So my son is now sleeping his his big boy bed later and later each night. He used to wake up at 10:30 on the dot and we would co sleep from then on. I now find I can't sleep unless he's right there with me. .. . Anyone else get this separation insomnia? How did you deal with it? I miss sleeping.
Nicole! That is so me!! I usually have to check on him every 15 minutes because i'm just so paranoid! Lately it's been more like every 30, but UGH! I miss my snuggles :(
This happened EVERY time my son hit different stages (dropping a feeding, staying dry longer, dropping another feeding, not needing to get up to pee). I just keep "waiting" for him, but his schedule changes. Usually takes ME about a week to adjust to the 'new normal'.
Try writing out all your thoughts when you wake up. For some reason, putting our fears and worries on paper allows us to really see what is going on in our heads and to inquire into the validity of our fears. We have a tendency to just believe our thoughts rather than to be curious about them and make a concious choice about whether we want to believe them or not. Our fears are mostly made up of irrational beliefs about what might happen. Rarely are they based on any reality. I have found that curiosity is the antidote to fear/worry. Become curious about the chatter in your head during the times you wake up.
Definitely! Keep reminding yourself that his not waking up means he's getting a really good nights' sleep and he's safe and happy. It takes awhile but eventually your body's alarms start calming down and eventually you begin enjoying snuggling up to your hubby again and the extra room. :) I wish you good sleep soon!
Yes, yes, yes...my youngest is now 15 and I still miss it, lol. still get up in the middle of the night and make sure they are okay...The only time I get cuddle time is when there is an "awful" crisis in their lives and you never hope for that! It does get a little easier but it never goes away!
M. :)
I know what you mean, I knew I had to make my son start sleeping in his own bed. so we did the night time fairy- she leaves a small toy or candy under your pillow if you stay in your own bed all night. well I finally got him to sleep in his own bed all night but I couldn't sleep either, when I did fall asleep I woke up to check on him ALOT. it took some time but I can sleep with out jumping up every 10 mins to see if he's breathing. I don't think you ever really get over wanting your child to sleep with you and snuggle. my son is 4 now and he just started coming in to sleep with me again, he thinks he has to fall asleep in my bed, I move him to his when he's out but in the morning I find him at the foot of the bed asleep. he has a new little brother and it's nice to get to just snuggle with him and let him know I still love him as much as before. it might take some time to get used to your son sleeping in his own bed but you'll still have when he gets scared to cuddle and let him know he's safe and loved. good luck and I hope you can sleep soon.
My DD NEVER likes sleeping with us, even though I wanted to co-sleep. We just recently moved and she was ALL about sleeping with us for about a week. I LOVED it! She's 3 and it's hard to settle her. She's comfy in her own bed now, and that's good, but I sure miss those few days that had to snuggle her!
