Behavior Issues with My 1 Year Old Girl

I am not sure about the eating situation, but my son also went through a period when he hated having his diaper changed. He hated being forced to lie down and not being in control. It lasted several months but he eventually got over it and is now fine when I change him. I tried to make sure that I had everything at hand, wipes etc. so that I could change him as quickly as possible. I didn't yell at him, but held him down so that he knew he did not have a choice in the matter and did not laugh so he wouldn't think that it was a game. Once clean, I would let him stand up when I put the new diaper on and he was fine.

sounds like she's testing you and she wants control. don't give up

My son, almost 2, has been freaking out about his diaper change for a long time. I don't have any great advice, but here are some things that work (sometimes).
a) Put a towel on a bed and change her there. My son seems to dislike his changing table far more than the bed.
b) I switched to gentler wipes. Pampers Sensitive seem good.
c) Sing loud silly songs. Make goofy faces. Bend over and touch her nose with your nose. Blow on her hair to make if fly around. Anything to keep eye contact and keep her focused on you, not the diaper.
d) Have a basket of musical instruments by the changing table. My son likes to play the harmonica and blow on whistles.
BUT, none of these things work all the time. He still really hates to have his diaper changed. I've seen them change his diaper at daycare and he lies still like a little angel. I'm just hoping for early potty training (that doesn't look very likely...)
Good luck.

Tell her if she cries she wont get anything, then ignore her. Let her have her tantrum, but dont give in, she wont starve. As far as diaper changing. First make sure she is comfortable in/on the changing spot. Perhaps the changing table is too confining or too high up. Maybe switching to the bed or couch would make it more comfortable. If she still cries, tell her to stop crying and you will change her, then hold her where ever it is you change her until she stops. Tell her she needs to get changed and crying will not make a difference. Dont yell or plead, simply tell her calmly. Make sure she stops before you change her, even if it takes an hour or more. Its a habit she needs to break or it will only get worse. A couple of times holding her till she stops will cure her.

She is starting to be aware of her surroundings and wants to explore. She is interested in your food, so why not feed her the same thing your eating?? Now is the time to let them try anything and everything and learn to like new foods before they become set in their ways... it also makes your life easier. Sometimes I serve the food onto my plate, then give my son his off my plate, so he sees that it is the same. As far as diaper changing, my son is the same way... now that he is 20 mos., it is even more challenging, we just keep trying new tactics. Now he likes to help me get the wipes and diaper... then he picks a toy that he wants to "wash" and I give him a wipe to wash his toy while I clean him... usually this buys me enough time! Just be creative!

Hi S.,
Could she be crying because you are doing something which takes your attention away from her? Does she cry when you do other things that mean you're not giving her your undivided attention?
Many toddlers hate diapering time. Having someone lay them down means that they are no longer on the move and no longer in control of their actions. If she's only wet, you can try a standing diaper change.
Good luck

I don't have any advice for the food thing, but do have some for the diaper changing. My son just turned one and for the past few months has not liked getting his diaper changed. I've started giving him a small stuffed animal and tell him to give it kisses. It works to distract him. When that doesn't work I hold it in my mouth to dangle it above him. I know it sounds a little weird, but when he is crying I will do anything. I also try to sing a silly diaper song which he likes sometimes. Hope this helps.