Looking Through My Man's Phone

Your child needs to be in a stable place. Why after 3 years are you not married yet? Between the lack of a marriage and obvious trust issues, you should really think about moving out immediately. Something isn't right and you are now realizing it. Go back home and start dating him again if you think you may want to marry. You need to be strong. The past three years he knows you are willing to be with him without the necessary commitment to you and your boy. Show him that is not the case. Would you want your son to do that to somebody?-if you stay, your son may think it is OK to treat women this way. If you want to make it work, go to counseling while you are out of the same household, things will be mor objective then.

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With no other information to go on, I'd say that you don't 100% trust this man, and when you go looking for confirmation that you are No. 1 - you are not finding that confirmation. If some woman is leaving him a "booty call" message. That is beyond inappropriate and confirms your right to your suspicions (unless it was a joke or something).
I feel that when it gets to the point in a relationship that you are spying or snooping, there' a reason why you are doing that. If there's nothing wrong, you won't find anything. At the same time, who wants to look like a fool while their man is running around for booty calls. If he is furious with you for looking at his phone - then perhaps he's trying to hide something...

What would you do if he looked at something that you "thought" was yours? If you have a lack of trust in this man you ought not think of marriage. Just because he called his ex-wife/daughter before you before he called you should not even have come up. Do you have any kids with this man?
if not then I won't stress it. Do you love this man? Has he given you reason for not trusting him? As far as right/wrong issue only you can answer that question. When you pick up the phone did you get the feeling (I shouldn't be doing this) and you did anyway ... then you most likely felt it was wrong.
Get some pre-martial counsel if you plan to work any issues and get them out and taken care of before taking the next step because after you says the vows it will be somebody else's feelings involved (your sons'). THINK BEFORE YOU ACT

i totally agree with jennifer c. maybe you two should look into premarital/couples counseling.

If you doubted him enough to look in his phone then you do not need to be marrying this man. Trust is a very fragile thing and it sounds like he's already stepping out on you. A piece of paper will NOT change that behaviour.

Sounds like there are trust issues in this relationship. I would suggest couples counseling. Now, before the wedding.