Miscarriage Issues

Hi, M.! God bless you, I think miscarriages are one of the toughest things. You get all excited, and then suddenly, what a let down. I had 2 miscarriages. The first one took me totally by surprise. The second time, though not fun, was at least a little more "expected." My son is now almost 2 1/2! What did I do? Really, nothing! After the second miscarriage, my doctor did some testing. She said there was nothing really wrong, but I was over 40, and she said I could probably go to a fertility specialist. Then she said, looking at "something," (I forget what now, from the testing) that the doctor would probably recommend "egg donation." Well, I thought, that's not really for me, so I just put it out of my mind. (Now, you are probably much younger, and a specialist may be exactly the thing to do, I don't mean to discourage that for you.) And then, all of a sudden, completely out of the blue, and at age 47!!!!, I was expecting! Zachary was born 4 hours short of Thanksgiving Day, in 2005! The only thing I can think of that we "did," outside of the obvious (ha!) was that I did cut back work a little, not really to get pregnant, although some people do this, I think, was to learn to knit! A lady at my church swears this is what did it. She says, "A woman under pressure will not conceive, and knitting is relaxing!" Again, meant to be a joke, the real point being, sometimes these things go pretty much out of our control, and yet end up working out. The very best to you!

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Hi M.:
First of all, miscarriage is a very painful thing to go through emotionally and it takes time to heal from it, just like any loss. I had four miscarriages before having a full-term, healthy baby girl last summer. The hard part for me was that there was no medical reason for what was happening. I had what is called blighted ovum which is considered a fluke where the egg is fertilized, implants and everything is going along just fine, but no baby develops in the sac. It was maddening that "there was nothing wrong."

If you need to get testing done to determine some physical problem, then, by all means, do it. It did rule out that end of things for us. Waiting for God's timing is difficult. Sometimes that is the hardest part. But hang in there.

A. F

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i had a miscarriage at almost 4 months adn got pg again 5 months later .. had a great pregnancy and carried my son full term with no problems.

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M.,

I had one miscarriage. I'm so sorry for your losses. I do have a healthy baby girl who just turned one last month. As for what we did, I had a D & E after the miscarriage. We waited for two natural period cycles to pass and I continued to take natural prenatal vitamins. We also did a lot of praying (before, during and after the pregnancy). Our faith in God and His promises is what pulled us through. We had to be patient and rest in His hands.

We will pray for you too.

Jen

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Hi M.,
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my son at age 39. My pregnancy was perfect with him--I actually enjoyed being pregnant! After my miscarriages (the first I lost early and naturally looking back), and for #2 and #3 I had t have D&Cs after sonograms showed no heartbeat. All were lost around the same time 10-12 weeks. My obstetrician identified what he described as a "luteal phase deficiency" and when I was pregnant with my son, I had to use progesterone suppositories morning & night for the first 3 months to add progesterone to allow the firm implantation of the embryo to the uterine wall. Some doctors don't believe in that and it may have been a full term pregnancy on it's own but I think he was on to something.
If you are trying to have a baby and have had miscarriages, I wouldn't let it stop you from trying again. Discuss it with your doctor. If you can't have a baby on your own, consider adoption. If you want one, there is a baby out there for you. It was really tough having three miscarriages and wondering if I would ever carry one to term. My husband was at the point where he didn't think he could go through another loss..but we're so happy we persevered and were blessed with an amazing child.
Once I miscarried, I was amazed by how many women opened up and shared their miscarriage histories with me. It is sad, but extremely common.
Hang in there and God bless you.

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my sister had 7 miscarriages before delivering four healthy babies... one at a time...

good luck and God Bless you!

S.

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Hi, M..

I've had an ectopic pregnancy in which the tube ruptured and had to be removed, and then two miscarriages. However, I have a very healthy three-year-old and am pregnant with my second and due in about seven weeks. They consider me high risk and I am monitored very closely. I feel like I live in the doctor's office. But it's all worth it. As long as you have good docs it is definitely possible to carry a baby to term after having miscarriages. Best of luck to you! -- J.

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I had a miscarriage before i had my son. The doctor told me to wait three months before i got pregnant again. Make sure they check your hormone levels to make sure they are okay in your first trimester. I had a pretty good pregnancy and my son came out nice and healthy.

