Friends

I was in the same situation in 2003. If I had to do it all over again I would have asked both of them to find a way to get along for me. Or I would have to replace both of them. Instead I replaced 1 of them and ended up losing a good friend.The one I kept didnt do anything she was supposed to do anyway. I think picking her over the other made her head swell.
I definately agree with everyone else about getting the 2 of them together with you and tell them either they make nice around wedding prepperations or you'll have to replace them.

G.
Have you had a conversation with the both of them. I would sit them down together and tell them that this is YOUR DAY and if they were any type of friends they would knock it off. That you don't know and DONT CARE what is going on with them, but if they want to be a part of YOUR DAY, they will stop or you will "kick them out" of the wedding. Then follow up with it. If they or one of them even is still being miserable, find someone else to take their place. This is a very stressful time for you and with you being stressed it is also putting stress on your fiance's life too. It isn't worth it.

things like this are always hard. i think the best thing to do is to sit down with both of them and figure out what is the problem. see if they can work things out. this is the most important day in your life (with the exception of having your kids) and they need to understand that. if they are truely good friends of yours they will do what ever it takes to work it out for you sake. i think you need to express the fact that you don't need the extra stress right now and how this hurts you. i hope things work out for you, and congradulations on your wedding!

Well tell them if they cant grow up and put their feelings aside and focus on you because this is YOUR day, tell them they are both out of the wedding and choose some family members to take their place. Tell them you have enough stress and their problems arent something on your "things I need to worry about on my wedding day.." list. If they are too immature to understand then they arent very good friends for you to begin with.

G.,
First all of all, this is your "BIG" day not theirs. Whatever it is that they may be fighting over, it's their problems not yours. You need to get them in a room together and let them know how this is making you feel and the stress it is putting on you as a Mother, as a wife to be, and as a friend to them both. And remind them, that it's your big day and not theirs. Hope this helps. A.

honestly i would explain that i love them both and don't want to upset either of them but this is your wedding and if they want to participate that they have to get along for your sake of else they just won't be included its your day and you should not have to worry about their problems you should have a great day and not added stress from their bickering just lay down the law give an ultimatum and say if you want to be in my wedding you have to get along or else i will have someone else take your place i love you your my friends but i can't have the stress of your fight ruin my moment

Weddings are stressful enough for brides without having others add to it with poor behavior. If you don't want this to overshadow your wedding and put a damper on what should be a wonderful day for you and your soon-to-be husband, then you need to sit these two down and talk to them. Tell them how their behavior is making it hard for you to enjoy the thought of your own wedding and that you deserve to know what is going on. If they won't cooperate and try to get this situation patched up, or at least call a cease-fire then you may have to consider not having either one of them in your wedding. This way you can't be accused of choosing sides. If they can't put you first on your wedding day.. from plans to celebration..then they shouldn't be involved.

They are probably just fighting for your attention, I have friends like that too, if it gets too out of hand, just sit them down and explain to them how you feel, and that they do not have to like each other, but they need to grow up and get along for your sake, because I am sure they will be seeing a lot of each other at your gatherings!
N.

I could have posted that myself a few years ago - that's exactly how my wedding was!! we had a small wedding party and the 2 girls i had are both best friends of mine but have never gotten along with each other.
It got a little stressful until i just stepped back & realized that's just how they'll always be so I had to figure out a way to make it work! :) It may not work for you, but I actually ended up doing a lot with each of them individually. They each came to look at dresses with me at separate times, one helped me with flowers, the other helped with shoes, etc, etc. As we were doing all these fun things I talked to each individually and said "I know you don't like her but please for one day try to forget that for me!" And after chatting they both understood and were so willing to put aside differences for my day! :) They don't love each other now, but they tolerated each other a few times for me. When it came down to it they only actually had to hang out 4 times... a bridal show we all went to, the bachelorette party (which was the only drama, but doesn't every wedding have some drama?) the rehersal day and the wedding day! They were both at the shower too but, even though they had to sit at the same table, my mom (who threw one huge shower with them) delegated them out to very different jobs, and they were all super busy, so it worked out!
And the best part is I was still able to have some good quality time with each of them without fighting or competition or much drama involved.

If I were you I would definitely address the issue and let them both know that it would mean alot to you if they would both just get along for the sake of you and your wedding! If there a "friend" then they will respect your wishes and get along with one another and leave you out of it ! : ) Hope this helps! Let us know how things work out !! : )

I would definitly say something to them, either separatly, or preferably, together. Let them know that they are both friends of yours, and you would like to keep it that way. Share how important it is to you to have both of them there on your special day, and ask that they hold their hatred for each other inside for just one day. If they are truly friends of yours, they will do this for you. If not, then you know where you stand. Good luck, and don't put up with their feud on your special day!

G.,
It's a bit immature for fighting at their age. They should be able to talk this out and come to a conclusion. If anything they definitely should put their differences aside for your Wedding day. You're stressed as it is, with both of them in the room just be honest and say,"Please, don't say anything, but I want both of you to know, I am stressed enough right now, I don't want 2 of my friends fighting on top of it, please change something, so I can be happy for my big day." And just give them both a big hug and walk away. It's honest and sincere, if their good friends, they will think about what you said. Maybe at the least, they will put their differences aside for awhile just for you. WOW, what a nice wedding gift huh? Good luck!

This wedding isn't about them, it's about you, and the sooner they figure it out, the better. IF they can't get along then you need to tell them that your going to find 2 other people to be in your wedding. i know that they are your friends, but you have enough things to worry about besides them. the wedding party supports the bride, not the other way around. If they can work out, good for them, but for youir sake, let them know that you can't deal with the added stress. if they are adults which i would assume they are, then they would understand and put their issues aside and help make this day great for you :) hope that helped :) good luck and congrats!!

G.,
I certainly sympathise with you as I also have two friends who don't like each other at all. However, they are both my frineds and it seems that one of them always wants my attention over the other. I think that is very childish. Im to old for games like that. I told them both that. I told them that Im 33 years old and I am more than capable of having two friends at the same time. One evening I was going out with my husband and they both also wanted to come out. I can not tell you how stressed out over that night I was. This is when I finally put my foot down and told them both my husband and I will be here, if you both want to come your both more than welcome to come, they both new the other was going to be there, and yanno what they put aside thier differences and both came and had a great time. They were even friendly to each other. BIG SHOCKER there! This G. is suposed to be the happiest day of your life with the exception of the births of your two daughters. YOU have to tell them BOTH how you feel, and like the many other posts have said if they are your friends they will set thier feelings aside for your sake. Good Luck and congratulations on the upcoming wedding.

You need to sit down with both of them and explain that this is YOUR day, not theirs and what ever is going on between them, they need to put aside at this time, especially around you. Like the old saying "if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all"--if they cannot speak to each other civilly, then tell them not to speak at all. Don't be afraid to put your foot down with them. They need to respect you and the stress you are under in getting ready for your wedding. Tell them that once it is over, then they can do whatever they want between themselves.