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Sit him on your toilet while you hold him. Show him how to grip the seat. Instead of telling him wont fall in, teach him how NOT to fall in. When he refuses tell him that isnt an option. He MUST do this because he has to go to school. Sympathize with him so he knows you understand his fear, but reassure him that you will NOT let him fall in. He is probably afraid of being flushed so you might get a ball and let him throw it in the big toilet and try to flush it. (make sure the ball is big enough not to flush, yet smaller than him, a softball size ball will work)
Hold him on the big toilet a few times a day for a couple of minutes. Dont insist he make in it, but do insist he sit.