Help I Have 2 in Diapers!!!!

I had the same troubles with my son before we finally got him fully potty trained. What I finally had to do was take a week off from work and be at home with him all day everday to get him to do it. A power struggle with a 2 year old is fruitless so my best advice is be patient and try not to get frustrated. Children have control over very little aside from when and where they go potty so what seems like stubborn refusal is probably just a control issue. I know it was with my son. Also remember you have a new baby in the house and this may cause her to regress a little. Patience it the only advice I have for you. Good Luck!!!

Try putting her in training pants for awhile. My 3year old was in a montessori infant care center and they only used clothe diapers(training pants) She was 18 months when she started showing interest and I believe the clothe training pants had a lot to do with it. They don't like to be wet or messy. I have a 15 month old whom I will start with the training pants at 18 months. She is already showing interest but I was told their muscles are not developed until around 18 months. It may be a long process but all kids are potty trained in their own time. Patience is what parents need to have. Good luck.

We just finally got my son potty trained, he is 3!!! I had hopes that this would have happened sooner, but he just wans't interested in using the potty and everytime we tried it just felt like we were forcing him and turning it into a fight, instead of the positive experience that my pediatrician recomended it be. So just try and be patient, when she is ready it will be a more positive experience for all involved, instead of the power struggle that is so common amoung toddlers. I also found that bribing him with stickers and "candy" (vitamin gummy bears) helped to peak his interest, but not until he was truly ready.

I sadly don't have any advise, but wanted to assure you that you aren't alone! I have 2 daughters (2years and 3 months), both in diapers. My oldest is too stubborn to use the potty full time. She will use the potty if I let her run around naked, but won't if she has something to catch her mess. Good luck.

My son showed every sign of readiness except one: the desire. He simply had no interest in it and there wasn't a thing I could do about it. It wasn't until he was told he couldn't go to preschool without being potty-trained that finally made him want to do it. He was just over 3-years old.

I don't think there is anything you can do to force her to use the potty. And if she won't even sit on the potty, I think you need to wait. Remember, a lot of kids don't potty train until they are 3 or 4. I had two kids in diapers for over a year. I know how frustrating and expensive it can be. But if your daughter's not ready yet, you'll only frustrate the two of you. I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I would really back off the issue for a couple of months, put the potty away and then bring it back out later. She may just wonder what happened to it and that may spark some interest.

Best wishes!

Oh, as someone else mentioned, we did use Dr Phil's method to potty-train our son and it worked. But again, only because he knew he couldn't go to school unless he could use the potty. My daughter just kind of learned to potty on her own, but she's 2 1/2 and still has accidents every now and then.

It is tough having two in diapers. My 11-month old and 2-and-a- half year old are both wearing diapers. On top of that my 5yo wets the bed, so she wears pull-ups at night. It is all very expensive! It sounds like you are doing the right thing by not turning it into a power struggle. My advice is to just keep being patient. My 2 and a half year old is also struggling with potty training. The key is consistency. I just ask her all the time if she needs to go potty. Sometimes she says no and refuses to sit on it, and sometimes she will sit on it, and she's even used it sometimes. So my advice is to just keep asking her to go in the potty. I've found my local library has some cute potty training books and videos, maybe those kinds of things will get her interested in sitting on the potty. Whenever you or your older daughter need to use the bathroom, encourage your 2yo to go potty at the same time, my daughter seems to like doing that. Good luck, I really empathize with you!

Potty training is not an over night happening, it usually take months. I know there are stories of kid out of diaper at 18 months but I don't believe it (I have 3, and the yougest was 3 1/2 before he was #1 potty trained and took another 6-7 months to be #2 trained and he is still in pull-ups at night and he is 5). I can't count the times I put him on the potty, sit there for awhile, he would tell me he couldn't and then get him dress again, only to pee and wet himself. My 2 oldest kids were only 18 months apart also, so I know it frustrating changing bottoms a day. I know of lots more stories of it taking weeks, if not months. Much of the time a child is #1 trained but take longer for #2, and then other times a child could be #2 trained first. Sometime they are totally trained for months and then have several accidents. 2yrs old is still pretty young so give it time. It really takes alot of reasoning skills, and thought to be potty trained. Think about it. First, she has to know what the feeling of a full bladder means, then she needs tell you, go to the potty, pull down the undies and use her muscle and release at the right time. Doing # 2 take a diffent muscle and different feeling. Be patient, it takes time.

My oldest daughter was potty trained with ease, didn't need advice or anything. Then it was my son's turn and everyone said if they are not ready there is nothing you can do (the problem was he had to be potty trained for pre-school) Many people refered me to Dr. Phils website and potty training method. thankfully my daughter already had a dolly that could use the potty, but my son hadn't seen it. We followed MOST of the method. It did take us longer than a weekend. We really kept on him (in a positive manner) and within a month he was fully potty trained. After a week I became a little frustrated, but a friend told me she got a clear jar and a bunch of little toys and wrapped them, and whenever her daughter went potty she got a sticker and whenver she went poop she got to pick from the jar. We used this with my son and it really worked well. These are just a few suggestions, but you really should check out the Dr Phil website. Good Luck

Well, all I can tell you is that every child is VERY different. My first son didn't potty train till he was almost 4 years old. Every time I tried to encourage it he would refuse for another month or so. When I gave up he did it. My daughter was potty trained before him and she is 16 months younger. Maybe try to just let it go and see if she starts to show interest on her own. Good luck!