I have three daughters, ages 9,7 and 4. My two oldest daughters both suffered from night terrors by varying degrees. My oldest would whine and cry but not be responsive to my voice. I would sit by her and talk soothingly until she settled down. My middle child had night terrors almost exactly like what you are describing. She also talks in her sleep regularly. She would scream, thrash, cry, moan and sound like something horrible was happening to her. I would try to hold her but it just made it worse. Finally I started to just sit beside her and talk to her or sing until she calmed down. It seemed to be more stressful for me than it was for her. The longer it went on, the more she expected me to move her to my bed. She had to learn that I was there for her but that these terrors weren't a reason for her to sleep with me. My 7 yr olds night terrors started when I started working a different shift and she had to start day care. She no longer has any night terrors.