AnkMy 2 Year Daughter Cries All Day at Daycare

The trouble I see in these scenarios is that if the child is truly scared and has good reason to, then changing schools will help. BUT, if the child is not giving the school and teachers a chance and the problem is ALL the child's refusal to even try, then moving them will be more of the same and start the whole process over.

It sounds as if it's time to have some talks with other parents. Get there early and talk with them as they arrive or stay as they leave.

Hi I. at the age of 2 they understand the concept of being left. I've been a daycare provider for 14 years and I have had 3 children not able to adjust to daycare, and I got to tell you when ypu are trying to get baby's to go to sleep or put the children down at nap, time and you have one crying the whole day it's very disruptive, that's why you probably have been asked to pick her up. If she has been in daycare for 6 weeks without any improvement, you may have to find a way to saty home with her, start your own home daycare or another home based business. I have my daycare and another home based business, my kids are grown now but in enabled me to be a SAHM with no regrets. J.

I own a childcare center and last Wednesday was our first day back to school so today was our 5th full day. I have a classroom with eleven 18-24 month old toddlers. Six of those children were new to daycare. The first two days were horrible (for them) they cried most of the day. By Friday it wasn't as bad, but not great. I expected Monday to be bad because of the weekend. Just minimal crying from one child. Today all children came in fine, no tears, the teacher was able to do her circle time, the children danced, went outdoors to the playground, napped fine, all in all a great day. Point is something is wrong. A child should not take 6 weeks to adjust. Two things I think could be happening here, either the staff is not doing anything to help her feel comfortable, or she is just not ready for a center based daycare. I will tell you as the director I personally helped in that classroom last week. I held the babies, helped put them to sleep, helped feed them, played on the floor with them, just because It breaks my heart to see the children going through this tough transition. I also NEVER just let a child start school. I have them visit us for a week or so even if it is just a 1/2 hour a day. It doesn't guarantee they won't cry but it does help them to become familiar with the staff. During those first few visits mommy stays, and then maybe the last few visits leaves for a half hour. The visits are short and I think not as difficult for them, verses just starting a child and leaving them at school all day. Is there any way you can go a little earlier and stay with her a little each morning, and help her to feel comfortable? If the center does not comply then I would consider changing centers. Also, some children do better in a home based center and maybe you can revisit a larger center over the summer, and help her transition in for the next school year. Good luck!! I know how difficult it is to see your little one so upset.

Maybe its all to much for her. To big of a change. Have you thought of putting her in a home day care where there is not as much caos. Only 6 other kids around her age and not rooms and rooms of children. that way there is a more lienient zone for her to adjust.

I agree with the previous posters. Crying a bit at transitions is normal. Crying all day means something needs to change. This daycare is evidently not a good match for your child. Pull her out and try something else.

Sorry.

As a childcare provider, I have only had one child in 22 years that simply could not adjust. He was with me for 8 VERY LONG months and because I am not a quitter, and a few other reasons, I kept this child. I kept thinking I would be able to help this child overcome his sadness. Unfortunately, it never happened. I do believe that in this little boy's case, his mother had a lot to do with the fact that her child could not adjust. Children read their parent's body language and facial expressions.

I believe you may need to change her to a smaller setting, or figure out a way to stay home with her. Six weeks is a very long time for a child to adjust and quite honestly, it is difficult for a provider to bond to a child who is constantly screaming.

my daughter was like this too. i actually had to pull her out of mdo for a while. once she went back she was better but she still grabs onto me everyday and shes 4 i wish i would say it gets easier but some kids just dont like being away from mom and dad

What are the day care folks doing to help you? Anyone with pre-K training or education should have some advice to help her adjust to daycare.

We had my little guy in a home daycare until just now - he's 2 months shy of 4 and ready for an 'adventure' vs. home daycare. I find with a home center, they are more 'loved' and the one-on-one time is more. Just my opinions of course... It gives them more of a 'home' feeling too. I think it's a good inbetween from your home, to an actual center.

Something to look into!

Here's my thought. If you don't just stick with it and make her go, she will eventually get used to it, then you are stuck with a child that knows if they cry they will eventually get to have what they want....that's the truth. The other think is, if you ever have to have a job, to support yourself, then you are stuck with a child that cries and cries. I feel bad for her but she will adjust, it may take weeks longer but she should have already stopped crying at all.

If you take her in, stop at the door, hug her, tell her you love her, then hand her over to a teacher and leave she should get the idea and be done in a matter of days. If you are doing that then perhaps it's time to sit down with the director and talk to them about the experience level of the teachers and their patience.

You need to switch daycare providers.

Yikes! 6 weeks seems like a really long time. Maybe it's just not the right fit for her.