M.T. asks from Attleboro, MA on June 15, 2009
Daughter and Monster Issues - Really Need Your Help!!!
My daughter is 3 1/2 and has always had monster issues, however just by letting her fall asleep with a sheet over her head like a tent has solved it. That is, until recently. Now that is not enough, she fights going to bed, wants to sleep downstairs or with us, hates her bed - - - she has excuse after excuse. Last night she woke upat 3 a.m. and this went on for 1 1/2 hours (off and on). We have tried monster sprays, protective stuffed animals, etc. I am at my wits end, not to mention exhausted. Any suggestions/ideas you mommas have to help us get through this would be greatly appreciated. I am sure its a phase, but it seems to be lasting longer than a normal phase, so I am worried its become habit.
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C.M. answers from Boston on June 16, 2009
We tried 2 things that really worked. First, we bought a small lamp and put a night light bulb in it, set on a timer. We told her that it was sleeping time while her light was on.
The big help was "attaching" her room to her big brother's room. We used the alphabet foam squares (different colors, all interlock together). We let the kids form a path between the two bedrooms and let them sleep with their doors opened.
J.N. answers from Hartford on June 16, 2009
my son had the same fears I also tried monster spray,and everything else I could think of...And finally I told him that monsters cant come into our house b/c we have dogs,and it worked :o) Dogs have these special tags that jingle and monsters are afraid of the noise.. And they wont come into our house even when the dogs are outside b/c of the special tags that keep monsters out...lol..
I hope that my idea will help
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S.M. answers from Boston on June 16, 2009
When both of my sons were about that age we had a problem with monsters too. I took an empty spray bottle and told them to spray around the room and any where they thought might be monsters. They did not seem to question that it did not have anything coming out of it, but I guess you could put water in it if that is important. It really worked because it gave them control over what was scaring them. They always slept with the bottle next to them in case they felt they needed it again.
L.S. answers from New London on June 15, 2009
Some people say that using protective sprays and protective stuffed animals reinforces the idea that monsters are real. Perhaps just being adament that monsters are only on TV and in her imagination. Or you could start having her say her prayers to her guardian angel that will keep her safe. I used to be afraid of monsters in the 2nd grade after I saw gremlins. It was really frightening and I still am sort of afraid of flushing the toilet at night because it is so loud. I think you just have to not give in. I think I was afraid of monsters all through elementary school, but it did help that I had my twin sister in the same room?? You could get her a dog...
K.T. answers from Boston on June 15, 2009
The only thing I can think of is if you let her sleep with the light on.
B.P. answers from Boston on June 16, 2009
I did go through something similar when my olderst daughter was about this age. I tried to tell her that there was no such thing, but at that age the imagination is so much larger than rational. So I spoke with my child psych. teacher and she suggested monster spray. Well I did try it and we never had another proplem with monisters. All I used was an old hairspray bottle that was cleaned, filled with water and was decorated. It gave her the power to get rid of them her self.
J.P. answers from Boston on June 16, 2009
My daughter has a sign on her door that says No Monsters Allowed. The monsters know how to read and don't come in.
You could also try giving her a flashlight so she could light up any scary shaddows...although that could become a toy that keeps her up. Curious George has an episode where he learns that scary shaddows are just common items in his room.
M.S. answers from Boston on June 17, 2009
Our sitter taught my 3 1/2 year old daughter to blow kisses at the "scaries" when she "sees" them in her room and it works great!! I love that it's something she can do on her own without needing us to get out of bed!
A.B. answers from Boston on June 17, 2009
M., I'm so sorry about your daughters fears. I'm sure they are tough on both of you. My mom tells a story about my brother and I having a fear of ghosts in our rooms. she brought the kitchen broom into our rooms and beat all the corners and in the closet then swept it all out the door, all the time yelling "get out of my house, you aren't allowed to scare my kids!" worked like a charm, whenever we thought we saw a ghost she'd tell us" oh no, I kicked them all out, remember?" So, when my daughters went through the ghost phase I told them Grammy was famous for getting rid of them and she came over and swept out their ghosts. They've never complained again!! I don't know if it will work for you, but you could try. There also is no harm in letting her sleep with the lights on for a while... Hope you can get some sleep soon! --A.