How to Stop Biting - Clinton,MS

Updated on June 22, 2011
E.G. asks from Clinton, MS
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How do you stop a 1 year old from bitting. We had a consultation with the nusery on monday about her bitting so much. She bit 5 in one day and tried more. They move her to older classes but she is not intimidated by them. She bit a 3 year old. She doesn't bite much at home. Sat she bit me and I told her no and bad girl. She did do to me this morning and I made her bite herself. She cried but I am not sure she is putting it together. I know that she is having lots of problems with teething, always has her hands in her mouth. I sent teething tablets and one of those teething pascies. I sent this morning a little tiny blanket for her to chew on. I called this morning and so far she hasn't bit anyone. But, the last week or so she had bit at least 3 or 4 times everyday. I know it is a stage but how do I help. I want her to play with the other kids but they are having to seperate her from everyone and stay in the office it has been so bad. I don't want her in the office all day bored and not playing with others. What can I do?

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Oh just to let you know I dout we will get kicked out my cousin owns the daycare. They are working with her and us it is just so frustrating

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A.R.

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My kids were biters & bitees, it cycles.

Couple things, teach her some sign language, just simple signs like more or drink or eat and it might help her communicate better and reduce the biting out of frustration.

For you daycare I highly recommend a technique called shadowing. If a child bites more than once in a day they become the caregiver's shadow - means they can't be out of arms reach for the remainder of the day. This helps the caregiver pick up on triggering behaviors/situations so they can prevent in the future as well as allowing the caregiver to intervene immediately to stop the behavior. It's the only technique that worked with my kids and the other kids in their classes. We were in 4 different daycares during the biting years (moved a few times) and the shadowing technique worked great, better than anything else any of the daycares tried.

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S.K.

answers from Dallas on

When our son was about that age, he would try to bite me when I was holding him. I said "Ouch" loudly and then with a stern face I said something like No biting! or We don't bite! Then I put him down and walked away. It hurt his feelings and after a few times he quit.
When our twins were biting each other, it was happening all the time and I finally started biting them. Not too hard, just enough to make my point. They stopped. Once or twice each is all it took. They never bit anyone else.
The suggestion of having someone at daycare shadow your dd sounds good. They need to figure out what triggers it and catch her before she does it, if that's possible. Our girls were quick!

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G.H.

answers from Chicago on

well since you are confident that your DD won't get kicked out, your cousin may start to lose clients. Your cousin needs to think about this as a business & not as favoritism. Biting 5 in one day & trying for more & does it several times everyday, would really upset me as a parent. I'm curios to know how your cousin would handle this if it was a *normal* client. Personally if I new there was a repeat biter & nothing could *control* the situation I would file a complaint & leave the facility.

What worked for me & was the fastest method of stopping the biting was to bite back. I encourage you to do this when she does it to you.

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T.G.

answers from Seattle on

I used to stick the knuckle of my index finger into her cheek. Not hard enough to seriously hurt or bruise her obviously. You don't have to push very hard to make it very uncomfortable for her. Of course you tell her no in a very stern voice as well.

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M.J.

answers from Sacramento on

Be very careful ... she may just get kicked out. A lot of daycares have no tolerance level for normal behaviors like this.

Our son was a hitter, so we got a series of books about not hitting. I know they have a similar one for biting: Teeth are not for Biting. Look at a bookstore or on Amazon. These books are aimed at young kids, so the content is just right. Our son's went along the lines of, "Hands are not for hitting. What are hands for? Helping, hugging, eating, keeping safe ..."

The other key thing, we learned, is to keep the talk brief after the incident. Make sure the daycare simply says, "No biting" calmly, removes her from fun, and doesn't talk on and on after that. Otherwise, it can be seen as a form of attention and kids will continue the bad behavior.

Good luck! The good news is it's a short phase, so hopefully she'll be over it soon. Our kids were both victims of biters and I've seen firsthand how fast it can happen. It's just one of those phases, really. You either end up with a biter or a victim of a biter.

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P.K.

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One year old is tough. They are teething and really do not understand biting is wrong. Just tell her no and then remove her, not into an office, just from
the spot she was at. She will eventually stop.

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