C.S. asks from Lafayette, OH on April 12, 2007
We are preparing to buy a home and move soon. I have talked to my boys briefly about "getting a new house" and they seem pretty interested and "want to see it". Our first viewing we didn't take them along, but think we might to the second walk through before we make an offer. My question is, How in the world do I make this move an easy transition and how do I make moving itself not as stressful as I fear? I am busy enough as it is, I really don't look forward to moving at all, but it is time to buy... We are staying in the same school district and it is not far away at all. I just would like any advice you all have on doing this the most efficient way possible with two toddlers.
By the way, I read the posts everyday, and love this board. I don't always reply because there is usually always another mother that has my same thinking. It is good to know I am not alone in the mommy world.
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WELL THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for your advice, what you did in this circumstance and for the outstanding support. WE CAN DO THIS!!! I will keep everyone informed about how it went when we are all settled in and breathing easier again!!! It will still be a little bit of time before moving actually begins. But I think I do want to get some boxes and begin doing some packing here and there. Including the kids is a brilliant idea, I won't be as stressed, therefore, neither will they and they love to help anywayz. They are old enough to understand what is going on, and will be thrilled to be helping mommy and daddy.
Thanks again moms, you are ALL wonderful and supportive!!!
M.R. answers from Cincinnati on April 12, 2007
Most people think this is frivolous, but for me it is, was, and will always be an absolute must - can you afford to hire movers? I have used them for my past 2 moves and will NEVER move my house on my own again! My stress level was significantly reduced and I didn't feel physically exhausted. This was BC - before children! I cannot imagine chasing two toddlers around with doors constantly open and trying to move furniture and boxes.
I know money is definitely tight when buying a new house, especially with closing costs and such but if you are in a position to hire movers I highly recommend it.
To help your kids with packing (and for you to easily identify their boxes) let them pick out sheets of stickers. For example, the 3 year old gets Thomas the Train stickers and the 5 year old gets Hot Wheels (or whatever they may like) and let them put a sticker on each of their boxes. It might even encourage them to help with packing - "When you help mommy finish packing a box, you get a sticker for the box and a treat for you!"
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K.N. answers from Cleveland on April 12, 2007
I bought my first house in jan of last year and moved my then 6, 5 and 3 year old. It was stressful, and hectic but the kids did great, I took them to the second walk though and showed them the house, let them pick out rooms and let them help me pack their stuff so that they knew everything was coming with us. and we talked about it constantly even the stuff they didn't understand like when i made the offer andthe 30 days after it was mine before we moved in i kept them informed so they knew what to expect. As for packing and trying to make the process as simple as possible start early, buy plenty of boxes and packing matterials, plan how you are getting everything to the new house, are you renting a van or taking it yourself and always underestimate, make sure to clearly make what rooms and what is in boxes so that you can find things those first few days, or if time allowspack up everything you can live without for a day or two, take it over, unpack it ove rthe next couple days while you still sleep and so forth at the old house and then take the last of teh essentials over that last day so that you aren't trying to unpack everything with the kids at night when all you want to do is make the beds and go to sleep. as nice as it can be to have a sitter in this situation i found that by including my kids in the process and letting them help unpack their stuff and set it up they were very comfortable from the very first day, and having them involved ove rthe course of a few days and letting them spend short amounts of time at the house before we actually stayed ehre was a great help as well. something else if there is any painting or cleaning or stuff like that that you want to get done immediantly and aren't planning on waiting to do, do it before you move it, it's easier to paint an empty room than that have to move stuff later. hope this helps, it sounds like your kids are ready and excited and you probally won't have any troubles with them. good luck.
C.T. answers from Cleveland on January 28, 2008
We just moved 8 mos ago. We were a family of 9 in a 1050sqft home - wonder why we were moving??? We looked at houses for 4 mos and took the kids to all the open houses and walk throughs. When they saw the much bigger homes, they were excited at the idea of getting a bigger house. When we were serious and had narrowed it down to 5 or 6 houses, we asked my mom to sit with the kids so we could make some adult decisions while viewing the homes again, to narrow the field. We took lots of pictures to keep the kids up to date, and explain why we ruled out some of the houses. When we decided on which to bid on, the kids recognized the pictures and features, and were as excited as we were to hear if we got it.
They all helped pack. They were each in charge of packing their toys, books and whatnot, and labeling the box as theirs. On moving day, the oldest 4 helped bring boxes out to the U-Haul, and the youngest three came with me to the new house to start cleaning and preparing food and snacks. It was a weekend event, but it went very smoothly. I didn't do as much as you would think on moving day because I had the baby and the 2 preschoolers to keep out of the way. All the boxes were marked where they were to go, so my husband and our brothers, and our 4 oldest sons had that under control. I entertained the little ones, cleaned, and offered water and snacks.
All of the kids adjusted beautifully, and I think it was because they were involved from beginning to end.
S. answers from Cleveland on April 12, 2007
It is exciting to be moving to a new house! But remember it is on that top 5 list of most stressful life events.
What are they...-marriage - divorce - death in family - new job - moving... something like that.
Expecting a little stress can help reduce it's impact. Try to make it as fun as you can and just accept the fact that it will be really tiring. And the kids will also feel stress, but make sure they are not feeding off your stess to much.
Keep your eye on the long term. Remind yourself often how nice it will be once you are all settled in and life is moving on again!
R.M. answers from Mansfield on April 12, 2007
This is wonderful news for u and ur family! Buying ur home that u will now become part of many memories to come! Oh i would try to be alittle more excited about it; as well as geting the children excited:D Well i hope u can get ur family(mother, siblings, friends etc.) to help the more the faster it will go. I have found labling the boxes really make the biggest diff. then as people take the boxs in they know what room to place it. Plus having ur husband or whomever is doing the heavy lifting ;in the big items and place them first where u want them to stay. Then next its the boxes to place away.
I think the kids could get involed by taking there boxes in there room after the main items r all set up and helping them place there things away will help them get settled and relaxed more with the new feeling.
I really do recommend family and friends so they can help those boxes unpack faster. You dont want to wear urself out..sounds like ur very busy with ur little ones anyways:D
I hope u can find some fun in this. Its a memories stone that will change alot for the better in ur familys lifes. I'd also wait a bit on hanging pictures and those losends till the boxes r all out. Ordering in or taking a break at a sitdown restrunt may give u a break during the work:)
Best of luck....let us know how it turns out:D
K.C. answers from Canton on April 13, 2007
Another thing that I found really helpful when we moved last summer was letting my little one be as involved as possible. He helped to pack some of his own things. We also had a children's book about moving to a new house - though i don't recall the name of it off the top of my head....i think i may have been a barney book. Also - when you arrive you can help the kids feel more at home by having a couple of boxes of their favorite things to unpack right away...for us it was his curtains, wall stick-ups, and a few select toys that i could put up easily to make the room look like his own. I also let him help decide where to put the new furniture, etc. in his new room.