P.T. asks from Tampa, FL on June 07, 2007
I Love to Dance
hi, my 4yr old "loves to dance" her words. my problem. I am very strict about what i expose her to. we have a very god loving home and we don't listen to everyday music. the church we were attending had a sign dance class for the kids and she would go. i no longer attend that church and need a place for her to learn dance- sign language -preferred. i don't do ballet or jazz or tap,because of music and dress. i don't allow her to go naked. please help a conservative mom give her child a dance she can enjoy.
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i think most of you got the wrong idea of what i needed, i want my daughter to dance. i want her to know the beauty of dance. i teach her to appreciate her body and to dress modestly. i know that dance requires leotards and tights, but i also know that there is a place that don't require that. i am looking for that place and thanks to Lorriane i think i might have found a place. my little girl loves to , as she puts it " shake her boody". i want her to dance not "shake her boody".
M.B. answers from Tampa on June 08, 2007
I am a mother of 3, my oldest girl is 6, my son is 3 and my baby girl is 14 months. Let you kids be kids! Just b/c they want to do ballet, or cheerleading, doesn't mean they are "naked". God knows all and sees all! Do you allow her to listen to Radio Disney? It is 100 percent kid friendly. I am sorry, but you want your kids to be kids right? I think you need to stop being so conservative. Life only happens once, so enjoy it while you can! M.
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M.H. answers from Sarasota on June 08, 2007
I try to stay away from religious talk because I tend to make people angry. However, please don't give your little girl a bad and naughty image of her body and I have a really hard time believing that God wouldn't love to sit back and watch a beautiful ballet! If you find something, great. If not, please don't deny her completely! Your amazing love and support is all she needs to stay on the straight and narrow, no matter what dance she performs. Sorry if I upset anyone, I really just wanted to say my peace.
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T.J. answers from Jacksonville on June 09, 2007
Destiny Dance center in Orange Park is Christian Dance Studio. I too, have Christian girls. They have danced since they were 3. They are now 14 and 16. They dance at a regular studio, but last year we were in the process of looking for a new studio, and went to Destiny's recital. It was beautiful, but unfortunately they didn't have classes at my daughters' level. Of course much of the music was contemporary Christian, and leotards must be worn for practice, so I'm not sure how you'd feel about this.
M. answers from Sarasota on June 08, 2007
I think you need to let your child enjoy the music that she likes: ballet or jazz or tap are all wonderful kind of music. By you refusing her that kind of music and forcing on her your prefferences are not right.
I am a mother of two children, and I let them make their own choices about what they like and do not like. Because thie is what they eventualy do in their life, make their own choices!!!
A.B. answers from Tampa on June 08, 2007
first if your daughter wants to express herself through dance- that is so great. if you don't want her to listen to certain music, thats fine- you are the parent. you can still dance to christian pop music. my problem with your statement was the naked part........ being dressed with little and being naked is two very different things. you are showing your daughter how much you dislike several types of dances because of the clothing or the music. there is nothing wrong- god isn't going to cast you to hell- from jazz, ballet, or tap!!!! dance can be a beautiful thing, i know that you know that. but if you are going to be this stricked about dance- watch out when she becomes a teenager!!!!
L.J. answers from Tampa on June 08, 2007
P. what church were you going to? You sound like you have my holiness standards on how you live your life. I am very modest in apparel and I don't listen to anything but christian music. My home is a God fearing-loving home. We don't watch hardly any t.v. When we do watch it we usually just watch the news for a few minutes, weather channel and Tuesday nights we watch Deadliest Catch the worlds most dangereous job. What city do you live in and I can possible direct you to a church that does (dance) sign language. I know we are trying to start one in our church! We are having a special speaker this Sunday at our Church here in Brandon. 505 S. Kings Ave. and it starts at 10:00 am. I would love to meet you and your family. My husband and I are the Hospitality Ministry at our church and I think it would be so neat to meet some of the mommysource moms in person! I truly love this website. It has been a blessing to give advice on my own experiences.
God Bless you and your family,
P.L. answers from Tampa on June 08, 2007
I had to response to this. I think it wrong to teach your daughter that naked is bad. She is child and she came out of the womb naked - that is how God creates us. You are going to cause her to feel shameful about her body and that is not right.
As for dance, there is nothing wrong with ballet, jazz, or tap. They are classical forms of dance, especially ballet. Ballet is performed to mostly clasical music - I can't see how classical music, with no words, could be considered "sinful". I took 6 years of dance as child - it was great fun!