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If you're both of the same faith you should try to see someone who has the same core values. There are ministries that offer services - that may be of similar values of your church. I wish I could be more directly helpful... But maybe this tory will encourage you - here's what happened to us - after 14 years of marriage, a teen and tween our marriage was in rough shape - I asked and cajoled about counseling and my husband was pretty much against it. I think he felt that any counselor would "take my side" against him. I really prayed about it - asked God to intervene and bring some resolution. I can't tell you how difficult the last year had been, my father in law passed away, my mother-inlaw had to be put in a nursing hom, my mom got very ill. My husband was getting really selfish and was dealing with all this inner turmoil about his parents, selling their house, dealing with his siblings, etc. - and the kids and I were taking the brunt of it all. Then he and his mother were in a bad car accident when he was taking her back to the nursing hom after Easter dinner at our house. Seems awful - but through it all I prayed that God would take this bad and turn it around for good. Months have gone by - things aren't perfect but - my husband has been home for a few months. Finances have been tough - but we can get past them eventually. But he's now been witness to all that I do around the house and how much effrot it takes to run a household (I work part time so he thought I should be handling EVERYTHING at home) - he's been able to spend time with the kids and restore relationships with them. He had to have spinal surgery and was faced not only with his father's but his mortality - and he's come to appricate all that is really important in life. He became willing to meet with one of our pastors involving the loss of his dad but it's done more in his overall life and outlook.
What I'm trying to say that sometime when we get to what we think is the hardest thing in life to handle, and when it seems there's no way out - it sometimes suddenly gets worse and you wonder how much you can take. I had my moments sitting in the car in the hospital parking lot just crying - thining - what next God plague and pestilence? But I'd pray, or get an encouraging email from a friend telling me she was praying. There were times that I felt a load come off my shoulders and I didn't know why - and later I'd find out that someone had been praying for me at that time. Don't completely understand how - but I've found that God really can take bad stuff and turn it around for good. You just have to ask for his guidance and be willing to trust Him. The big thing is asking.
