Help!!!! - Denver,CO

Updated on April 12, 2010
S.W. asks from Saint Paul, MN
21 answers

I have had a child and a misscarage and i am trying to get pregnant again i missed my period and
i have most of the signs of pregnancy and i am freaked out because the tests keep comeing back
negitive and the scarry part is that i am getting big like i am 4 month pregnant round but now fat
i am very freaked out and scarred that something is wrong with me is it even posable to get huge
this early?

What can I do next?

  • Add yourAnswer own comment
  • Ask your own question Add Question
  • Join the Mamapedia community Mamapedia
  • as inappropriate
  • this with your friends

Featured Answers

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

C.S.

answers from Salt Lake City on

Don't take this too harshly, but you sound a bit uneducated and it might be best if you stick to birth control from here on out.

D.M.

answers from Kansas City on

If test keep showing up negative get to a dr for a blood test. I got pretty big by the time i was 5 months like having twins big!! so i believe its normal

More Answers

G.P.

answers from Modesto on

Sorry to hear that. Maybe ask your doctor what is going on. My sis was told she was pregnant and learned she had a cyst on her ovaries. She got the symptoms of being pregnant when she really wasn't. They gave her a pill to clear it up. Google has alot of info to offer on cysts and everything. I would have that checked out.
It could get painful if not treated. She missed 4 months of her pms also. I hope its not a cyst, but you never know. Good luck with that. G.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

B.L.

answers from Denver on

S., you are most likely NOT pregnant. I don't know how "soon" you took the pregnancy test, but if it was PAST the time your period was due (i.e. day 28 or day 30 or so) then you probably aren't preggo. Those tests are extremely accurate (this according to my OB). If you are stressed and freaking out that will only delay your period. Everyone else was spot on, go to the Dr and have them test your FSH levels by Blood test. That will definitively show if you are pregnant or not. Best wishes.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

D.F.

answers from Provo on

go to the doctor and have test run, your freaking out will not help.
could be a couple of things. Just go and be checked.
D. F Utah

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

K.S.

answers from Denver on

When you mention "Tests" are these home tests or tests from the Doctor? I know you are upset and scared but you need to go see your doctor or go to planned parenthood if you do not have a regular doctor. If you have already had a child, your body is already stretched out and you will show sooner. But too ease your anxiety and stop making yourself scared or sick you need to go see a doctor. There is no way for anyone to diagnoise you as being pregnant online in a forum. I wish you the best of luck.

K.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

C.K.

answers from Atlanta on

I have had tests come back negative before you dont have enough of the hormone yet in your urine for the home test... They will have to do that by blood..
I too got big and was showing fast and what seemed to be early so I thought he was lying about my due date but I just got big faster... So YES that can happen... If your having all the symptoms I would make an appt with your dr to have them do a urine and a blood one as well..
Good luck too you!!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

C.E.

answers from Provo on

i'm sorry you're struggling with this. i know how hard it is to not stress out about something like this, but try. take deep breaths, distract yourself with good things until you can see your OBGYN. there are a few conditions besides pregnancy that can cause the things you are feeling and you need to find out from your doctor which one it is. if your doctor does not know for sure what is going on with you, get a second opinion from another doctor because this is obviously important to you. i have endometriosis and adenomyosis. they cause my abdomen to swell at times and i'm often nauseous. they also cause irregular periods-- sometimes light or skipped, sometimes unusually heavy or too often. i had those symptoms for a while before the pain started, alerting me that something was definitely wrong. my MIL, who has had 3 children, once thought she was pregnant because of missed periods, belly growth (she's very fit), and even milk in her breasts. it turned out to be a cyst, not a pregnancy. i hope you have made that appointment with your doctor by now! ;) good luck.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.F.

answers from Denver on

While you do show sooner with a second baby I am not sure you can look 4 months along this soon, but perhaps.
Instead of worrying so much, you need to go see your OB right away. Could be a pregnancy, but it also could be a cyst or something else.
Many times when we want to be pregnant we can make signs appear... I know that sounds crazy but it is true.
While HPT can be faulty more than likely if they are coming up negative you most likely are not prego. But to ease your concern get into to see a doc right away. If you are prego you will want to start off on the right path and seeing a doc is your best bet!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

S.S.

answers from Cheyenne on

By the time I was 6 weeks pregnant with my second son, I looked like I was any day from delivery (and people made sure to comment that way and were amazed that I was only 6 weeks.) I should mention that I lost all my past preg weight from my first son plus some though my tummy muscles and skin were so stretched out from my son that I never got a flat tummy again. You may find that you can feel this baby much more easily (and earlier-I felt him at 13 weeks compared to 19 weeks withmy first) than the first. Good luck and I truly hope you find you are pregnant (I remember what it was like waiting for that positive result after a loss).

