my daughter goes to a pre-school, that likes to take pictures of what the kids are doing, and mass emails them to all the parents on a group email. When we pre-register we are to sign an agreement if we want our kids pictures taken, or distributed as the school sees or deems ok. So it was my understanding if you don't want your kids in the photos you don't sign the paper, and they cant send them or print them or anything. So the question is. I SIGNED the paper, and I don't mind them in the pics. I like seeing them. I like to download them and keep them for myself. I don't care if other kids are in them. They are their friends, so its relative. However, I posted a couple on my facebook page for various family reasons. Now I see there is a note going around and disclaimers, that there are parents not wanting some of their children on social pages. They do not want the pictures taken at school to get onto the internet. Is that fair? so now I don't get to share MY kids photos, because someone else WHO DID sign this disclaimer, doesn't like it? I will honor the request. I don't think its fair. In all respect, if I signed the sheet, I know that there is a possibility that my kid will be on a flyer, or a magazine, or a social sight or website. Thats ok. I am OK with that. I don't think the same people who are asking this, would have an issue about their child in an advertisement for the school or be featured in the website as the student of the month. So, I am bummed a little. What do you think?
Guess what I didnt make clear is that other kids photos are on the Preschool facebook page and public website as well as part as advertising. Right along with my kids. As well as the pre-school graduation where they all lined up for a photo opportunity for the parents as well as the school photographer. I didnt have my camera there that day. So I used the ones that they MASS email to everyone at that school. NOT to mention the ones they plaster all over the halls of the Senior living facility where the school is. For all their families, employees, care takers, doctors, delivery, maintenance and all that. So the other thing is.. I cant take pictures of my kids at the functions? then I cant post that? seems a little too nit picky to me. Nobody reported me, nobody is after me. They sent a note along with kids to anyone. I am not the paranoid type so thats why I didnt think it was wrong. Since they are plastered everywhere else as well as a directory is sent home with names, numbers, adresses, emails and pictures. I guess that no one can accidently lose that on the street and the nearest bad guy cant pick it up and make naughtiness with it.
I think the part I am having the hard time with, is that its not the school requesting me not to use the pics, but that parents are asking not to share them a on public website. I can understand the hysteria, the want to be private and the need to be protective of kids. I dont put my kids images out there for anyone to grab, but if they are taken, they can be exploited at any time and any where. There are bad people with bad intentions everywhere. If they want your kid, they will do anything and social sites are just one place. I dont think they are any worse that a Brochure for advertisement being placed in a grocery store bulletin with my kids face plastered on it. What about all those cute jokes, with pictures of real kids and captions, done on Paint, or some altering site? did anyone get permission to distribute those? do those parents get royalty. As I said before I am respecting the wish, I have taken anything i took from the emails, off my walls, and I did what JO said. I blobbed there faces. Which is ridiculous. They are my kids friends. Just a question for those who post family photos on facebook, do you ask everyone in the background of your vacation photos, if its ok to post them in a social site?
Picture Karma, hmmm interesting. I guess a few of you didnt read the part where i agreed to stop and have already gone back and fixed the problem ones, I guess i am curious to see what photo karma does to me in the end.
For those that are saying there are at risk children that shouldn't be posted. Then if they are that at risk, and should never be photographed in fear of being found, Why are the parents saying its ok, FOR THE SCHOOL to post the pics on there websites. It just doesn't make much sense to me. its ok for them to make it public but not me. I know I know I get it, they don't know me or my huge, perverted, Pedophile family. Last year at the same school we had a situation like this, and it was made clear immediately that no one was to photograph her, or speak about her. First name basis only with this child. EVERYONE was compliant and we all pitched in to help her foster/eventually adoptive mother in this situation.
If they don't want their kids faces on social media sites, you've gotta respect that. You could try to crop their kids out ...
Our LO is a foster-adopt situation and I don't want pics of LO on ANY open social media site EVER. While the kids are in foster care, we're not allowed to post them openly; we'll be maintaining that after adoption, as bio parents have violence tendencies and I don't want him exposed. I would be one of those parents and be really upset if someone else were posting pics of my kid. Please try to see their side of the situation; it's possible some of these kids come from environments that having their pics "in the open" opens them up to dangers you may not be aware of. Best wishes.
I would not be OK with my kids pictures being posted on someone else's Facebook account. You didn't mean it maliciously, so don't worry, but yeah - stop posting pictures of other kids on your page. If you want to post the pictures of just your kids, go ahead. Or crop the other kids out of the picture.
Lots of uber paranoid parents out there :(
Honestly with all the BILLIONS of random kid photos online I don't get why some people think this is such a big deal, unless you're giving out full names, addresses, etc. I mean COME ON.
If you don't want your kids photos on the internet then you better not use shutterfly or email or anything else on your computer for that matter because *someone* might see it.
But go ahead and let your kid spend the night at Uncle Bob's house because, well, you know kids are never molested or hurt by family members or close friends <insert sarcasm HERE>
I think its fair. Whoever you choose to share YOUR child with is your business. But when it gets into sharing someone elses' child, you don't have that right. I would be upset too. My suggestion is to crop the photo so no other child is in it and then you can post to facebook. But if they were told it would be shared within the school, that is what the expectation was---not for other parents to post on a mass site like facebook.
