My Son Wont Sleep in His Own Bed - Spencer,IA

try a night light and tuck him in. You also could find a book that you could read to him before bed. It has helped my son using the night light and then he also has a cd player that plays children's music. just talk to him and let him know that you are there and mommy isn't going any where. I think on top of being scared of his own room he's going through a normal stage of seperation anxiety. hopefully this works for you, if you need to talk i'm here. good luck

Hey B.,
First try putting him to bed while he is still awake. You may sit in there and read him a book, but leave while he is still awake. Next, you may try putting up a gate. Our oldest one need this to feel secure when he first move into his new room out of the nursery. This seemed to help set the boundary for him. He did stand at the door and cry. It only lasted about a week and then he learned that it was time for him to be in his room. We did leave a night light on and told him that he could play, but that he needed to stay in his room. This also helped. Today he is a healthy, happy 4 year old who loves going to bed and playing for a few minutes to wind down in his own room before climbing into bed. And no gate is needed.

Hi B.,
I am a mother of two and have a home daycare and a web-based marketing business. For daycare I have to accumulate 12 credit hours a year and I went to a session on behavior. The speakers were from Behaven day camp I think was the name of it located in Omaha NE. They have written a story called the sleep fairy. Have you heard of it? You could look it up online but the story is about a fairy that will leave a special gift (whatever you want it to be: candy, coin, ticket) under their pillow if they go to sleep and stay in bed all night. You can either sneek it in there when he goes to sleep or in the morning before he wakes up. It wouldn't have to be under his pillow either it could be in a special box on his dresser or something but you get the picture. I don't know if your son would be old enough to try it but this is the idea I have for you. I don't know if you watch the super nanny or any shows like that but they will just keep putting the kids back in their bed they call it the robot they get out you put them back over and over but it always seems to work you have to be strong and not back down though. I know that at one time we did that with our daughter when she was 18 months and she has done very well since then (now 2 1/2). I hope that I have helped and good luck.
take care and God Bless
S.

You might have tried this already, but maybe try his own bed in YOUR room. start with it close to you so you can touch him during the night and start moving him away as he gets more used to it. Then maybe try something where he sleeps in your room and you sleep like on the couch or something. then you can put him in his room when he seems ok with it. Good Luck

i have heard to try to put a shirt of yours that smells like u in their bed. don't know if it works, but could be worth a shot. good luck

My son was the same way. What I did was redecorated his room to make it kid friendly and invited over family who has kids around the same age to play with his toys. Just to make his room seem like it is the place to be. Then at night i would give him his bath and read a book and ask if he wanted to watch cartoons or a movie and he drifted off to sleep. But I would always go back and check on him and turn off the tv. Now in the mornings I would alway dress him in his room and played with him in there. But good luck

usually b/t 2 & 3 they'll start manifesting fears. Try a night light or turn the closet light on. so it doesn't seem so dark. You could also try reading with him or playing with a toy on his bed for a little bit. Maybe even play in there from after dinner so he starts getting used to the room. Sounds like up until now he's created no relationship w/the room. sounds are different, lighting, smells...sometimes as hard as it is you may just have to let him cry it out. My daughter gets the same way if we miss that 5 minute window of amiability. But it'll decrease over time as you consistently show him that this is his room.

Try sitting wih him and when he wakes, asure him you are right there. Then when he is really out, leave the room quietly. Or try putting a picture or a soft piece of your blanket or something in his bed to cuddle and he will outgrow this. My freind had a sinimlar problem wth her 2 yr old girl and she followed my advice and in days, all was resolved