I'm a school teacher who has taught Pre-K through 8th, including students with disabilities. When presenting any math concept make it relevant, teach it in a story form. There we're 4 Barbies, Littlest Pet Shop animals, candies (use manipulatives she would be playing with anyway), then make the concept real...two of the toys decided to go to...fill in with a preferred activity of her choice...ask her how many would be left? Hmmm, what do you think? Let's see what it would look like on paper, dry erase board, mini chalk board, (you get what I mean)...model the answer 4-2=, you write the answer. Mommy you just modeled a lesson for her, next is guided practice, guide her through another equation, don't forget to use the "toys" (manipulatives), finally you have her try it on her own independent practice. You might want to tell her that the sub. symbol is by itself and when it's time to add you need to add another (vertical) line to make the numbers add instead of subtract. Remember make it relevant to "her" world not yours, forget about writing until you see her comfortable with the concept itself while using the toys to model the equation, and finally assess her knowledge by having her try the equation on her own. You can do it Mom!
Good luck!!!
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