I Would like to Talk with Other Moms of Twins or Multiples for Advice

Hi A.,
I'm in a similar situation. My husband and I just found out on Thursday we are having twins. It is my first pregnancy. I hope to find a local twins club to start gathering info and advice!
I am due September 21st. When are you due?
J.

Hi, A.! I am a mother of girl/boy twins that are 33 mths old. What an experience! They are so neat, and so much work, but so worth it. Opening a forum, would be very helpful for you! Do you know what you are having? When are you due?
It will be helpful, since you have a 4 year old, because she will want to help. Just allow her to help out in any way that she can. It will let her not feel like she is being left out, and plus, you would be able to use the extra help.
I would be glad to answer any questions that you may have come up through pregnancy and during their growing up. I had a bad pregnancy, where I was sick from 2nd trimester until I went into labor at 29 weeks. I was on a lot of antibiotics, and my twins ended up being born with C-diff. Thankfully, they have almost outgrown it now. My son, who the docs thought would be a vanishing twin had a lot of GI (GastroIntestinal) problems, and was pretty ill the first 18 months of life. My daughter, other than having C-Diff, she out grew it at about 12-18 months old, she has been very healthy, except for the normal ear infections, but she does have allergies, pretty badly, but so do I and her paternal grandmother.
It is neat now that the twins are older, because the feed of each other. They do thrive being with each other, but again when one is sick, the other is down. It is like they know when something happens to one without being around each other, when that happens. Don't get me wrong they fight like any other siblings do, but they have a special bond. I would highly recommend that if they are in NICU at birth to demand they be in the same bed or able to touch each other, even when you get them home. We had 2 cribs, but we ended up putting them in the same bed, so I could get some sleep, because I was breastfeeding & pumping around the clock. It helped the first 3-4 months to keep them on a schedule, and a schedule I HIGHLY recommend. However, when my twins got a little older I put them in seperate rooms, because they weren't eating as much at night, and one would wake often in middle of the night, waking the other up, then after a month of that, we put them in seperate rooms, again I wise decision.
I would be glad to help you in anyway I can, feel free to email me at ____@____.com or ____@____.com luck to you, your husband and daughter, and the twins.

Hi A. B,

I am T. from Wabash Indiana I do not have twins of my own but I am a twin myself we are 25 years old. So if you have any questions on twins I can ask my mother so I hope maybe this is of some help to you. Also when are you due and are they boys or girls? My husband and I have three girls of the ages 6,2, and 1. Which you would think being a twin we would of had twins but my mother and father tell me it will be our girls that would most likely to have twins. So if you want or have any questions feel free to ask and goodluck.
T.

I have a 3 year old daughter and twin boys that are 11 mos old. Twins are a day by day thing. As soon as you bring them home get them on a routine. You will find it is much easier that way. You are going to get sick of going out anywhere for some reason people act like you are in a circus because they come up amazed at twins and multiples. Some days it will get overwelming then other days it won't be so bad. Twins are very different then singles because they have each other to work off of. If you have any questions feel free to ask How far along are you now?

Im the mother of twin boys 6 months old i also have 2 other boys would like a forum.

Hi A.,
My name is S.. I am a first time, working mother of 18 month old twin boys. Ask me anything ! I will offer the best advice I can give! Having multiple newborns is the most challenging thing I have encountered in my life ! I didn't have much help, my mother lives out of state, the father of the boys worked all the time, and his mother was ill. So I pretty much spent the first few months doing it alone. I feel that I have some experience under my belt. At this point, I would say sleep as much as you possibly can, because you won't be getting much at all once they get here. Feel free to contact me at any time with questions. ____@____.com best of luck to you and your family.
Sincerely,
S.

First of all happy to hear about twins. Do you know what they are yet????
I am a mom of a set of twins that is a boy and girl they will be 2 years old on the 17 of march. Twins are very sweet and love each other. You will find your self just watching them look at each other to see what they do to each other. My twins didn't sleep together at first b/c we had two cribs well now they are in toddler beds and they are post to sleep in their own bed while in the night they always go and sleep with each other no matter what bed it is.
oh another thing try your best to get the nurses to let you have the twins together if they are in the NICU b/c my son missed his sister really bad but they would not let me put them together and i have talked to other moms and dads and they say the same....another thing....i talked to a mom and the nicu would not let her twins until they found out that one twin was not doing good unless with the other twin....really neat things...but yeah i know it is hard also but is anything else just ask ____@____.com i am a mom of 5 kids....

