J.B. asks from Kansas City, MO on January 10, 2008
Discipline and Special Need Children
I am having a hard time with discilpining my daughter. She is five and has cerebral palsy. Her injury is in her speach center and her speach is greatly effected. We work with her and she communicates well, although not uniformed. She is very strong-willed and feels like she is going to do what she wants when she wants and I find myself always fighting with her to get her to do the simplest tasks. I know she is testing me but at the same time I am not really sure of what she understands and what she doesn't. She just started kindergarden this year and has not been getting good behavior marks. Her teacher uses smiley faces and she often gets sad faces. I sent a message to her teacher to see if I could get advice or if she had any resources and her special education teacher never responded, not being much help at at all from her. I loved her preschool teacher but she moved, otherwise I would ask her. She is a happy, loving girl and smiles when she says no. If anyone has any advice, my ears are open! Thanks
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L.E. answers from Springfield on January 12, 2008
they need to put your daughter on a IEP if you have not done this. If you have then contact them. Not sure where you are but here it is midstate. If you want you can email me directly and I can give you information that I have. My son is now in 1st grade and has Spina bifida, So I can understand your concerns and I can let you know what I have done.
Best of Luck,
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E.O. answers from Topeka on January 17, 2008
I agree with the other mother who suggested Social Stories. You can find a lot of free ones that you can print at home, online. Social Stories are used mostly with Autistic children (such as my daughter), but can be used for any child. You might also try talking to your pediatrician or ask the school district psych for ideas and suggestions. sometimes just contacting someone at the school districts office is what it takes to get a response from some teachers. if you emailed the s.e. teacher, it's possible the email was routed to a junk mail folder and they didn't receive it. anyway, good luck!
J.W. answers from Joplin on January 12, 2008
Try making up (or finding) little stories that illustrate the ideal behavior you want to see in her. These stories can be quite short--maybe even little stories about you when you were little (were YOU strong-willed?), or use animal characters. You don't need to moralize with the story ("and the moral of this story is . . .") just simply tell the story and let her make the connection on her own. Sometimes stories can make an impression where direct discipline does not.
Good luck.
J. Wynhausen
J.D. answers from Tulsa on January 12, 2008
Sounds like she is just testing her limits. I would stand firm with your directives and I would use consequences such as time out or loss of privilege. If you do not do this now it will only get worse and she will "play" you into thinking she "doesn't understand" Good Luck!
M.B. answers from Kansas City on January 12, 2008
I would contact the school. With a diagnosis of CP your daughter qualifies for services. This meaning they would have a behaviorist evaluate her and implement a behavioral plan. This would be utilized in the classroom and could easily be carried over to home. This would be curtailed her individual "level" and ammended as needed. Since her teacher not respond to your concern, just phone the principal. Best of luck
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