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.W.

answers from Salt Lake City on

sounds like you need to go to the doctors. You could have a tubal pregnancy which is not good and is dangerous for you and baby. When it comes to pregnancy and your health and the babies health/life it is better safe than sorry. You especially have to take care of yourself when you have a little one to take care and a husband. I am sure your husband would like to keep you around to help raise your child, not to sound to bold but I am sure thats the truth. Best of luck. If it was me or one of my loved ones I would say go to your obgyn!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

K.D.

answers from Denver on

I did get big and was wearing maternity clothes in my first trimester when I was expecting twins. My next pregnancy never had a positive urine test, even though my numbers were well above the number required for a positive test. I have a very healthy baby girl almost ready to turn two from that pregnancy. I'd say if you have the question, go in a see your doctor for a blood test, but mind you, there's really nothing like an ultrasound to know exactly for sure what's going on if you have some conflicting information like this. I had a friend who was five months pregnant when she went in. She had only missed one period. Don't stress and give the doctor a call in the morning to schedule an appointment.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.N.

answers from Salt Lake City on

How late is your period? Are there other symptoms (like nausea, being more tired, tender breasts, frequent trips to the potty, etc)?

It sounds like maybe this has been going on for a bit (since you say you're getting big). I would definitely go to the doctor. When you make the appointment let them know that you're late, but with negative tests, but your belly is getting big. It could be something else causing it, and might be wise to get it checked right away. Chances are it's nothing serious, but it's better to rule anything else out. And while you're there you can talk to your doctor about what to expect in getting prego again (sometimes can be a bit different after a miscarriage, depending on the cause).

In the mean time, try to relax. Distress only makes things worse. Do things to get your mind off it and know that you will find out soon enough.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

R.S.

answers from Provo on

Um...doubtful on the size thing but maybe if it was multiples but then I'd think you would be getting a positive result on your tests. I don't know. How late are you? If it has been a week plus I'd go in and get a blood test because every so often there are people who don't get positives on their urine tests. Strange, though, on the growing part. Let us know!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

K.M.

answers from Orlando on

Unfortunately once you have a child your muscles give up when you get pregnant again and you look bigger faster. A negative pregnancy test might just mean that you are trying to soon. I would be interested in knowing what signs of of pregnancy your experiencing.
Since these signs could be mimicked by other conditions, I would make an appointment and see your doctor then you will know for sure.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

A.V.

answers from Provo on

You really should consult with a doctor. If anything, it will give you peace of mind.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.K.

answers from Phoenix on

I'd definately follow up with a doctor. But I got big really fast with a couple of my pregnancies. I looked about 4 months prego before I even took the pregancy test.

Good luck to you.
Jaimee

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

T.W.

answers from Denver on

Go see your doctor. Have them do a blood test and yes you can get big fast, especially if you have had children. Good luck and there is nothing to freak about just go find out if you are indeed pregnant. If you aren't something else is going on.

Good luck!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.G.

answers from Cleveland on

One of my ex-coworkers took home test & a test at the doctors... they all said she wasn't expecting. They did a vaginal exam & ultra sound with showed she was. Mind you this was about 4 or 5 months after she had miscarried. She did have a healthy baby boy... which is now about 4 yrs old.

Go see your doctor!

C.T.

answers from Detroit on

go to the doctor and find out?

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

D.R.

answers from Denver on

Honey, based on your 4 past posts, this has been going on for quite some time for you. You think your symptoms could be stress related? Either way, you need to go and see a doctor.

For Updates and Special Promotions
Follow Us

Related Questions