I'am Ready to Have Another Child?

It sounds like perhaps a playgroup with other preschoolers your son's age might also help. Hopefully this won't come across preachy, but it really is best to try to get in good shape before starting a new pregnancy. I know it can be hard to find the time and energy to get in shape, but starting a pregnancy when one is already out of shape can lead to a very difficult pregnancy (I know, I've had one when I was overweight-and it was absolutely miserable, so much so that at times I literally thought I might not survive it. I couldn't even get myself in or out of the bathtub I was so big and had so many complications). I'm proud to say that I have since lost 40 lbs, am down to 160 lbs now, and am still losing weight. I have set a goal for myself of where I want to be before starting a new pregnancy and I consider that my first gift to my not-yet-conceived baby. Best of luck to you.

Should you decide to get pregnant again, my sister started out introducing my nephew to a baby doll, then to friends that had baby siblings to see how he would react and kind of 'teach' him how to act with a smaller child.

Good luck~

I'm thinking if you have to ask us if you are ready for another child, then YOU are NOT ready for another child. They are hard enough to raise when we were "ready," that I can't imagine how hard it would be to raise a child for which we were not ready. If you need playmates for your child, I'd find another mom with a child willing to share playtime with you - the moms can have a great chat while the kids play. It's also a hard, but necessary, to learn that Mommy will not always play with you - sometimes you have to entertain yourself. It's a hard age, but you will get through it.

Having another child will not automatically give your first child a playmate. I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 2 year old and for the most part they play independently and every once in a while will they play together. As we would all hope the more children we have the more company they will be for one another, however each child is still going to demand your undivided attention!

I understand your pain and frustation, I also have a 2 year old and i am considering having another one but concerned about my sons behavior. My husband and I talked about it and we figured that sooner or later he would love the idea of having a sibling around because there are times as parents that we are too tired to play. My only advice to you is purchase books and watch movies that will help your son relate to having another baby around and also schedule playdates to see his reaction. Also, I think a 3 or 4 year gap in age is perfect because you want your kids to grow together and experience lifes ups and downs together as siblings.