Child Care and Preschooler

Actually, I wouldn't suggest changing her again.
The clingyness that you're experiencing is likely the cause of all the changes that you've had to make.
I've gone through the same with my 3 yr old. They crave routine, and when big changes happen like that in their little lives, it throws things off and causes attachment mode to restart.
(Can you tell my best friend is a child psychologist? :) )

I think the more stability you can give her, and if your mom can "gut it out for a little while", she and your mom will be better off.

Tell your daycare that you need for your daughter to go full-time but can't afford it. A lot of daycares are giving discounts because of the economy. I get a 20% discount. They would rather have little bodies there than no one.

I also meant to mention when you talk to them tell them how much you and your daughter love the school and their program. Butter them up. It worked for me.

not worth $200 a month maybe look for partime work at night or weekend local Mall

If one more day per week in daycare would decrease your net take home to 200 per month, you have the wrong job AND the wrong daycare. I know that working is also an investment in your future as you build your reputation at work and your resume. But being away from your child this much for such a small pay off is just crazy.

The first thing I think you need to do is make sure you are maximizing the childcare deduction. If your employer does not allow this deduction at pre-tax dollars, then you need to look for a job that has this.

Find an in-home caregiver that charges less than the center, but still has certification, years of experience, and or whatever you want for them to. Your daughter would still have friends and can still be learning. But you can keep a bit more of what you are earning.

Also, could grandma do more than 1 day per week? Your daughter is feeling that way because she's not there very much. My grandson and I are extremely close to each other. And yet, when he's away from me for 2 or 3 days, he cries when he's left. He is fine though right after. I can't even imagine him being upset enough to throw up.

If your family makes too much money for you to qualify for child care assistance then I think you should consider dealing with the crying. It only lasts a few days, since she is going only 1 time a week it may take a lot longer but still. I would apply for the child care assistance and see if I could get some of it paid for.

One of my families made over $10 per hour, each parent, and they had 3 kids. They only paid about 2/3 of what it normally would cost. It wasn't a lot but it did make a difference in the long run. They had a good income and still received some assistance.

Seems to me if you are only bringing home $200 a month after expenses,
why work. Does not seem worth it all. Hope it all works out for you.