J.G. asks from Glendale Heights, IL on August 18, 2008
Financial Advise, Pre School, and Potty Training, Jobs, I Need Advise on LIFE!!
I am going nuts. Ever since my son was about 2 months old I've stayed at home with the kids because it's been too expensive for daycare. I watched one boy for about a year and have watched a little girl for about a year and a half now. I love spending time with my children and I still babysit for the family with the little girl. They keep me busy, that's for sure. I am finding it very difficult financially between my fiance and I to keep up with the bills. Our car will be paid off next week, Thank the Lord, but that won't be a whole lot more per month as we'll just barely finally be able to pay the bills on time. I have no money left over for things we could really use like clothes since my 3 kids are growing out of them and treating ourselves to new clothes as I hardly have any anymore. There just doesn't ever seem to be enough money. We don't have cell phones, we don't get papers or magazines, we don't really go out to eat more than once a month for cheap wendy's or something which we average about the cost of one meal per night anyways, so it's no extra expense really. I just want to be able to have money to buy a few things here and there that we could really use but can never afford. I'd also like to be able to save up some money for X-mas. Does anyone know of a work from home job that doesn't cost any money or require travel very far or work off of comission? I'd like to work part time evenings. I have filled out numerous job apps through jewel, dominick's, meijer, aldi, etc. but just never seem to get a call back, but yet they hire these teenagers that know nothing about what they are doing. It's just frustrating because I'm a hard worker and dedicated to doing my job beyond expectation. I just can't afford to put them in daycare during the day, and don't think I'd have the heart to. I would also like to find affordable preschool...my daughter needs some children her age. My other setback besides financial reasons is that she is still working on potty training. She doesn't seem to understand that she has to go on the potty before she pees, no matter how hard I try, it's just not working. We've put her in regular panties but she'd just pee and get scared when she did because she knew she made a mess....that lasted about a week and she never caught on. PLEASE HELP! THANKS MOMS!
B.S. answers from Chicago on August 22, 2008
I think it is safe to say that you are not alone. I know we went through an adjustment phase when we had our daughter. It was difficult to change our ways after going from 2 incomes to one. That is why I decided to become a Pampered Chef Consultant. I wanted to be able to stay at home with my daughter during the day but still have the added income to be able to go out to eat or buy a new outfit here and there. I would be happy to send more information on the business opportunity. Until the end of this month, you can get the starter kit half off. I also wanted to offer to you a preschool option. I am doing a mini preschool in my home. I am not sure where you are located or how old your daughter is. Right now, the class is very small - 4 girls, all 3 yrs old., Mondays from 9-11:30am. If you would like more information, please let me know.
E.S. answers from Chicago on August 18, 2008
Stay strong and hang in there. Things will get better! There are quite a few preschools that will take children that aren't potty trained. They all get potty trained in due time. No one goes to kindergarten in diapers! I know my preschool does - it's in Lombard - I don't know if that's too far for you but if you want the name let me know.
As far as jobs go, keep doing what you have been applying at places. Something will come up. Here are some suggestions for more places to try... think of anything that is a 24 hours/day business or night-time/weekend...hospital, retail, food service (waitress, bartender...even fast food places have some fast track assistant manager positions that pay pretty well), utility companies, etc. also -- in high school and college and even as a part-time job after college, I worked at an answering service. Answering services answer the phones after hours for any business..physicians, plumbers, apartment complexes, etc. It can be stressful work.. you have to juggle 2 and 3 conversations at the same time, prioritize emergencies, listen to people scream at you.. but it paid pretty well for a part-time job.. I was up to probably $16/hour the last time I worked there probably 10-15 years ago or so. They were always hiring decent people (have to know how to type fast and spell correctly since you type everything that is said into the computer in real time) and always wanted reliable people that would show up on time and could work weekends. Check the phone book for telephone answering services if this sounds like something you'd like to do. Also hsbc has a call center in Wooddale that answers the phones for people inquiring about their credit card fees and such. Check out their website too.
Good luck to you! And congrats on the 3 beautiful children!
B.A. answers from Chicago on August 19, 2008
First and foremost what do you want to be when you grow up. Okay what I mean is when your kids are all in school, what do you aspire to do? This may be your time to get your foot in the door somewhere part time and work your way to full time later. If there is something you want to do in the medical field look at your closest hospital, any department,part time evenings it will give you exposure to the environment to see if that is where you want to be. Education? want to teach or just need some? check out you local colleges, alot need evening registrars,bookstore staff, receptionists for evening programs. Hospitality or travel check out hotels in the area for front desk or other areas. Retail if you are interested go to a store that may have things you may need to buy, you will get possibly a store discount and alot need evening staff that is not 16. Smaller stores usually take in the non-teenage crowd as there are times that they may need to run the store by theirselves and most don't or won't leave a minor running the show you have kids so think children's place, gymboree, gap kids, toys r us, baby's r us, furniture stores, places with appliances. Don't get trapped into a work at home that costs you any money, it sounds as if you can't afford it right now and you don't want to get deeper by "WORKING" AND "PAYING FOR IT".
C.B. answers from Chicago on August 19, 2008
You could try Usborne Books, Partylite, or some of those other "party" types of work. I don't know if you have to own their stuff or not, but you could probably sign up for that, and work only nights when your fiance is home.
As someone who has spent the last 2 years struggling to pay bills on time -- there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and someway, somehow, you will get it done. Good luck!