I have a friend that has a nannie that brings her children to her home while she is suppose to be watching my friends children. The deal is this nannie was hired by my friends bf's parents and the nannie has a problem with my friend. she comes in to watch the children, her children fight with my friends kids, leaving marks all the time. When my friend comes home from work, the nannie refuses to talk to her, she basically picks up her things and walks out the door without a word. The nannie will talk with my friends boyfriend, but not to her.
i lil more info, my gf actually left her bf and while she was gone the parents of her bf hired the nannie....everything was fine while she was gone...the nannie cleaned, washed clothes, basically played the "gf's" position. Then my gf moved back in with him and now the nannie doesnt do anything, she sits and lets the kids run around, destroy the place and then like i said before, leaves as soon as the mother gets home...she has expressed her concerns to the bf's parents as well as to him, but they see nothing wrong with the nannie and because they are paying for the her, she cant fire her....the bf wont let her.
so my question is, what should my friend do? She cant fire the nannie b/c the bf and his parents wont allow it. I know what I would do, but I need some input please.
thank you so much
Sounds like there's more going on here than maybe you're aware of or mention. Your friend needs to dismiss the nanny. There's no reason why she cannot -- she's the parent here, of course she has the right to fire them. She needs to find other childcare arrangements.
If the mom have to work and can't stay home to watch her kids then she just need to be sure her kids are safe with this person. The nanny is not there to be friends with her but to do a job she is been paying for.
I agree the nannie and mom need to get along and if they are not then she needs to find someone else. Just have her tell the bf's parents that it is just not working out. She does not have to give details and find a new nannie.
Hi S.,
It sounds like there is a lot going on here and that you are only hearing one side of the story. The relationship between the nanny and the mom is very strained and that is not healthy for the children. I think she needs to sit and make a list of the complaints she has about the nanny, and then review it to make sure she is not being petty. Did they always have this adversarial situation? Then she needs to sit down with her boyfriend and go through the list. Get his "input" on why "this nanny" is the one he and his parents seem to favor. Also this is a warning flag if his parents are involved in the decision of the nanny for her children??? are they paying for the nanny?
