My son has gone thru something very similar. At age 10 a dentist examined him and proclaimed my son's teeth were a disaster and even removing several teeth might also need jaw surgery! What a crock! Needless to say, I got several other opinions. And you do have to be careful when getting those opinions from dental professionals that 'seem' not to be in 'cahoots' with each other. What we don't know about their dental groups, group co-oped owned and civic and municipal connects would cause us alarm. So it's not safe anymore for we consumers/patients to assume they're not connected in some manner.
On the other hand, some dental professionals will refer their patients to others that have very glowing reports and stats. Follow your 'Mom' instincts is always the best bet.
Once we connected with an orthodontist we trusted, he suggested letting some of my son's baby teeth naturally fall out. Sure this took a year or more for some, but it was well worth it to let his mouth continue to grow and form naturally. The doctor had also said the baby teeth were long in coming out because other than some very very crooked teeth and extended upper jaw, his teeth were very healthy and were happy being there.
When some did obviously need pulling, our doctor never pulled more than 2 at a time. He did this to let the other teeth naturally fall in line or to see how the adult teeth would come in.
After only 4 months with upper braces my son no longer has a massive upper bite that used to hit on his bottom teeth. Also we learned that severally crooked teeth like my son's, it can cause migrain type headaches that led to vomiting.
My son loves his bite now, getting the upper braces alone for now seem to have done the trick. It's been from August to January and no more headaches, no more vomiting and he's so glad we let him make some of those very important decisions with us.
Another thing we found out thru this time was that some middle school and maybe younger, plus high school children 'insist' that their parents get them braces! For alot of kids it's a 'status' symbol to show they are weathly enough to affort them! I know.. I had to shake my head a few times about that too! hehe..
So, H.... I followed my 'Mom' instincts and got several opinions outside of the dental group we were in and believe I made the best decisions for my son and us. Omgosh! Now he wants to drive and date!! Ughhhhhhh....
Blessings, Love and Peace to you and your family, H...