D.K. asks from Woodstock, IL on August 01, 2008
Friend Having Difficulty Weening off Breast
My good Friend starts back at work next month and her daughter refuses to take a bottle, she has tried several bottles including bottles that are $13 and several different people tried to feed her and no luck. She immediately screams when either a bottle or pacifer come anywhere her mouth. She will scream for over 30 minutes. Any suggestions on what she can do would be very helpful. She is very concerned since she starts back at work next month.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
C.A. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
I wanted to let you know that sometimes it takes getting into a routine. I in the past have used the platex bottleswith the plastic sleeves. They were great as far as not allowing to much air. Hopefully this will help. C.
C.J. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
A.H. answers from Springfield on August 03, 2008
I had the same problem. My sister was his daycare provider at the time, and we lived in a duplex. So she would just take him next door. He'd scream, but when he was hungry, he'd take it! We started this a couple of weeks before my leave was over, so that helped, too. It also helps if she's nowhere around. Could she go for a walk or to the store while someone tries feeding the baby? Its been my experience that no breast fed baby is going to take the bottle(formula or breast milk) if they know that mama's around. We tried a couple of bottles, too. I know the ones that say they are most like the breast were the ones that he hated the most. We went with the Playtex drop in type. My son spit his bink out at 4 months, so I have no tips on that front. I wish your friend the best of luck!
G.H. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
1st she has to find a nipple that basically matches her own. She needs to place drops of her own milk on and in the nipple and hold the fake over her own until baby grabs that. Babies get use to 1 nipple and that's what they want. Repeat as many times as necessary until baby "goes for it". Then screw it on the bottle and feed. Hopefully your friend is pumping until baby gets old enough to mix the moms milk with bottled to crossover at that time. Tell her "good luck".
G.W. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
I had the same problem when weening my youngest son and someone suggested putting aloe vera juice/gel on my nipple. The first time he made a face when he tasted it but then commenced to nurse anyway. But I kept putting it on and he eventually stopped.
In regards to a replacement, perhaps you don't need to press the issue. When they're ready to drink, just hand them a cup.
J.G. answers from Springfield on August 02, 2008
My daughter was so stubborn about this. We didn't realize we had a problem until I had to teach a one week course and left her with my grandmother in the mornings. I was pumping and Grandma was supposed to give her bottles of EBM. No such luck ... DD went on strike and wouldn't drink anything!! However, when I showed up she nursed up a storm. We worried about this all summer and tried several different bottles ... DD continued to be stubborn and even skipped eating for 8 hours when I had to be gone one day. I was sick thinking of what it would be like to return to school ... when the day came, she transitioned without fuss!! Not kidding ... she just did it. I swear they do what they want, when they want and how they want. They won't let themselves starve ... :) Tell your friend to keep trying, but don't worry about it. Just trust her daughter to do what she needs to do .... and then nurse and cuddle her like crazy after work! ;)
E.C. answers from Peoria on August 02, 2008
I'm having the same difficulty with my 11 week old, and I go back to work in 2 weeks! I've even been working with the nursing consultant. She tried different feeding methods (cup feeding, finger feeding, spoon feeding)- my baby wouldn't do any of these, but maybe your friend could try these in case her baby won't take a bottle in time. She also stressed that the feeding experience has to be a positive one for the baby. She said that babies can feel overpowered, which makes them scared and do things like scream and refuse when you try next time. She said to talk to the baby, distract her with a favorite toy etc, and to stop if the baby becomes upset and give her lots of love and comfort. She said the baby has to feel in control of the situation. I hope this helps your friend- I'm still working on it myself!
I've begun having some luck with the Aderi bottle- it looks and feels a lot like a breast. You can find it at nurser.com.
D.B. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
Is she trying to wean permanently or just get her baby to take a bottle while she's at work? I went back to work when my son was 4 months old. I had tried getting him to take a bottle so he could take that from the sitter and nurse the rest of the time, but he absolutely refused up til the day I went back to work. I was so worried he would starve, but the very first day he took the bottle from the sitter with no problems at all! Just tell your friend to pump, drop her off and pray she takes it when she's hungry. If she doesn't, then she'll have to decide what to do next!
K.B. answers from Chicago on August 02, 2008
Well, it does depend if she is trying to wean entirely to formula, or just trying to get the baby through the day while she is at work.
If she's trying to wean entirely, IMHO the baby is telling her that formula's not going to cut it, and she should probably pump for at least a short while as she switches her daughter to formula. They taste different (heck they smell different!) and so the best way to wean her onto formula would be to do full breast milk in a bottle; when she takes that go to 3/4 breast milk and 1/4 formula, then 1/2 and 1/2, then 1/4 EMB and 3/4 F, and finally all formula.
If she's just trying to get her to take a bottle of EBM, then here is what she is going to have to do: pump, have daddy or someone else feed the baby AFTER she leaves the house. She cannot be there or the baby, who is no dummy, will not eat that bottle. She can go sit in the garage and cry for 3 hours, or she can go enjoy a few hours out. (If there is a patient relative or friend who can endure a 3 hour span of time, then it's a great date-time for her and her hubby, but if not, then she can have a girl's day or something.
Personally, I wouldn't try that when it's baby's bedtime at first, I'd do it during the day and I'd leave about 15-30 minutes before the next feeding. Pump and then leave; the baby won't starve in 3 hours and will most likely get hungry enough to eat something.
My son was a TOTAL stinker about not eating for anyone. I was a teacher when he was tiny (I became a SAHM when I had my second child in 2 years) and I got so desperate for sleep that I coslept with him until he was about 7 months old. He nursed most of the night and then during the day ate between 4 and 8 ounces TOPS. They call it reverse nursing. When I went back to work after that summer (he was 7 months then) he would not take a bottle, a sippy, anything! We finally got him to take a straw (which the sitter put EBM in) but by that time he was eating solids so most of his liquid during the day came from the fruits and veggies he ate.
Good luck to your friend. :)