10-Month Old Getting up in the Middle of the night...again!

I think feeding him would just encourage the behavior. I'd probably just let him cry- no matter how long it took. I'd check on him every 15ish minutes and if he was standing in the crib, lay him back down so he'd get the picture. It would be so, so hard- I'm not denying that, but I think it'd be worth it in the long run. Kids just go through periods of testing. Just be consistent!

We laugh at the "testing cycle". Our DS is 2 and about every 3-4 months we have to re-train him to sleep thru the night. I don't know if it's growing, slight changes in schedule, or what, but we'll have several nights - sometimes a week - of training, then we're back to some well deserved rest for all of us.

He'd get himself wound into a tizzy sometimes when he was younger (10 months). We found Colic Tabs by Hylands (has chamomile in it) could be helpful. You can does them every 15 minutes for the first hour, and, after an hour he was usually sound asleep!

Until just a month or so ago we were still getting up between 3-4am for a bottle with him. Other than that he was sleeping thru the night and it seemed so minor we didn't press the issue. We changed the bottle from 6, to 4, to 2 ounces over a few weeks and now he doesn't expect it at all and is sleeping thru the night. Sometimes you have to pick your battles...

Only other advice I can give is to take turns with your hubby. We would take alternating nights or before midnight is me and after is him... depending on schedules. Whatever you can find to cope!

Good luck!
T.

I totally feel your pain. I have a daycare girl that is about the same age. I forget how long she has been with me or when her birthday is. But she just learned to walk and is almost a year old I believe. She's never slept through the night or even close to it. Since her parents come to pick her up sometime between Midnight and 3 am, she wakes up knowing mom and dad will be here. I think sometimes she is waiting for them and other times she simply wants to play. It doesn't help that they have taught her to rely on the pacifier on the weekends and at my house I dropped the binky about 3 months ago. Also, with my own family in the house I feel the need to keep her from waking everyone. After all, they didn't sign on for this and she isn't our own. So crying to sleep isn't an option for me even though at times I have tried it.

I honestly think we just need to suck it up and realize it's a part of being a parent or in my case a provider. Yeah, sometimes I don't get the sleep I want. But this will pass...for awhile! Be glad you don't do what I do. Every time I get one sleeping through the night I end up starting another one.

Suzi

10 months is pretty early to expect them to sleep through the night. My 3rd born slept through the night almost from day 1, and would people would ask me (all sympathetically) at maybe 2 or 3 months old if the baby was sleeping through the night yet, I would laugh & say, yeah she sleeps fine, it's my 2 year old that's STILL not sleeping through the night! That 2 year old is now 9 & still often wakes up once or twice & occasionally is still a little needy when she wakes up. At least she doesn't cry anymore! But it took years before she would sleep through more often than not. She's always been the earliest riser though. The baby that slept through from day 1 has remained a great sleeper, and my 5 year old (a different one) still often wakes up screaming. sigh. But the baby (almost 3) is a great sleeper. They're all different. 10 months is way early to worry about sleeping through the night. It's been a solid 10 years since my husband & I have slept through the night since we have so many kids so close together. It just comes with the territory!

You might be able to do something firm, that might border on militant, to get your kid to start sleeping through the night, but think carefully about whether that's the parenting style you agree with. We've always put nurturing & acceptance over schedules & our kids are all happy & well-adjusted.

My advice - nap with your kid during the day to make up for the loss of sleep at night. And enjoy these baby months before they're gone forever. Don't be in a hurry to get them to grow up, which sleeping through the night is part of.

Good luck!

S., mother of 6

You might need to push his bedtime back an hour. Make sure he's fed (try cereal, if your just nursing) because that keeps him full longer, bathe him, rub him down (like a massage) & put him to bed. No two kids are alike & you have a wide spread....trust me I know mine are ten years apart. If you keep bringing him into the room with you, you'll regret it later don't start a habit you don't want to pay for later. Your the Mom....don't let him dictate to you how he wants it done. Kid's are sooooo smart now a days. You sound like a woman with a lot of patience, good luck to you & God Bless!

I would say he's probably going through a growth spurt and maybe needs more to eat/drink to get him through the night. If you give him a little extra before bedtime and keep him up just a bit longer it may help.

You might need to let him stay up later,If he can not last much later than 7:30 push it back gradually.Keep him up 10 min the first couple nights then 20 min,and so on until you have a bedtime that works for both of you.When my kids were under a year they didn't go to bed until 10 PM.I don't know what your schedule is like so I am not going to suggest a specific time.However it sounds to me like he has gotten a little older and doesn't require going to bed that early anymore.

try just giving him water instead of feeding him. After a few nights of that he probably won't want to wake up for water. Also is he teething? Maybe his teeth are bothering him and can put teething gel in his mouth when he wakes up and give him a drink of water.

Instead of taking him to your bed, try rubbing his back in his bed until he goes back to sleep. He will make that crawling in your bed a habit that will be hard to break.