 mos. old has her share of tantrums also, with no real reason for them. I have to agree with the other posts, we just ignore them & they have become less frequent. We have tried the "time out" method, and shes just tooo young to stay put for even a few minutes. Giving into them is definitely not the answer. Good luck & I'm right there with ya! :)
M.R. answers from Chicago on March 29, 2009
Ignore it. By continuing to draw attention to her antics, you give her an audience. She knows the tantrum is drawing attention, thus it will continue. Our son started doing this around 16 months and we just flat out ignored it. He learned that his tantrum garnered no reaction from us and guess what? They stopped! He knew we weren't going to react to them.