Hi. I have two great boys ages 3 and almost 6 years. I notice that lately the "ruff housing" has escalated between them. Coming from a family of only girls and my husband being an only child I'm kind of clueless with this kind of behavior. Most of the time it seems like they are running, wrestling and just down right pestering each other. They are not physically fighting with one another though they do argue sometimes back and forth but it ends quickly and they are fine.They know not too hit and obey this rule well. It's just irritating to me since I'm with them most all the time and It feels like it's constant I'm a SAHM and home school them too. They really have a good relationship but it can get loud and so physical between them that I feel like I'm living amongst two chimpanzees!
My husband says it's normal boy behavior which I think it is but not sure how to control or curb the behavior, or do I? Any moms that have boys out there have some encouraging and wise words for me? Help.
Well so it appears that this is normal behavior for boys. As long as they are not fighting I'm fine with allowing them to do their "physical" bonding. lol
I do try and get some girl time in for me and it's nice to take a break. Just had a three day weekend alone while all the boys (husband included) went out of town for a 4 wheeling camping trip. I'm blessed to have a great hands on Daddy for some boy time with our children. Thank you for all of your mommy input.
100% NORMAL.
Enjoy them while they are little.
Boys are lots of fun and loud all at the same time.
I know it feels like a zoo in the house but don't try to make them stop having fun. Their brothers, they need to bond. The relationship between brothers can be a beautiful thing to watch.
Why not just join the fun, run after them, chase them down and wrestle them down.
Have fun mama.
Yes, boys!
Boys are very physical, very kinesthetic, and move move move around a lot.
Thankfully, your boys like each other, or it would be worse.
And they do obey the 'rules' well for their ages.
Yes, boys rough-house.. the make noises, and are like cave-men!
I have a son and a daughter. My son is like that. He's a great boy... but a boy. When he and my Hubby 'play' together, it is like watching 2 kids. Even my daughter rolls her eyes and says "boys...." LOL
My son is only 3.5 and he doesn't know he's being like that, to him he is just having fun.
And, I play "boy" with him too... since I am home with him. But we do any kinds of activities, non-gender. But he wears me out.
My Hubby, grew up with ALL boys... and well, it was just like you described! What fun!
It is just they way they are... so flow with it.
There are also great books on 'raising boys' which you can check out from Amazon and read the reviews. Just input the search 'raising boys.'
Your boys sound like gems. And great boys.
Maybe have a routine with them. In the morning, boys do need to get their yah-yah's out... then maybe in the afternoon, you can have a "quiet time"... and then do quiet things. They are old enough to understand that.
Or for me, (my kids are 3.5 & 7) I actually tell them "Mommy NEEDS some quiet/rest now.... this is quiet time...." and let them key down. Or do things more mellow. If you need a "break."
all the best,
Susan
I always hated the response 'boys will be boys'. Recently I've discovered it's true. Boys have been this way for centuries. They were always the warriors/fighter, while the women raised the children and the men protected them. Even in the animal kingdom the men are wild and the women raise the children. You show karate to a boy, they instantly start chopping away. You show karate to a girl, most likely it doesn't wow them.
My boys (5 & 2) are much happier now that I allow pretend fighting. I have rules and if they are broken, then they must play something else. There is no shooting real people (it's rude), no real hurting each other and no jumping on furniture.
I hope this thought helps you the way it helped me. They can have fun, but you can still have rules.
Totally normal! Let them have fun - that's what brothers do. They will remember this when they are older and best friends :-) I have twin boys who do the same.
SAHM of two boys (younger than yours but boys none the less)! I think that if they are just rough housing then let it go. I think that it is important to step in when the wrestling gets to down right fighting. But one of the best pieces of advice that I received was, "Boys will be boys, and there is nothing we can do!"
I think the best thing that you can do is let them loose in the backyard and let them get is all out. Plus, get yourself out of the house with a bunch of women - you are more than a mom of two boys... you are a queen that needs a little "no-boy" time.
Have fun and maybe join in on the fun once in a while!
~ AK
i also think it's normal - my son and husband do the same thing. as long as no one gets hurt and they're not destroying furniture. let 'em wrestle!
This is very normal. Today I took my boys to see Karate Kid and the six year old came home and did all kinds of kung fu moves on the rolled up sleeping bag! He knocked pictures off the wall. I had to tell him to take it easy. I would just tell the boys to take it outside if things get too crazy..........
I have an only boy and I am his gymnasium and wrestling partner when he doesn't have friends over. This behavior is totally normal. Sometimes the roughhousing is too much and the noise...sigh... I love my hour commute so I don't have to listen to the noise. Anyway, make sure you get out sometimes and make sure the boys understand the rules of "warfare"
Good luck =0)
S.
I had two boys almost the same distance apart as yours. Yep! I remember! When it would get too loud or rough, I would tell them to take it outdoors! Someday you will look back at this time and laugh...
