Persistent 3 1/2 Year Old Keeps Asking How Baby Got into Mommy's Belly

I just told my 4yo grandaughter that when 2 people love each other a whole lot something magical happens and a baby is the present that comes from so much love.

The only reason she is being super persistent is because you never answered her. She only wants an answer, any answer and then she'll stop asking.

However, I am a big fan of the daddy's have special water and moomy's have special seeds and those seeds and that water when mixed make a beautiful baby.

There is a book by Peter Mayle called "Where Did I Come From?" It might be better suited if she were a year or two older, but it sounds like she might be ready to hear the truth. There is plenty of people who don't like it, but I plan on using it when my daughter (just turned three) has questions that I am not sure how to answer.

I use the anatomically correct terms for body parts. It wasn't really even a conscious choice I made, when she asked I just told her the truth. It is how I refer to my own parts, I didn't see a need to call something a pee-pee or vajayjay or boobie. Of course it is funny when we were visiting friends and the baby started crying...she told the mom that she needed to feed her baby with her nipple and breast (bwest).

I've already "told her the truth" about how babies get out of Mommy tummies...she's seen the pictures from the day she was born. She'll tell you that babies come out of the vagina (b'gina...lol). She breastfeeds her dolls--I finaly convinced her that MINE were EMPTY and she can pretend to do it with her own nipples. She doesn't care so much about HOW they got there yet, but she does know a daddy is involved somewhow.

My approach is disturbing to some, but I just don't see a point in telling lies or making up names. However, there isn't a one size fits all approach as kids ask the most random questions and focus on the bizarre! Good luck, I know you'll get a lot of good information.

i hear and appreciate your discomfort! but i would reward any child this determined to get information with simple accurate facts. something along the lines of 'daddy has tiny seeds that mix with tiny flowers that mommy keeps in her belly. when mommy and daddy are loving each other in a very close way that grown-ups do sometimes, daddy's seeds can reach mommy's flowers and if we're very lucky a baby will start growing there.'
okay, flowers aren't eggs exactly, but it's a very small inaccuracy.
good luck!
:) khairete
S.

Ask her how SHe thinks it would happen... Then cater your answer from that...

I tell my kids that its how God made mommies... That they have a special place for babys in their bellys that daddys don't have... As to the logistics of HOW they got in there... Uhhhh... Havn't tackled that one yet... lol But they also havn't asked... They have asked HOW they come out... since I am pregnant with my 4th I told them that God gave mommies a special place that the babys can come out of...

My sister told her 3 yr old that to have a baby mommy and daddy pray together... lol She is now asking mommy to go pray with daddy please....

Since she is 3 I would perhaps give her a very rough "talk" ... Mommys have a special part and daddys have a special part... Sorta like a puzzle...Sometimes when they are alone they "put the puzzle together"... :-)

No matter what you say, or how you say it... since she is 3, there will be the random outbursts in public places that embarass you. lol But be thankful that she has a high bodily awareness!!!

Good luck!

I've discovered this website and love it, www.whyzz.com is made for answering kids' questions in kid terms. They have tons of questions-not just the sensitive ones, science, etc. Here is a link to your question:
http://www.whyzz.com/answer/detail/search/how+are+babies+...

I would just tell her that when mommies and daddies are married, the love they have between each other makes a baby. If she asks how the love made the baby, repeat it again...the love between mommy and daddy made a baby. If you keep saying the same thing over and over and don't give any more information, eventually she will let it go.

Try telling her that you will tell her when she's 5 (or whatever age you think is appropriate).

I agree with telling children the real names for body parts.

My niece was 3 when my son was born and she told me, while I was pregnant, that I was going to go to the hospital and the dr would take the baby out. That answer satisfied her. When I was breastfeeding and pumping she would tell me she can't drink Cody's bottles because they have "special baby-mommy boobie milk".

It's interesting that she is being so persistent about details. Did she hear older kids talking? Tell her papa hugged you so many times that you got a baby in your belly. Babies come from love, so all that love you got gave you the baby, and that's how mommy's and daddy's get babies.

Hi, Hiliary:

Go to your local nursery with your child. Get some seeds and plant them in a pot and let her see how the seed develops into a plant.
Good luck. D.

I would see if you could get a book which is age appropriate. You can then read the book together. Once you answer her question as honestly as you can then she will stop bugging you. I know it is hard to explain it to a child that young but it is better to be honest.

That is pretty much what I told my kids, when she asks again I would just say remember we talked about this and explain it again. I would go further in detail as she gets older and keep the line of communication open. But I wouldn't give to much detail to a young child.

Joanna
Mommy to Mara 9, Cate 7, and Olivia 6

That is so cute I wish I had an answer for you but I don't. mommy already has eggs in her belly and dad fertalized it. now if she ask how daddy fertalized it I would be as stumped as you.

I know you don't want to use God, but I am currently a week away from having our second and my son is almost 4 years old. We simply told him that when Mommy and Daddy love each other, God puts the baby in Mommy's belly and it's magic, so instead of God you could just say it's magic. Then he's always asking how the baby will get out and we told him that Mommy goes to the hospital where they have special Dr's to help get the baby out of Mommy's belly once the baby is ready to be born. At his age, that was fine for him and I didn't feel the need to get into too much of the graphics or reality of how it all happens since he seemes happy enough with that answer. He already knows about how the baby will be fed, so we'll see if that generates more questions once the baby is here.

try the old stork but with a new twist. tell her that a special bird called the stork comes to visit before the baby is born. i didn't have the problem ur having. my son was only 3 months old when i got prego w/#2. good luck. if all else fails google it

i told my daughter that my belly button open up and daddy put a seed in there and a baby grew