Birthday Party - Powell,TN

My brother and I are 2.5 years apart. His b-day is in March, mine September. We always had separate b-days. We were children of the 70s. birthdays meant cake and ice cream after sunday dinner with family, a smattering of toys, and cupcakes brought into the classroom. Never a production like you see nowadays. I enjoyed having my own b-day, as did he.

If you want to save funds and efforts by having a combined party, I get it, but perhaps if you scale back, you can give them each their own day.

no. i don't. a birthday is to celebrate the day someone was born. I actually relish each of my kids birthdays. to me, it's as much an anniversary as a birthday. it's the anniversary of the day I met that sweet person. That day is set aside for me to celebrate and appreciate that individual. Your birthday is one of the only things in life that is truly your own. Noone can take it away from you. It will always be yours. It's not nice to just lump all the celbrations together. Happy ThanksValenEasterChristMasiversary

Why on earth would you want to do birthdays together that are 6 months apart? Not only are you taking the special-ness away from both of them but it just doesn't make sense. Sharing parties are for twins or younger kids who's birthdays are a month or so apart.. not 5-6 months apart. So to answer your question, no, not okay. Surely 6 months is long enough to set aside a little bit of money to do both (if it's a financial issue?).

Shared birthday parties should be for children whose birthday is in the same month- a 6 month time difference seems a little much. I like what @fanged bunny said- if you scale back, maybe you can give them each their own day. As little girl once, this would have crushed me if I had to share my May birthday party with my sister, born in August, 5 years earlier.

You mean that you didn't celebrate the July birthday yet? Hopefully you at least did a close family dinner and cake.

Actually, if I wanted to do a big shared party I would've probably done a July party and had the Dec. daughter celebrate her half birthday.

I wouldn't do a shared party so many months apart, it takes away from the girls' special day :(
If money is an issue just keep the parties small and simple.

I personally wouldn't do it. My girls have a birthday in the same month so I do combine theirs but I wouldn't if they were that many months apart. Just seems unfair to either one of them.

Maybe you could explain a little more of your reasoning to do them together? How old are they? Do they have the same group of friends? Do you just want it family? Are you moving? Just based on what you've written I don't think it's okay to do them together, especially not in December when it's so close to the other child's actual birthday and Christmas, that seems the weirdest. If anything I could see you wanting to do both in July so the other daughter doesn't get overshadowed by the holidays.

My kids birthdays are one week apart exactly and I give them separate parties. I know that is odd to some, but I too feel like each child should feel celebrated and special on their day. I also like the way Tracy said that it's also an anniversary...it is and it makes me smile to relive that special day with them!

Even if you just do cake and punch on their birthday, I think it's better to have them separate. Plus they are in totally separate seasons so you could do so much more with separate themes, gift ideas, etc.

How sad for the child that doesn't matter enough to have their own day.

Cake mixes are less than a dollar at Walmart and having a cake and a present is a big deal for any child on their own day.

J.,
I highly recommend for the sake of your kids, that you do the party no later than October. The reason I say this is because 1. it's between both birthdays and doesn't show favortism toward either child; 2. better show of guests; 3. more generous gifts.

I wouldn't have a party so close to Thanksgiving or the shoppping season in general. Money is tight for everyone. Having a party in the middle of the frenzied shopping season is not a good idea because people are spending more than they want to for Christmas and all the parties they are attending, like hostess gifts, office parties, family and friend get-togethers. If you have the party before the money is already spoken for, the girls will get nicer gifts (not that it's the most important thing!), and your guests will be able to attend without holiday party conflicts=no shows. Your guests will be thankful that they don't have to choose between parties! Why not do a costume party in October? Kids would love to wear their cool costumes more than one night for trick-or-treating! Just my opinion. Have a great party!

I would ask them if they are ok with it. Keep in mind birthdays are to celebrate that individual's special day.

If they're ok with it, do it 1/2 way between each birthday. Myself having a sister close in age, I can tell you if you do it closer to one than the other someone is going to feel there is favoritism going on.

Good luck

i know december is always a crazy month for my family b/c of holidays our christmas lasts almost all month i suggest doing it in the summer when its nice out and people arnt so stressed

Just curious how they have a lot of friends if you have no clue where they live? I know where most all of my kids friends live and phone numbers if they hang out. I suggest a big birthday for both of them together and small separate parties

I agree with everybody who said to have separate parties. My birthday is the 7 th of October and my sisters is the 29th. Because money was tight back then I never felt like I had a special day because my mother would celebrate after my day and close close close to my sisters, if not on her day. Now as mom I make sure that all my kids get their own party on their day. I have birthdays in feburary, march, may, June, July and august and we make sure they get their special day. Even if they requested it, I still wouldn't consider it cause my kids were single births and not shared.

I would have a small, family only party on or near their actual birthday and then you can have a friend party in between but I would not let the July bday slide by waiting for the December bday to come around, that doesn't seem fair to the July bday child.

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