CPS Took My 8 Month Old That I Breast Feed

Updated on September 16, 2008
R.D. asks from Emeryville, CA
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I've been taking my daughter to different doctors about bruises on my daughter's face, ear and upper chest that don't look like normal bruises. They come and go and vary from faint to crimson and then clear up with dark marks that then fade away. No one has told me exactly what it is and all of her test results aren't done. The reason why CPS has her is because when I took her to the hospital because she had swollen legs and a fever they found that she had multiple fractures with different ages on both legs and didn't know. I knew something was going on with her, but I never saw any bruises on her legs and the only time her legs were swollen was when I took her into the hospital. I wasn't the only one that missed her fractures. She went to daycare, we saw friends, neighbors, and two pediatricians and was taken to children's hospital and treated for an ear infection.

I'm trying to sort out this mess, get my baby back and find out what is going on with her medically. In the mean time how can I keep my milk supply going while we are apart?

I just want to say that I never hurt my daughter and I can't really imagine anyone at her daycare other than a larger kid hurting her body. I have a really good baby and she rarely fusses, which is why I probably missed her fractures.

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So What Happened?

My Angel finally came home after 5 days in the hospital and 12 days in foster care. The CPS worker decided on a family maintenance plan which includes parenting classes. I have to go back to court in 6 months, and we still don't know how she got her fractures. She still has more tests and the police are investigating. I'm hoping we will find out and I'm praying that my baby is healthy. I pumped everyday that she was gone and the stored milk helped me get her back into breast milk. She is still adjusting and she has a great deal of separation anxiety; which I think breast feeding helps. I want to thank everyone for their well wishes and advice.

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K.G.

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Contact the investigating social worker (CSW) or your daughters social worker and let them know you want to get the breast milk to her, even if it means dropping it of at with the babies social worker.
Get busy, follow every direction of the Children's court, contact every doctor who has seen her, every person who is in regular contact with her.
You have the right to a hearing after 72 hours of them detaining your child. Try to have as much info from doctors especially, and pump milk to be delivered tothe baby and bring it to court in an ice chest for safe transport.
Good luck, also, if you have any family members at all that are willing, able and good for your child, have them come to court with you or contact your daughters social worker with their info so they can do a homestudy of the relative. That way, they may be able to place your baby with them until you are able to complete all the court requirements ( if any). Make sure with any relative, they have a clean background and a room that is just for the baby not used for any other purpose.
No judgement, I really hope you get your baby back soon, don't give up hope.
K., ex-la county social worker for children's court
One last thing, it sounds like there is a pattern of unusual bruising, markings and now fractures. Very clearly, state your desire to have extensive testing done to see if there is a medical condition not detected, even try to do a little research yourself online. Also, I would request that you be allowed to attend and offer comfort to your baby at any medical precdures ordered.
Good luck

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S.A.

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Make sure she gets medically tested. It could be this rare disease:

Osteogenesis imperfecta (OI) is a genetic disorder characterized by bones that break easily, often from little or no apparent cause. A classification system of different types of OI is commonly used to help describe how severely a person with OI is affected. For example, a person may have just a few or as many as several hundred fractures in a lifetime.

Click here for more:
http://www.oif.org/site/PageServer?pagename=FastFacts

Be strong, lean on your friends & family and breathe deeply! If you are in San Francisco contact the Homeless Prenatal Program who have case managers that work with CPS and clients to keep families together. www.homelessprenatal.com

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D.T.

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R.,
I am so sorry for you and your little girl. Your story is very sad. I know you said you can't see anyone at daycare hurting her - but it does happen! Another child couldn't hurt her that badly unless they were a MUCh older child ad your baby would've have cried out and alerted the daycare providers. Until you sort it out - to keep your milk up you need to pump several times each day. Start drinking Mother's Milk tea also.
Good Luck and Blessings,
D.

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K.G.

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Hi R.,
Rent a medical grade pump - they rent them at the Newborn Connections store at California Pacific Med Center in SF. The store is a couple of blocks down California Street from the California St entrance to the hospital (not the Webster St. campus). Store the breastmilk in glass bottles and freeze them (just be sure there's some space left in the bottles before freezing). Switch frozen bottles for the next day's feedings to the fridge at night so that they thaw in the fridge. Then heat them in a pot or bowl of hot water (with a bottle nipple on). Just be careful to heat them only until drops from the bottle feel comfy to the skin on the inside of your arm. Don't heat bottles in the microwave as this can create hot spots in the bottle.

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R.K.

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i've heard of this syndrome...not so much the bruising but the tiny fractures throughout the body... i can't give you any more info, but i definitely have heard of a simlar situation on a talk show or something. do some research on te internet and try to find out what it's called. i am sooo sorry you are away from your baby. pump several times a day to keep your milk up. freeze it and see if you can get some of it to wherever she is so she can drink it while she is away from you. poor baby! good luck and don't despair. please let us know how everything turns out.
peace

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S.J.

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I am so sorry about your situation. I have no formal advice. I'm sure this time is very stressful and painful for you - being accused and going through the county's red tape. Hang in there as best you can. I'm praying for you that the truth will be made known, that your daughter's condition will be diagnosed accurately, that you'll get the medical attention you need, and that you'll be reunited with your baby.
May the God of the universe be real to you in this time.
In Christ's love,
S.

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E.V.

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Oh my gosh. You must be going thru torture w/o her :( I hope they figure it out soon. Are they looking into things like brittle bone disease? Have they put her w/ family of yours? If not, you should push for that to make sure she's w/ someone you can trust.
Back to your original question--pump, pump, pump. If poss. get a hospital grade pump for greater suction, to get out all you can. Either way, pump every 3 hrs (or however often you typically nursed her.)
Will they let you give the caretaker your milk? They HAVE to understand how important it is that she get your breastmilk.

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A.M.

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Hello R.,

i am so sorry, and am glad you are reaching out for help. I really encourage you to work with someone to understand all the effects on you and your child, even at a deeper psychological/spiritual level, so both of you can get the most healing possible. this is a huge experience for both of you which effects your lives from now forward. My guess is that you both have something to teach in regards to the subject/issue/experience so take it deep and learn what you can.

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L.M.

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The disease that could be causing the fractures could be brittle bone disease. I don't know how they test for this, but I'm sure the doctors would. If none of the symptoms you speak of happen while she is in care of CPS, you will need to see what's up with her daycare--are there strange bruises on any of the other children? Good luck.

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V.W.

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I am horrified at this- they took your daughter!
Make sure that they dont give her formula and that they give her your breastmilk instead. You can give it to the worker or foster parent.
I am horrified that they did not just keep her in the hospital and run every test under the sun on her to make sure that she is not being hurt, then what diseases she may have. If there are a few rare ones, they could test for them immediately.
Do not give up until they do so, and asap.
Follow the ex social workers advice. And again, be really on top of things, and very persistant.
I am going to send good thoughts your way....

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