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Hi M.,

I have had a total of 4 miscarriages but I have also got 2 healthy girls. I had 3 miscarriages in a row over a period of 20 months after the first 2 I was lucky enough to get some tests however after the 3 I had another batch of tests and established that I have a mild version of Antiphospholipid Syndrome (sticky blood sydrome). There is a lot of information available on the web about this, however in my instance it was mild so luckily I did not have to inject myself daily I just took a low dose aspirin daily. My 4th pregnancy then resulted in the birth of my 1st daughter. when we tried for no 2 I followed the same process however I suffered an ectopic pg (unconncected) and then had my 2nd daughter.
If you are in a position to get some tests completed I would but do not dispair I know that the emotional pain is extreme but there is hope.
Good luck
T.

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Hi M.,
My first pregnancy went well, no issues. I then miscarried my second pregnancy. I then got pregnant a third time and was pregnant with twins and miscarried one, the other baby I had some serious issues with and had to have an emergency C-section, but in the end I had another healthy baby. I then got pregnant a fourth time and everything was uneventful and I had a healthy baby boy. So, it is possible to have a healthy baby afterwards.

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After having our son,we wanted our children close together so we tried when he was 13 months old and got pregnant right away but miscarried early. I waited another 3 months and got pregnant again, only to miscarry at 9 weeks (I had to have a D & E with that one.) We were devastated but tried again, and when my son was 2 and a half, got pregnant again. Of course I was petrified of miscarrying again but everything progressed normally and I delivered a beautiful and healthy baby girl.

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Dear M.,

I am so sorry if you are having problems with miscarriages. I had one miscarriage and then got pregnant again shortly after and we have a beautiful two-year-old daughter. We then tried for our second child and I was 10 weeks along and miscarried again. The doctors say that it just happens and the two miscarriages had nothing to do with each other. Sometimes the body just know that the pregnancy isn't going to work out so it miscarries. It is a very hard thing to go through. It is reassuring that I know that I can get pregnant and obviously I have carried one to full term I just hope we can do it again.

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Hi! I have had 5 miscarriages and 2 DNCs and have a 15year old, a 4 year old and a new baby girl due in May!! Just have faith and have fun trying to get pregnant! From what my dr told me..miscarriages have nothing to do with being able to carry and deliver a healthy baby. (unless your miscarriages are due to a medical problem, of course) Good luck!!
J.

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Hi M. ~ I had my daughter first and then my 2nd pregnancy I was 11 weeks when I found out I had a miscarriage. I had US prior and was told everything was fine. I was told to wait at least 3 months before trying. I did have a very hard time with the loss (I knew 3 other people that were due right around my due date) but I did get pregnant again and had bleeding issues that I did have with tall my pregnancies so needless to say it was a tough first trimester. But in the end I now have a beautiful baby boy.. Just take it easy and BUT REMEMBER TO PUT YOU FIRST. Good luck

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I am sure that right now you are feeling hopeless, but I am sure you will hear many positive stories that will lift your spirits and bring back hope! I miscarried at 8 weeks and not only lost the baby but almost lost my reproductive organs. After 3 months on bedrest and 2 blood transfusions I was able to bounce back and have two healthy baby girls. It took about 7 or 8 months to get pregnant with my first daughter after getting the "go ahead" from the doctor. I got pregnant with my second daughter right away. I am now trying for #3 and it's taken 4 months so far - hoping all goes well. Both of my pregnancies were classified as "high risk" due to my past but everything went completely normal. I have heard of so many women who miscarry (I think the percentage of women who miscarry is now over 50%). I look at it as God's way of getting you ready for a healthy baby down the road.

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Hi M.,

I had a stillborn daughter in October of 1998. I then got pregnant in May of 1999 and miscarried after 3 weeks. I then got pregnant in October of 1999 and had a very healthy little boy in July of 2000. So yes, it is possible to have a healthy full term baby after having losing a baby. I didn't do anything differently than what I did in those 2 other pregnancies. He was just meant to be here on Earth. If it's meant to be it will be.

Good luck to you!!!
L.

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M.,
So sorry for your loses.
I had 2 miscarriages before I had my son. But unfourtunately, I have Systemic Lupus and had 3 miscarriages after my son and could not have any more children. We ended up adopting a beautiful daughter from Guatemala.
After my 2nd miscarriage, I went to a High Risk OBGYN. They were great and really help in knowing the loss after a miscarriage. We did end up having to use fertility drugs.
I know how hard this is for you, but hang in there.
Good Luck!!
A. B.