I have to disagree with you. The form you signed gave permission for the pictures to be published by the school... not to be REpublished by anyone else.
I gave permission for our name and phone number to appear in my son's school directory... I'd be pretty pissed if another parent then POSTED our contact information on Facebook. Just because you HAVE something with permission, doesn't mean you have the right to GIVE that thing out.
Technically speaking, preference or not, you may not have a LEGAL right to post those pictures to Facebook even if your child was the ONLY child in them, because you aren't the photographer, and don't hold the copyright.
Sure I'm being nitpicky with the copyright thing, but really.
HTH
T.
I didn't read the other responses. I guess parents really need to think things through before signing. It's not a "yes, but only kinda" answer, it's Yes or No.
If parents really object, and there are cute pics you want to post, this is what I would do. Upload the pics to Picmonkey.com. It is a super, super easy to use photo editing site. You can easily blur the kids faces who you don't want shown, and you can still share pics of your cutiepie :)
First, let me just say I am a picture-taking freak!! BUT, I would NEVER post ANY pictures on Facebook, or anywhere else for that matter, that has other children in it.
I can totally see the parents' point - they signed a paper stating the SCHOOL would use the photos, distribute, print, etc., NOT other parents to use them on social networks!!! I would be pissed beyond belief!!
People just do not realize how easy it is to get pictures off Facebook and into the wrong hands!!! I don't care how many precautions someone takes; they're out there for the taking!!!
How did someone know you posted them on Facebook??? That would be my question!! Do you have your settings to "friends" or "public"?
When I signed the form for my DD, I understood that her picture would only be used for school materials and projects. I would not be happy if she was on a classmate's mom's FaceBook page. In fact, I personally err on the side of caution and don't even post pictures from a Meet Up that include other people's kids if I don't personally know that the parents are OK with it. I send them to the parent directly. I would talk to the director about sharing pictures via email with your family. The issue with FB is that often it's 100 of someone's friends and friends of friends and so forth. It's a hard thing to navigate if you are a cautious parent. My SD's pictures were taken and misused (and she was a teen) so I'm leery of my DD being anywhere unofficial. I try to limit what I can. The digital age is hard for people who like their privacy.
For the future, I'd crop the pictures to just my kids instead of sharing the image as a whole. You can also ask the parents (do you have a directory) first. "Hi, Susan. Johnny and Jill are both in this picture and I'd love to share it. I usually post my pictures on FB for the grands. Is it OK or do you want me to crop Jill out first?" Sometimes if DD is in the background I don't mind.
I would love photos. I'd be thrilled! There is no way I'd sign a disclaimer and object.
YOU are OK with it, THEY are not. The school has to respect their wishes, as much as yours. They made the choice to not have their kid's faces on the internet, it's THEIR choice. Unfortunately, you don't get to change their choice, by posting those photos. There are ways (VERY simple ways) to crop and blur other people out of the background. Just cut the kids out, and move on.
Personally, I don't want pictures of my children floating around on the internet. I'd be one of those pesky parents, who didn't sign. I don't mind his face used in generic school flyers, but I don't want MY son's face on personal pages. I don't know the people in YOUR life. Shouldn't I be allowed to say no, to my picture being shared with them, and his privacy compromised?
Not trying to be harsh, in any way. Just something to think about.
I vote stop posting them, I wouldn't have thought to do it in the first place. Be nice, karma you know.
I take tons of pictures of my kids with other kids, and often take pictures of my kids playing or on outings with children I babysit for. I make copies of the pictures and give them to the parents of the other children. I would never post pictures of other peoples' kids on Facebook without permission. (It made sending pictures of my son's big birthday party a little difficult, since I only had an understanding with one mom (2 kids) that we don't mind pics of each others' children being shared on FB (to friends/family only). Basically, it meant I had to privately email the pictures to my mom/dad.....or let only very specific people who I don't mind having my actual account access on snapfish to go through them. There weren't a ton of party pictures of JUST my children....but that's life.
I don't mind my sons' pictures being taken and shown on SCHOOL property (bulletin boards, newsletters, brochures, or the school FB page). I would be put off if someone did a social network that was NOT the school's page of my children, without my permission. My brother on the other hand, would be flat livid. No pictures of his kids on social sites, even MINE. And I respect that. It's his children, and it's his responsibility to raise them and protect them as strictly or stringently as he sees fit. It's fair. It's kind of an unspoken rule that all moms I hang with share: permission first for pics to be posted.
Surely you have seen the occasional post on her about how no one has a right to their kids images!!! It is paranoia gone off the deep end if you ask me.
Why don't they give you a list of the paranoid parents so you can go on paint and put a big black blob over the kids face since their kids are so dang amazing that a pedophile is going to go on your Facebook, ignore your kid who has their last name right there on the profile take their kids picture, hire a private investigator to find out who they are and then hatch their plan to diddle them. :(
If you have a photo editing program on your computer, I would blur the other kids' faces and still post them on FB.
