Okay, this is a little weird...
My 2 1/2 yo son is daytime potty trained as far as peeing in the potty, but he has resisted pooping in the potty. Yeah, I hear that's fairly normal. But now, when he poops, he goes up to his room, dumps everything on the carpet and takes his feet and grinds it into the carpet. I've already had Stanley Steemer out once to "fumigate and scrub" at $99 a pop; I can't afford to do this everytime he does it. Any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated.
My son did pretty much the same thing but instead of the carpet it was the walls in his room. I put a door knob cover on his door so when i heard him crying to go into his room i pretty much knew what he was going to do. If we didn't make it to the potty in time i would dump his pullup into the potty to show him where it was supposed to go. It took time and patience but he finally learned he was supposed to poop in the potty.
well, at least you know he KNOWS when he has to go...
and you know he KNOWS it's wrong to poo on the floor, or else he would not be trying to hide it by grinding it in (kids can be so gross)...
so...
have you tried some really big bribes? i'm so not a fan of bribery, but desperate times call for desperate measures. it was the ONLY thing that got us through potty training.
find something he really wants (Or take away his favorite toy), show it to him, tell him it's for big boys, let him know big boys poo on the potty, and he can have it back after he does that!
Patience & prayer hon.... Patience & Prayer.... At 2 1/2 he should never be out of your sight during this learning process. Don't worry or stress over it, just keep him in your sights.....Do you keep shorts or pants on him at all times? This might help.... Good luck to you. (This to shall pass-lol Sorry I just had to say that)
I think you'll need to supervise him constantly. Think back to when he was a baby that just started crawling. You were always aware of where the baby was and what he was doing.
This sounds more like a discipline issue than pooping in the potty issue. I think consistent discipline in all areas will help with this. Tell him if you do A, then B will happen as punishment. Always follow through. Make sure all his caregivers know what's going on.
Good luck.
i'd pose the possibility that - at your confession of being a newly single mom - he's demonstrating his pain, fear and anger at loosing his family. in his eyes, it looks like he lost one parent, and the fear/danger of loosing the other parent is very real to him.
spend your time cuddling him, talking to him, let him know that you and your husband (each of which HAVE to) reassure him by taking him, speaking to him and kissing/hugging/cuddling him that you both love him forever and ever, and spend every single moment you've got assuring him that HE HAD NOTHING TO DO WTIH IT! he's not a bad boy - which is a typical for children of divorce.
i'd be very intersted in how this approach impacts his reactions.
bless you, bless your baby boy, and i pray that you and your husband can get it together to have a civil relationship - your son NEEDS that.
im also potty training. my daughter is 2.5..she has her moments.
when she has an accident, i make her clean herself and wherever she went up.
yeah i know that accidents will happen. and it is a process. dont get me wrong, me and my hubby encourage her every single chance we get. and she gets rewarded.
but as for the stanley steamer, id just go to walmart and buy a steam cleaner myself..you'd save yourself money that way and you dont have to wait for someone to come out
No advice to give but my son would do something similar. He would hide the poop (usually under a towel) and when i found it would say the dog did it! Thank goodness he outgrew it. I never knew where I would find it!
I've never dealt with this particular one, as I'm potty training my first right now, but if it were me, my daughter would get into the biggest trouble she's ever been in if she did that. Can you scare him into not doing it anymore? I'm not a spanker, but I do reserve the right for one every now and then for serious (and gross) offenses!! Good luck!
DON'T LET HIM OUT OF YOUR SIGHT!!!
Seriously, I don't know what I would do in your position. I hope I'm never there. Some thoughts: I would definitely have a sit-down, eye-to-eye heart to heart with the kid. Remind him how yucky poopy is and how nice it is to be able to flush it down the potty. Remind him how sad and grossed out you felt when you had to clean up the carpet. Positive encouragement -- going potty is fun!!! Show him that poop goes in the potty. Put his poop from his pull-ups in the potty and flush it down together. Watch it go down and wave goodbye, "Bye-bye poopy!" Reinforce where poop belongs constantly.
Tell him to get you for this, dealing with his poop when it's in his pants is your job: not his!
And I would not be above punishment for disobeying mom. If he does the poop in the carpet thing again -- after you've clearly explained how he should respond when he has dirty pants -- a time out and a talking-to would be WAY justified.
B.,
This sounds like a sensory issue. It seems he likes the feel and smell of the stuff. I would talk to the doctor sooner rather than later and get some suggestions on other ways for your son to get his sensory input. Sometimes kids do this type of thing. Check out info on the web about sensory disorders etc. This may be "normal", but it is worth asking the doc and taking a look for yourself!
Good luck -- I know this must be very frustrating for you!
hmm, good luck! My forst thought is to take the rug out of his room, telling him it's not time for him to have a rug right now...it'll be back when he's ready (he'll know what you mean!).
Second, think of a good reward for him either putting the poopie into the toilet or NOT putting it on the carpet/floor! Our two year old would only poop in his diaper, so we told him he would get Smarties and chocolate milk when he poops on the potty. We're on our third bag od Smarties, but he hasn't needed a diaper in over two months., and he gets so excited when he poops on the potty! Choose something that's okay for him to have any time of day. You could also remove something he likes when he does mess the floor, like no video before bed or something else fairly inconsequential so you won't cave when you feel bad for deniying him. Stick to it and he will change his ways!
M.
I'm in the process of training my 5th child. Each one is different. But maybe instead of having a potty seat you get a potty seat that goes on the toilet. That way it would be harder or not possible for him to get to it after he did it. You could also show him how to flush it and explain that that is the proper way to get rid of it.
T.
