July 28, 2008,
D.H. asks from Chelmsford, MA on July 26, 2008
2 Year Old with Nightmares
My 23 mo son, who has been sleeping through the night for a while now, has been waking up crying with nightmares. It has happened three times this week and the real problem is that he can not settle back to sleep for 3-4 hours. We are exhausted and not sure how to deal with this. Initially he is really scared and we try and comfort him, but he doesn't want to stay in his room so after about an hour of this, we take him to our bed where he can't settle either (he is just so restless). I don't know what to do, we have tried to not pick him up and comfort him in his crib but he freaks out, so we are left with little sleep these nights. Nothing obvious has changed with his daily activities or sleep routine and he goes to bed without problems. Anyone out there have any experience with this issue. Any suggestions of how to help him settle back to sleep quicker. Do you think we shouldn't bring him into our room, even though it is the only way to settle him (he never sleeps with us thats why it is weird)? Please help!!!
L.W. answers from Boston on July 27, 2008
Do you use any lullaby music? We have a CD by The Wiggles. Its a comfort to my kids when they are restless, or had a bad dream/can't sleep. Even my 7 yo who claims to hate the music. Its a different story when shes had a bad dream! :) I also used to sit with them until they went back to sleep, or when i got up to leave if they popped there eyes open i'd lie & say i had to goto the bathroom or something. They usually went back to sleep. I try not to bring them to bed, it starts a bad habit, & its too crowded.
B.B. answers from Boston on July 26, 2008
my son (who is 15 now) use to have nightmares at around 2 years old and a bit older too. What helped him was that I comforted him by asking him about the nightmare, hugging etc. Once we were through that I would have him lay back down with me beside him and would tell him in a gentle voice to think about something that makes him happy (you could have suggestions). Once you knonw what it is that he wants to think about, have him close his eyes while you talk about the thing that he wants to think about that makes him happy. Hopefully this will help him relax and go back to sleep in his own bed. Let me know how things work out.
C.M. answers from Boston on July 27, 2008
My daughter is 23 1/2 months and doing the same thing i so feel your pain. She would wake up around 12 everynight. So they had me waking her @ 11:30 and let her know it is still bed time and jsut hold her for about 10 - 15 min. dont let her play and i would just rock her and she will go back to bed. They told me to do this for a week and see how it works. It has been working for us. It has been 5 days, and still going strong. God luck with your little one, keep me posted on how it works
V.S. answers from Pittsfield on July 27, 2008
As usual, all wonderful suggestions by the mamasource mothers.
Here are a couple of links to information about childhood nightmares:
They all offer similar information to each other and to what the other mom's have suggested.
Good luck to you and your little one.
V. S, LICSW (and mom)
J.M. answers from Boston on July 26, 2008
Poor everyone! I hate when my daughter gets into this pattern. Now that she's a little older (3.5) she can wake up and just get walked back to her room, but that wasn't the case for the longest time. What we found worked best was just to put out a pad on her floor, and one of us would go in and sleep there. She never settled down in our bed either. Of course, we then had to break her of that habit, but we did that after we all (finally) had a few better nights rest. Also, I wouldn't question him too much about the dreams - he's too little to understand what a dream is, and talking to him about it just validates that it's "real." I do think that reassuring him that he's safe and helping him think of happy things is a good idea.
J.D. answers from Boston on July 27, 2008
I would try to avoid bringing him into your bed if it's possible. Is there a chair in his room that you could sit in and comfort him there. Once they get a taste of being with mom and dad in their bed, it's hard to get them back into their own (I'm still dealing with this with my almost 3 year old daughter). I would do some research on nighmares in children that young - see if that's a normal thing at this age. Maybe it's just a phase. Their level of exposure to scary things is usually pretty low at that age - so what would be causing nightmares like that. Maybe try to be conscious of the tv shows/movies he's watching and tell any babysitters the same thing. Characters that might seem innocent to adults could be scary to young children. I hope this phase passes soon and he gets back to normal. Lack of sleep is terrible - I know.
A.F. answers from Providence on July 27, 2008
My daughter experienced night terrors and still does at age 4. My best advice is get him something special to sleep with that he picked out. Also, try to make a dream catcher. We bought the supplies at Michael's. Each morning we shook out the beads which caught all the bad dreams. I also stopped taking her into my room and made a little bed to sleep in her room. Each couple of nights, I got closer to the door. Eventually after about a week and a half, things got better. We also had to change her bedtime a little. She was so overtired that she was not sleeping well. So, check what time his nap is and also what time he is going to bed. You should have some success! Hope it works out!
L.F. answers from Boston on July 27, 2008
Hi there, my daughter went through the same thing and this is what we did. We brought her to Build a Bear and had her choose a bear and make it. As we did so we told her that this one is a magical bear that keeps the bad dreams away. It really worked! She sleeps with her bear every night and the dreams just seemed to disappear. The few times she had one her bear had fallen out of her bed. goodl uck, the night terrors should pass.
T.A. answers from Boston on July 27, 2008
I am not sure if this will help, but we went through the same thing when my child was 2 yrs old. The doctor said it was night terrors. My husband and I took turns sleeping on the couch because my son would scream if we brought him upstairs. Even if we let him fall deep asleep first. Eventually, we got through this. It was hard, but be patient, if it is night terrors it won't last forever.