R.J. asks from Seattle, WA on February 13, 2010
Possible Relocation to Kauai
My DH was just asked to come interview (at their expense, after initial phone interviews he kept to himself) with the DoD in Kauai, which means he's at least 75% probable on getting a written offer. The money would be the same, but they would pay at least for the move out there (in military fashion... movers and the like... god I love movers). Note to self: do they pay your way back?
I'm very torn. I know nothing of Kauai (although I've lived on small islands before for several years, and really really enjoyed it), & have only been to Hawaii itself once (Oahu, LOVED it, Maui, and Hawaii). In all my travels, Hawaii was the only place I ever felt generally unwelcome (I would be irritated by all the tourists, too, so I get that, especially with as OBNOXIOUS as most of the tourists seemed to be, at least while we were there)... but don't know if the general hostility would extend, lessen, or be made worse by someone moving there. Especially by someone moving there via the military/DoD (DH would be a civilian contractor). Oy. One of my best friends (here) is 4th gen native to Oahu (japanese though), and his family is on that island... but it would be a whole other island. Which means I don't know if that would help or not.
On top of everything we just bought our little fix'er'up starter house a year ago. Which we couldn't sell, but could possibly lease. Probably for not as much as our mortgage. The DoD doesn't pay for housing to the best of my knowledge, so we'd be looking at some kind of rental.
Oy. I'm just a bundle of nerves. DH will be going to the interview regardless, but I'm just at a loss. If we can work out all the logistical details I think it could be an amazing opportunity, but I just feel blindsided... so as I'm starting my research I figured I might plumb the wealth of you mama's here :) :) :)
Anyone from any of the islands or Kauai specifically have any insight? Newcomers? Housing? (School isn't an issue, because we homeschool). Interisland travel? Snow? (I know, odd question, but kiddo has become addicted to snowboarding). I'm also in the middle of my degrees... I know UofH is on the BigIsland... are there branch campuses on other islands?
Thanks!! (A bit dizzy here),
R
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C.A. answers from Los Angeles on February 14, 2010
My husband also works for the gov. Your husband should get paid a diff amount in Hawaii than he would in Tex. there are cost of living adj.s. just an FYI.
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S.R. answers from Los Angeles on February 16, 2010
What sticks out to me, is the fact that you will not be able to cover the mortgage of your current home by leasing it out while youre gone. You are willing to move overseas for the same amount of money, to a place where the cost of living is possibly higher (according to what others said here) and still support a mortgage back home? Guess it depends on how much of your mortgage could you get covered by renters...
This part of your dilemma hits home for me because for the last 3 years we have leased the condo we owned in San Diego. In the mean time we rented in LA (while my husband attended school). Our tenants covered MORE than enough of our mortgage and HOA payment (we got about $500 extra a month from them in fact). We still lost money or barely broke even most of the time, when you factor in the repairs, painting, carpet cleaning, new appliances when they break down, general upkeep of the place and all the little things you become responsible for when you become "landlords". We did not use a property management company because we wanted to save money there, so we had to handle every little call about the toilet being stopped up or whatever (from two hours away in LA, by the way). It was a major hassle, I am not cut out to be a landlord and am so glad that part of our lives is over for us (we just sold the place so we can settle down here and buy something in LA).
Just another perspective I thought I'd throw in there, think about what you would be getting into if you rent your home out while you are overseas. Lots of logistics there, the wear and tear on the place by the time you move back in, the fact you can't even rent it out for a high enough rate to cover your own payments on it... you better hope you get reliable rent-payers who take care of their own little reapirs, keep the place nice, and don't complain much.
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P.U. answers from San Diego on February 15, 2010
O.K. - I'm a bit dizzy now! What is the amazing opportunity? All I saw were a bunch of reasons not to move....?? Why would anyone uproot their family for no pay increase? Just got into your own home here & you want to lease it to strangers & move for no particular reason.....hmmmm, no wonder you are feeling dizzy! Why don't you find out if they pay for the move back. Why not find out how the housing costs compare to here. You may find out you will pay in the long run just to live there. Most people consider moves either because they have to (military or job), financial opportunity, moving closer to family, education,......??? How many kids do you have, what are their ages, how will this affect them? Good luck.