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M., hang in there. I had a miscarrage in Nov of 06 right at thanksgiving, i was 10weeks, and when i was given the go ahead to try again in the end of Jan. 07 I started right away. We were pregnant by the beginning of Feb and my daughter was born Nov.1st 07, 2 days before her due date. everything went great. Keep a positive attitude and keep try it can happen and it will be amazing.

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Miscarriage is a devastating event & everyone handles it differently. There's not much you can do to prevent them & you shouldn't blame yourself. I miscarried at 11 weeks & had to have a D&E. It was horrible & I sat & bawled for a week (hormones, heartbreak & loneliness). I got pregnant about 8 months later & delivered a full-term (actually two weeks over!) healthy baby girl. I then got pregnant about 2 & 1/2 years later & miscarried at 7 weeks. While I was sad, I was much better equipped to handle it the second time around. Plus, God had already blessed me with my baby girl. I got pregnant again 6 months later & gave birth to a healthy boy. As others have said, it's definitely very common to miscarry, but knowing that doesn't make it any easier. Try to keep a positive attitude & always follow the advice of your OB. Best Wishes!

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First of all, my deepest condolences. I hope you find you are able to carry a baby to term and enjoy motherhood. Someone like you deserves it. I don't know if you have gone this route, but chiropractic is a alternative way to treat. My husband is a local chiropractor and can explain all the science. All I can tell you is if the part of your spine that controls the function of your uterus is out of alignment, then the nerves may not be sending the proper messages to and from the brain and uterus. Thus causing miscarriages or other reproductive issues. There is science behind this. I don't know if you are at the point to try this, but a simple, non=invasive way to possible help! Good luck.

S.

My husband's office is
Condon Chiropractic Clinic
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Actually I had three miscarriages and carried two babies to full term. I had one miscarriage at 12 weeks and then the next year I had a beautiful baby girl. I then had two more miscarriages at around 8-10 weeks. My OB did a blood test on me that showed that my body was sending blood clots to the fetus which caused my miscarriages. He told me to take a low dose of aspirin every day, before I tried to become pregnant again. Then when I became pregnant again he did an ultrasound and then he started me on Lovenox, which is Heprin. I had to give myself shots in my stomach every day while I was pregnant as well as taking the aspirin. He did several ultrasounds to be sure everything was ok during my pregnancy. He then took me off of my medicines and induced labor 1 week before I was due. I had to take the Lovenox for another three weeks and I will have to take the aspirin for the rest of my life because of the risk of blood clots and strokes. But I have the most beautiful little girl in the world. There was no side effects to her at all. So you might want to discuss this with you OB. This test is very expensive, but my insurance paid for it in full, you might have to check with your insurance company before you have it done. And believe me, taking the shots may sound awful, but my little girl was worth it all and more.

All of that and a tremendous amount of prayer, and my little girl will be 2 in 2 months.

Good lunck!

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Hello M.,

My husband and I tried to have a baby for 8 months before we finally became pregnant. I lost the baby at 6 weeks. Three months later we became pregnant again and now have a beautiful 4 month old baby boy. Have patience and know that you aren't alone. There are a lot of us out there. Miscarriage is one of those things that people never talk about but is so common. It really does get easier after time has past. Just be really good to yourself and give yourself time to heal emotionally. It is okay to grieve the loss of your unborn child. If you ever need to talk about it you can email me.
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Love, H.

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I've had 2 miscarriages during the first trimester. I have also had two full-term births and am currently pregnant with my 3rd. I do not think having one or two miscarriages is of any great concern, unless you or your husband are known carriers of some genetic defect. It also depends on when you had your miscarriages.

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My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. The doctors told me to try again when I felt ready. Three months later I was pregnant without trying. To help "maintain" the pregnancy, my ob-a nurse practicioner-put me on hormones for my first trimester. It made me miserably tired and exaggerated the pregnancy symptoms, but I have a healthy, active two year old now. I am also pregnant with my second baby and we did the hormones for this one to, just in case. I wish you the best of luck.

