Has anyone ever heard of this? My 7 year old nephew was uninvited to a birthday party that is tomorrow. Now we are scrambling to find something even "more fun" to do with him, as his heart is broken. The mother of the birthday boy called my SIL and told her, her son no longer wants him to come. What the heck? If my son changed his mind, but the invitations had already gone out, I would say tough luck. This is a 7 year old. I am speechless and clueless other then trying to come up with something he can do that is even better to take his mind off it. Any Ideas that won't break the bank?
The 2 boys are very good friends. They had a disagreement, from what I understand it was about who won a race at recess.
How incredibly rude! I'd say, tell him to invite a friend and just take them to McDonalds or something to play. Let them get an ice cream, etc.
My 9 year old would be crushed if something like this happened! Poor little guy!
I say let him have the present that was meant for his friend and then take him to a movie or something like that. But seriously, the mother of the other little boy is so obnoxious for letting her child act like that---I'm sure that kid won't turn out spoiled at all (sarcasm).
How terrible! I too would say tough Johnny is coming and you WILL BE NICE!
What does he like to do? I am assuming after school tomorrow. My kids love to go bowling, maybe a friend or two also not invited could do that. Or take him out to eat at a Buffet place. We love Golden Corral or Hometown Buffet.
I would not play too much into it. Sometimes the more mom and dad make of something the bigger it tends to be in the child's eye. Although, I'm sure you would like a few choice words with the mother of the party boy. How rude.
That is so sad. I wonder what happened? If I was that mom I would tell my son that he can't just uninvite someone because people have feelings. He would just have to tough it out and then he wouldn't have to hang out with him after that. Maybe the son told the mom some convincing reason to not invite your nephew. I would ask him what he wanted to do. He is probably at the age where he knows what he would like to do.
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That is so sad. I wonder what happened? If I was that mom I would tell my son that he can't just uninvite someone because people have feelings. He would just have to tough it out and then he wouldn't have to hang out with him after that. Maybe the son told the mom some convincing reason to not invite your nephew. I would ask him what he wanted to do. He is probably at the age where he knows what he would like to do.
...My child would be crushed as well ask him what it is that he would like too do? Not anything that is expensive but give him three things too pick and you can help him bring it down to the one that don't cost alot.. It will be special for him to pick just what he wants too do for fun...
I think that after I calmed down I would have to call that parent and just ask them what it was that my child done?>
Good Luck!!!
OMG... well, that is reallllllllyyyyyyyyy awful.
Geez.
I guess, now, that child will think that he can outcast anyone... and not really learn about "friendships" and what that means.
I guess, he will have a shallow understanding about how to "fix" disagreements.... but I guess, this boy's Mom is going along with it because it is her son's Birthday and the birthday boy is getting whatever he wants... even ostracizing a "friend". And I assume, this boy is the one that "lost" the race???? What poor behavior.
Teach your nephew, well his Mom should... use this situation as a "learning moment" in life... that some people are incapable of being "fair" and do not know what sportsmanship or friendship is.
That he should not take it personally.... and that he is the better person...
Maybe, getting him something REALLY special... to show him that he is a REAL special INDIVIDUAL... and that, he is loved...
Unfortunately, this can be a real positive learning experience for your Nephew...
Maybe bake a special cake for HIM... to "celebrate" HIM... for being such a special boy. And make it a cake that he likes.
Wow! I thought only teenage girls pulled this crap! I would just make the day special for your nephew. Maybe a family trip to Chuck E Cheese or something similar.
I do feel sorry for the little boy and his family, with this much power at 7 what happens later? YIKES!
I guess this is also one of those life lesson moments too. I really hate those, but as much as you'd like to, you can't protect your children for ever.
OMG -I am flabbergasted! That has to be one of the tackiest, silliest, absolutely CLASSLESS things I've ever heard of! Quite honestly, that fact that your SIL hasn't cleaned her clock says good things about her. I don't think I could let her off without at least writing her a letter to let her know that she upset and hurt a little boy -all the while teaching her son that being a Grade A jerk is just fine.
I don't know what's available near where they live, but maybe a day at one of those go-cart, bumper boat, arcade places would be cool -or an actual amusement park if any are open near you. Depending on what the kid likes to do -I would take it in that direction. Maybe put a few things together -a hike, a sporting event or a movie coupled with a meal at his favorite place or something.
Unbelievable. Just. Incredible. What is wrong with people. Anyway. I would return the gift and use the money to go to one of the 3d movies that are out. And eat something yummy.
Spoil him tomorrow, whatever you do, but also talk to him about the phrase "taking the high road." That nobody in your family would never uninvite anyone to a party, that he should consider inviting this friend to his own next party anyway, just to make the point that polite, good people don't let little squabbles ruin whole relationships. You could let him keep the gift for himself, or even better, make a point of bringing it to a charity (a homeless shelter or children's hospital.) He's only 7 so it's hard to help him feel bigger than all this, but if you can, what a silver lining you can make of this.
W. O. W. I'm sitting here in utter shock. That may possibly be the rudest behavior I've ever heard of. I just don't even know what to say except that other mom gets the prize for worst parenting skills. I hope you find something fabulous to do with your nephew. And good riddance to that loser of a friend and his awful mother. Just shocking. Really.
My first little deviant thought was if you knew the other kids invited you could invite them to you house instead...then I felt bad about that thought too. How sad for your little boy. To be sure the other little boy would miss out on something fun thing at your house and then he would understand the feelings getting hurt.
Ditto on what all the all the other mothers say. I think this mom is setting a terrible example for her son. My heart breaks for your nephew. I agree with all of the other suggestions. Plan a special day for your nephew- something he'd really like to do. Maybe a special pizza place, a museum, or whatever. As for the gift- I suggest you donate it to charity and talk to your nephew about doing something nice for others.
That's horrible and completely immature of the mother. What a difficult situation. What does he enjoy? Can you take him hiking or are any of his other friends available for an outing?
The sad thing is that they will be friends again and the moms will reasonably so have ill feelings toward one another, I am sure.
I can see it. This happended to us. Would I do it, I can't say. It would depend on what my child came home and told me. Would I call and say 'you're uninvited!' No, but if my son was really upset, I probably wouldv'e called your SIL to see your nephew's side of things.
My son, his friend, and 2 others - all age 6-8 - were playing wrestle/tackle football at the babysitter's. Mind you, none of them know the rules for football, they just think wrestling and football are COOL! The friend started crying that he got hit with a stick and instead of going to any of 3 parents that were standing right there, went home to his mom. Who didn't come out while everyone was there, but waited hours to call and suggest that my son apologize for hurting her son. I wouldn't do it. My son said that he hadn't been the one that did it, and that's all I had to go on. So the other mom and I agreed that the boys should take a break from playing together... then she says 'oh and I guess that this means that you won't be at his party this weekend.' 'oh, well, I guess not.'
Within days the boys were talking again, (sooner than the moms) and come the weekend the friend called to reinvite my son to the party.
Just remind your nephew that this will pass and every friendship has arguments. Take him out to a fun movie or activity and let it pass.
Megan
Just when you think you've heard it all. This is truly one of the dumbest and saddest things I've heard. The kids get over it long before the "adults" do.