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M.C. answers from Honolulu on February 14, 2010
We moved to Maui 6 years ago. Both DH and I had corporate jobs, the 1-hour commute and a baby girl. We moved out here and my husband started working as a Title Rep for an Escrow and Title Company and I stayed home. It is a definite adjustment, esp. moving from So. Cal, as we did. One note, my husband is asian, and I am a "haole" (or white as the driven snow). After bouncing around a few rentals we settled in a very local neighborhood. The neighbors were all very inviting and warm to us. I think you just have to establish residency and make an effort to get involved in the community and then you won't be a tourist. They may never speak "pidgin" with you - which is the local slang way of talking, but you will probably be invited to their baby luaus and neighborhood celebrations of chinese new year.
Now, I can see how the tourists just don't get the island way of living, but I always talk to them and thank them for coming (after all, it is the tourists who enable us to live here and keep the economy going). It is just really, really slow here.
If you live in southern california, the housing is probably going to be pretty similar in terms of cost, the food cost as well. The food selection, however is really mediocre. Look for fresh, locally grown farmers markets and get a Costco membership. Don't even bother to eat out because it is way too pricey and often disappointing.
Interisland travel used to be a breeze, but it is now almost as expensive as flying to the mainland. Don't count on seeing your friends too often. Also, you are very, very far from everywhere. The Hawaiian Islands are the most isolated place on earth. Check the globe.
There may be a small branch of UH on Kauai, but nothing you'd get a degree from.
After living here for 6 years, I can honestly say we will be here for a very long time. We travel every year to see our families on the East Coast, and so far, my folks and my husbands mom have been out to visit us every winter. Our kids are both in private school, and we are building our lives and business here. I hope that my children will choose to go to college and also settle on the mainland or even other countries, because the Hawaiian world view is very small, but time will tell on that one. Many people said that we were crazy to leave the stability of corporate america and fly off to a crazy island like Maui, but you have a pretty low-risk adventure if your husband can secure a job here. I say go for it... It does not have to be the last move that you ever make!! And, your son will probably enjoy surfing as much as snowboarding!!
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C.P. answers from San Diego on February 15, 2010
ok, big deep breath and sit back and say to yourself "am I really complaining about possibly moving to hawaii for a while". really?
D.W. answers from Los Angeles on February 14, 2010
Hey, R.: Kauai is a wonderful island, in fact, my favorite. I've visited it multiple times during the past 7 or 8 years and also looked at moving there.
I also applied for a job there last year but didn't get it.
The people there are very friendly, possibly because there aren't as many tourists on the part of the island where I was--Poipu Beach. Where are you going to be located?
I also have a friend from 8th grade (!) who has lived there many years, raised her children there, etc. and loves it. I know there's a lot of development on the other side of the island, so perhaps things are different there.
I think it could be a great opportunity for you and your family to live in a very fun, relaxed environment for however long you stay.
I'm not sure where the other colleges are, other than UoH, so hopefully someone else knows that.
Also, if you do go & want to lease your home, look at my Web site, www.thedealfairy.com because we help people get their house ready to sell or lease. Or call & I can give you some help.
Good luck and stay in touch--I'm jealous!
D.
H.H. answers from Honolulu on February 14, 2010
Aloha! Kauai is a beautiful island, north of Oahu. There is no snow there. The only place that has snow in the state of HI is the island of Hawaii, also known as the Big Island. Kauai is a laid-back place, where there are many locals who would welcome anyone, as long as you respect the people and the land. The "touristy" areas are more developed, but most of the island is very "country" with no fences between properties and chickens roaming the streets. Kauai has a community college, as the four main islands do, but not a large university. The main University of Hawaii is on Oahu, with its Hilo campus on the Big Island. Interisland travel from Kauai to Oahu varies, right now it's around $80 one way. Like you said, this is a great opportunity for you. However, living in the islands can be expensive. If you can make it work, I think you will enjoy your experience here.
Good luck to you and your family!
W.F. answers from Los Angeles on February 16, 2010
Hi R.,
A couple friends of mine have just returned from the islands, they lived there for 9 mo.s.
Per their experience .. things are EXPENSIVE, it's beautiful, it gets old after awhile - you ARE on an island, a pretty small island, locals are friendly once they see you're there for awhile, not some dingy tourist, it's BEAUTIFUL.
I'm a DoD employee, and they SHOULD be paying some sort of housing allowance .. make sure of that before he accepts, because as I did say before, it is EXPENSIVE to live there.
Hey, I'm going to Sicily .. Husband is military .. we're both getting ready for some wonderful adventures!!!
Luck to you!
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