That would be wonderful! I have twin boys that are now almost 5 months old, a daughter that just turned 2, and a daughter that is 8. It is hard, but it is all worth it!! All I can say is schedule everything so you don't go insane.

Congradulations!Mother of 3 1/2 yr.old twins girls,13 yr.old son. We also went through NICU seen for almost 3 months, they were born 3 1/2 months early. Everyone told to put them on the same schedlue, feed them on a schedule,etc.. I didnt listein. I feed them when they were hungrey, both breatfeed, they slept when they were tired, changed them when needed, etc.. It is hard, but so much fun. If your a full time working mom, a schedlue might work better for you. I just recently went back to work when they started pre-preschool. If you plan on daycare or babysitter, I would suggest a scheldule. A daycare will put them on scheldue. it is harder then one child, but for me, it was not that much diffrent. We went through the colic something awful with both at the same time, that was rough, but other than that, normal infant stages. get as much rest as you can! There are soo many books on mothers with multiplies, I would suggest even gettting 2-3 of them and picking out what you feel is right for you. I will say though, you can plan things one way, your twins might have a WHOLE diffrent idea. Stay relaxed about it. do not stress out over little stuff. one eats at a diffrent time then the other or there sleep habits become diffrent, just rock them, sing to them kiss and hug and love on them. it works out in the end. the more relaxed you are about being a parent of muli. they better for all and the more your able to enjoy those little blessings. Also get your 4 yr.old involved. Let her feel like she is such a big sister. let her help decorate the nursery, get the clothes ready, help set up some of her favorite toys close to where you will be mainly with twins. Make her feel vary involved and as if she is very needed as the big sister. Tell her now how important she is to you and how excited you are for her, the new babies will require more attention the just one baby, let her know that. that she can help mommy out alot! I hope this helps out some. goodluck and God bless.

hello all well im a single mom of boy/girl twins they will be 13 in may.. i dunno about advice to give but will sure try.

I am a single mother of almost 4 year old twin boys. My best advice is to get them on a strict routine right away. When one wakes up to eat, get the other one up and feed them at the same time. Even my doctor urged me to do this, even though i was skeptical at first. It allowed me to get the rest i needed in between the feedings. You will find that twins play with each other often, so they need a bit less mommy attention time. It helped me get my homework done (I was in college when i had them) before 10pm at night. It's amazing to see how twins are alike, but different. Everyday i marvel at how my boys have such different personalities that i cannot see how poeple could get them mixed up (they are fraternal, but look really similar). Be prepared for everyone at stores, restaurants, and even on the street to stop and ask you about them. People have a huge interest in multiples. Have fun! and don't worry so much about everything.
T.
P.S. There is a support group for mothers of multiples for Northeast Indiana. If you want information, I could get it for you. They were a big help the first year. Just send me a message.

Well I am not sure what kind of advice you want, but i am a mom of four kids. I have a almost 12 year old son, an almost 8 year old son, and boy/girl twins that will be 4 next month. I can probably give you all kinds of advice.

Hey there I am the mother of 4 year old twins. I also have 3 other singletons. You might also see if you can join a mother of multiples or twins club. There is a national group and you can find them online that will direct you to your closest club. They usually have good consignment sales 2 times a year that can save you loads on clothes.
J.

Hi A.,

I am a single stay at home mom of identical twin 8 month old boys. They are amazing, and you will enjoy watching everything that they do alone and together. Congratulations on your double blessings and I would love to be a part of a twins/multiples forum!

Hi A.,
A forum will be a fantastic idea, we can all share our experiences and ideas!! I have 16 month old twin boys and a 3 year old girl. It has been an amazing experience, a lot of work, but as other moms said, so worth it!!

Hi A. I have twins that just turned 1 and I have a 7 year old, let me know if you want to chat! K.