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M.,
Sorry to hear of your losses. Please keep the faith that you will have a baby. I have had eight miscarriages. One was before my son who is now seven, and seven while trying to have my one year old daughter. I know it is not easy, so many people just do not understand the loss that you feel each time. I did during the whole process see a reproduction specialist that could not find amything wrong. Having some test run may not hurt just to rule out any problems. You have to decide how to proceed everyone is different. I can tell you even if the specialist find nothing wrong they will suggest that you start to do meds and or IUI's. I did not have any luck with all the fancy stuff. I got pregnant with my daughter with clomid. It is an oral drug. I can also suggest that you contact your local chapter of Resolve. It is a support group for women that are having problems getting pregnant. They have a web site. I think it is Resolve.org Sorry that may not be correct. Best of luck

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I have 5 losses + the loss of a twin (at 8-1/2wks) with this pregnancy. Some of them at 6wks, others as long as 2nd trimester. Each for a different reason, so the docs couldn't quite figure me out.

Things I did: charted (really helped me learn about my body, and that I would ovulate earlier than most, helped me figure out when I wasn't ovulating); kept in contact with OB, who appreciated all the info/questions I brought to appointments; kept trying.

All of my pregnancies were 'natural' (I think that's the terminology??), and this current one (approaching 29wks tomorrow) was quite the surprise.

Hugs to you and good luck!!!!

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M., My daughte had a miscarrage and after that miscarried twins. Now she has beautiful 5 month old baby girl. He doctor did some blood work had her take a baby asperin each day. Her problem was a simple clotting problem. Hopefully your doctor can give you some pointers. I know how nuch having a miscarrage hurts and my heart goes out to you.

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I had a miscarriage and two months later got pregnant with my son. I had no problems with the pregnancy.

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My first pregnancy was a miscarriage, very traumatic! However since then I have had 3 full term babies now 5, 7 and 9. Talk to your doctor about your concerns. Not sure what area you live in or what kind of insurance you have but Timothy Shawl of Pennsylvania Hospital in Philadelphia is a GREAT Ob-Gyn. ###-###-####

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Almost every mom I know has a miscarriage in her past. Unless your doctor tells you differently, don't do anything. I waited the 3 months they told me to, and got pregnant very easily right away -- at age 41. Generally, it's nothing to worry about, it's just so sad. I had a scary start to that next pregnancy -- lots of bleeding -- but she's 4 months old now and perfectly healthy.

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I had a son full term, healthy, no problem pregnancy. Two years later I had 3 miscarriages in a row for no medical reason. I under went every test they could do, and nothing answered the question WHY!! Then, I got pregnant again, and had a healthy, full term, baby boy! The only difference was, as soon I got pregnant, my doctor put me on Progesterone suppositories for the first trimester. She said it couldn't hurt to try them. I have no way of knowing if they are what helped or not. My dr. said something to me after my 3rd loss that always stuck in my head for some reason. She said you have to think of pregnancies just like seeds- Some will take and flourish and grow, and some won't, for no reason. Looking back, I can't imagine my life without my 2nd son. I would not have him if I did not go through all those months of loss. I hope this helps in some way.

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Please do not give up. After 3 miscarriages( 2 at 4 months) I had infertility treatments and delivered three children. They are now 15,13, and 11.
Address any of your physical and emotional concerns with your physician.
If you need someone to talk to about this, email me. You are not alone.

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M.,

I miscarried my first pregnancy at 6 weeks. Unfortunately, it's a very common experience. I've read statistics that say that as many as 1 in 4 conceptions ends in miscarriage. Depending on how closely you watch your cycle (I was charting and practicing fertility awareness method -FAM), many women may not even realize they are having an early miscarriage.

We took 1 cycle off TTC at DH's request. I was ready to try again immediately. After 2 additional cycles of trying, we got pregnant againg. Being pregnant after a loss is a whole different experience and one that I don't think others can truly understand unless they've been there.

My second pregnancy was textbook perfect, until my water broke spontaneously at 34 weeks. DD was born after 20 hours of labor and is a perfectly happy, healthy 6-month old baby girl. Staying positive really helped me, as well as reaching out to others who had experienced loss for support.

S.

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I have had 4 miscarriages and have 2 beautiful children ages 4 and 6. I could get pregnant but would always miscarry around week 6. I finally went to a endocrioligist/infertility specialist and got tested, I had to get put on progestrone shots for the 1st 15 weeks of my pregnancy that what was my problem, lack of progestrone. The regular OB/GYN tell people that you shouldn't seek a specialist till you have 3 miscarriagies I went after 2. It is so heartbreaking just after 1. My heart is with you. Don't give up. It is so worth it. Find a good specialist in your area and make an appointment ne proactive. There is nothing more rewarding than being a mom. Best of luck to you. V.

