Book Recommendations on the Effects of Divorce on Young Children?

I don't have any books, but there's plenty of research out there. I have my master's in child development and have researched it myself. Go on google.com and click advanced search. Then type in the words "effects of divorce on young children." Then at the bottom where it says "search within a site or domain," type ".edu" This way you won't get a bunch of useless sites-it will mostly be reliable research. I hope this helps!!

I am in a good marriage, but I am a child of divorce (all grown up). I remember seeing an episode on Oprah, her guest was Dr. Gary Neuman and his book is "Helping your kids cope with divorce the sandcastles way". Here is a link: http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Children-of-Divorce_1

Anyway, I remember seeing the first episode where they talked with kids that have parents going through a divorce (the link I gave you) and the right way to go about it. Then they did a second episode about adults that never really got over their parents divorce as a child (that'd be me)....they were both good episodes. I haven't read your situation, or his book, but I did see the shows and it seems like he really knew what he was talking about. Best of luck to you.

I got the book "Mom's House, Dad's House" for my daughter...

http://www.momshousedadshouse.com/

A landmark study on the effects of divorce on children is "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce" by Judith Wallerstein. I found it very painful to read, as a newly single mom; but it is an important book. The author followed 121 children of divorce over the years. It's a very in-depth study. It should have been more widely promoted, but I think people don't like to face the reality of divorce. I'm glad I read it early, because it helped me stave off many potential problems, and my kids are doing extremely well now. I hope all goes well for you and your daughter.

Personally, I would never let a child call a boyfriend "Daddy". If the relationship continues and you get married, then it's another matter and you would have to decide that at that time. A lot then would depend on the relationship your daughter has with her real Dad. One thing to consider... it may not seem important to you, but I think you still need to consider it, is how will her father feel if she's calling another man "Daddy". One way to do it would be to have her have a different name for the boyfriend that still showed his role as a substitute father in her life.

I know this isn't the purpose of this particular post, but had to give my input anyway... sorry..
As far as books are concerned, check out Dr. James Dobson. He has books on all kinds of children's issues. Though I never needed anything on the topic of divorce, I found his other books on childrearing to be the most helpful of any author I read.

Yes, SO many opinions to have on such a subject.
I too am a product of a divorced family, all grown up and still getting "over it." I don't know of any books, but want to answer the question about letting your daughter call your boyfriend "daddy".
I think the best possible thing you can do for her is to give her 100% of your attention. If you must have a boyfriend, he really shouldn't have any place in her life. If EVER you break up with him, that's another loss with which she has to deal. Make her needs your first priority until she is moved out of your house.
Both my parents did this and I think it was the best way they were able to keep a bad situation from being any worse.

Hi Jasmine,
I don't have any book recommendations but I wanted to offer just one bit of advice. My parents divorced when I was 11. It was very amicable and thankfully they have remained friends all these years. The best advice I can give to parents who are divorcing: don't ever speak ill of your ex-spouse to your children. That is their parent, they love you both. To this day, years and years after their divorce, I've never heard either one of my parents say a bad thing about the other. It was the greatest gift they ever given me.

Now, if I may chime in about your boyfriend and being called 'daddy'. I think it is important for divorced parents to keep their boyfriend/girlfriends separate from their kids (don't introduce them) until they know that this is someone who will be around for a long time. If the kids have already met the BF, I'd try to keep strong boundaries about family time and social time. Allow the kids to adjust as much as possible to their new family dynamic before introducing a new person. So, all that being said, I don't think a BF should be called 'daddy' until it is clear that this person will be a daddy in their life, for their life (ie marriage/committment). Personally, I think it creates confusion emotionally for the children to call another person 'daddy/mommy'. I'm no expert, it's all just my opinion. And who am I to say what is right or wrong? Just my thoughts :)

Bests!

for your daughter I love the Mr Rogers Talks about ... books (I have the adoption one) there is Mr Rogers talks about Divorce and Mr Rogers talks about Step families.
If you can find the one Mr Rogers talks to Parents about Divorce I'm sure it would be great

http://www.marriagetoday.com/marriage-topics/divorce/

Hey Jasmine, Amazon has a great selection on divorce books for kids. I would bet your local library has some as well. Your daughter is very little, so you don't need anything really in-depth. She is young and I am sure will adapt fine. Some marriages cannot be saved (especially in your case, what with battery and all!) and while it's very kind for others to be concerned and want the best for your situation, it's not always possible OR the best choice. Don't let yourself feel too much guilt about it, we do the best we can for our kids and you are doing a wonderful job.

Here is the link for the books: http://www.amazon.com/Childrens-Books-About-Divorce/lm/2B...