K.B. asks from Minneapolis, MN on April 23, 2008
Inspiration for My Siblings Who Are Ill
I have three siblings, all who are sick :( My twin brother has prostrate cancer and is deciding on surgery or radiation; my older brother has lymphoma and multiple myeloma and has gone through radiation and starts chemo next week; and my sister has a blood clot above her heart and waiting for ablation surgery/procedure.
We are putting together a care package for each of them. For those of you who have seen a loved one going through chemo/radiation/heart stuff, what would be helpful to include in the package besides gobs of prayers and love? Also, if you know of REALLY funny movies and books that are REALLY just fun and hopeful, please send your list to me.
Thank you for your suggestions, and if so moved, for your prayers. It is a very sad time in my life because they are my only siblings.
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Thank you for your thoughtful ideas. Now, I have a great list of movies, books, and comfort items for my siblings so I'll be going to the post office alot. K.
A.T. answers from Davenport on April 24, 2008
All the Chicken Soup (for the soul) books are good. Readers Digest because the articles are short and usually upbeat. Keep in mind that often when you are really feeling awful it may be difficult to concentrate on long articles or books - not for everyone, but for some. MP3 player preloaded with their favorite music. Gum. Mints/peppermints. Change for snack machines.A tote bag (maybe customized with family and pet photos) to carry goodies and distractions. A special pillow (favorite color, customized in some way) and matching throw. Small polished "worry" stone (Rose quartz or buckeye or other fancy marble) - just something to hold in their hand and "worry" with their fingers - could also be a special "lucky" coin or other small keepsake. Small brag book with pics of family - either taken specially for the book or old favorites or a mix, vacation photos, dream vacation photos, etc.. Anything that will remind them that they are loved - a cap from favorite sports team, travel mug from their favorite vacation spot. Phone cards if they don't have a nation-wide cell phone.
R.B. answers from Sioux Falls on April 24, 2008
Sorry to hear of all of the heart ache that you're going through. My parents have both passed on from cancer. To go through loosing my parents was the hardest thing ever. I think the best thing that I ever watched was The Secret! There is a man in the DVD who is called the Miracle Man. He was in an Airplane accident and was paralyzed from the neck down. Every day he visualized only thoughts of wellness and walking. The doctors said that he would never walk or breath on his own and he did.
The DVD is about being positive, being grateful, but also about minding your mind. What we think about we bring about. I wish that when my parents were alive I could have shared this DVD with them.
You can get the DVD at www.thesecrettv.com (or something like that). That DVD has changed my life and it was also featured on Oprah.
Take care and hope things get better for you and your family.
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J.M. answers from Appleton on April 24, 2008
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this rough time. My father had AML and went through Chemo and radiation. I would suggest their favorite movies, books, something to keep them occupied. If they are going to be in the hospital anything that would make them feel more like home, pictures of family, favorite blanket or pillow from home any thing to make it more peaceful/ relaxing and comfortable as possible. Good luck.
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P.L. answers from Minneapolis on April 24, 2008
I am so sad to read your story. I will definitely put your family on my prayer chain.
As for keeping the laughter going, I strongly recommend the Adam Sandler movie "Waterboy". Henry Winkler is in it as well, and it will keep you laughing. We have probably seen it a dozen times!
For reading material, I recommend the Mitford Series by Jan Karon. The stories revolve around a priest, Father Tim, who gets in to one thing after another! It's very light reading and quite humorous. The first book in the series is "At Home in Mitford". These books are available at the library. There are probably 4 or 5 books in the series.
If I think of any others, I will write another post. Good luck.
K.D. answers from Madison on April 24, 2008
I have a friend/coworker who has Lymphoma...we have been volunteering to bring frozen meals and desserts etc.on a biweekly basis... We also take turns taking her kids (4 yrs and 2 yrs) to the park or for outings the days after her chemo when she is most wiped out so she can rest. Also, fun scarves or hats to wear for the hair loss. Also, we have a monthly night out to Pedros or somewhere to get her out of the house. Also, us coworkers have donated some of our vacation hours to her to cover what her disability doesnt...you could check with their work and coworkers to see if that is possible...Also, Deanna Favres book about her dealing with breast cancer is really good...hang in there, you sound like a great Sister:)
B.S. answers from Dubuque on April 24, 2008
You truely are in a depressing situation. Knowing that they will all have to spend time in the hospital, a nice new pair of slippers or a robe would come in handy. A hospital stay can be very lonely so maybe a calling card so they can call family and friends. Books, word puzzle books, playing cards, or some nice stationary with a pen.
God bless you and your family.
J.T. answers from Minneapolis on April 24, 2008
I'm not much into movies, but the best to me are always the oldies. Anything with Laurel and Hardy in it, any old shows of Lucy, Carol Burnett, Tim Conway, Peter Sellers, Gene Wilder.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I will hold them in prayer.
M.J. answers from Omaha on April 24, 2008
When i make a care basket for someone ill, I include unscented lotion and body wash as well as very soft Puffs tissues (unscented) and very sofy slipper socks. If someone is having surgery, I include a cute pillow for holding when coughing. I often incllude a soft squishiy stuffed animal. Elephants with the trunk up are a sign of good luck. A cute pen and a journal are sometimes helpful for journaling thoughts. These are just a few ideas that I hope help you. I make sure that items are unscented and soft, especially for someone undergoing treatment for cancer. Nausea is often a problem for them as well as very sensitive skin. The best to you and your siblings!
L.G. answers from Minneapolis on April 24, 2008
Here's a funny movie: Bringing Home Baby with Katherine Hepburn and Cary Grant (I believe). It's the one where they have a pet tiger in their house. Hilarious.
I had a friend with cancer and I offered to make her a super healing antioxidant potion, but I made it her choice. She didn't take me up on my offer, but she seems to be doing well without it. Anyway, I personally find that stories about people who beat cancer without surgery or drugs are very inspiring. Lots of people find it very hard to believe, but I guess I'm one of the few who does believe that the plants that were put here on God's green earth were meant to heal us. If it's something that interests you, I'm sure there are books out there that describe people's amazing recovery stories.