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I had a miscarriage at 15weeks. When we tried getting pregnant, I conceived within 3 months!

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M.,

The first pregnancy I had I miscarried. I then got pregnant 5 months later with my daughter. Her pregnancy was textbook. We only had one issue with her, when I was 7 months pregnant I went into preterm labor. They were able to stop it and found that I was just dehydrated. Very common, they gave me fluids and sent me home. I delivered her within 3 days of her due date. I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was 6 months old. His pregnancy was rough, but no serious problems. I delivered him at 37 weeks, he is a very healthy little baby. I don't think that I did anyhting different, but I know I was very careful just with anything in general. I do remember being more aware, no caffine, no fish, I stayed away from people who smoked. That was hard becuse my husband is a smoker, so he had to stay away went he did it. I know I miscarried the first time because I had just gotten married, had just started a new job, and had a rough time stress wise. My blood pressure was a little on the high side, so the doctors attributed that to the miscarriage. I remember trying to stay calm and tried not to get too upset with the little things which I tend to do. I hope this helps you and good luck. I know it's hard. If it happens again maybe your doctor should do some tests. My brother and sister-in-law lost 5 babies. They found out after the 2nd that she has an incompitant cervix. She can't carry her children past 4 months. They are now in the adoption process. However, medicine is changing all of the time, and there is a new surgery that they intend to try that will permanently close her cervix and she can deliver via c-section. Just remember with everything doctors can do now, pretty much anyone can have their "own" children. Again good luck.
C.

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I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy (around 13 weeks). I was 26 at the time. It was awful and my husband and I were devasted. We managed to get pregnant about 5 months later with our first son. I now have 2 beautiful boys : ) My advice - although you are scared - keep trying to get pregnant (your doctor may suggest you wait about 4 to 6 months post miscarriage).

All the best to you!!!

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I had one miscarriage and then got pregnant with triplets. Later found out we actually had quads but lost one, so I've had two losses.

K. B
Mom of 5 including triplets

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Hello... Yes I had 2 miscarriages before my first daughter was born. One was at 4 weeks and the second was at 6 1/2 weeks. I now have a 3 year old and a soon to be 1 year old. Both were full term deliveries. After my second miscarriage, my doctor put me on a Progesterone vaginal suppository hormone and it worked. When I found out that I was pregnant with my second child, I asked to be put on them immediately and I again had no problems. I would highly recommend anyone to use these if they experience a miscarriage or two.

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Hi M.,

I"m sorry for your losses. Depends on why you miscarried; but unless there is something physically wrong you can do it and you have to believe that you can do it. I was really more emotionally worried than physical. Like I didn't deserve it or something. But that's all NOT TRUE.

Not only did I have a miscarriage at 29 but two abortions at 18, 3 procedures to remove precancerous cells from my cervix and irregular periods my whole life. I too was so worried about having a baby for physical and emotional reasons. I became pregnant in October 2005. By March - I guess that was 27 weeks - everything was fine but there was risk that I would deliver early because of my incompetent cervix so the midwives put me on bedrest and referred my care to an OB. By 36 weeks I was still pregnant and allowed to return to the midwives, albeit 2 cm dialated but looking good - I delivered Hank on his actual due date of June 18th, Father's Day. And I delivered him at the Birth Center without even an aspirin - I was grateful for those 2 cm - I was already 20% of the way there is how I looked at it!

Good luck - you'll do it!

J.

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Yes! Many people, including myself. Please do not get discouraged. Miscarriages happen so often they almost consider having 1-2 normal now. Do not be alarmed yet!

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As many people have been indicating, it is more common than you think.. it probably has been, but now people can test earlier. I had two miscarriages, the first was never identified but I personally think it's because my regular doc did a pap (which she said wouldn't do anything), then I started bleeding and eventually lost it at 10 weeks. The second I lost at 17 weeks so I had to deliver it (my cervix opened and my water came out and broke) - that one was very very tough. I was diagnosed with incompetent cervix because my cervix opened so unexpectedly and I had a cerclage when I got pregnant again (7 months after miscarriage was when I felt ready to try again) - it basically stitched me together until right before delivery. I had a normal pregnance and delivered 10 days early a health 8 1/2 lb girl, who is now 3 1/2 years old. Best of luck with your pregnancies!
S.

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