Ok Now , what does people think about husbands and boyfriends going out to strip joints with friends? Do you consider it as cheating? Would anyone allow husband or boyfriend to do this?
In my opinion I think it is wrong. Men should get this kind of thing out of their system when they are young and not married or committed to someone! I would never allow it and I would be incredibly mad if my husband went to strip clubs. I don't know if I would consider it cheating, but I would definitely consider it being disrespectful to your wife/girlfriend.
This is just my opinion :)!
-Pam
It's cheating.
All right now, get real. Cheating? Wrong? Disrespectful? They are a 3D figment, that's it! What are they doing so wrong? So they go out, have a few drinks, ogle a few girls, then come back home to you. Now I would get mad if he dropped $100 on a strip club and not me ..lol
To tell you the truth, I don't see anything wrong. It was stated earlier that it should happen when they are young and not committed...ok, I can understand this, but you are forgetting one thing. THEY ARE COMMITTED TO YOU NOW!! Why hinder their natural male instincts just because you get a jealous streak that a girl MAY look better than you. Come on now. This is not about them going out, but more about women who want to fester their insecurities and blame it on guy's actions. And how is anyone going to say they won't ALLOW their man to go do that. You should not have any control over them in order to ALLOW them to do anything.
Married women go out all the time to bars and clubs and ogle the guys around there. No, those guys are not stripping, but it's the exact concept. Those women are imagining another man, they same as a man would be doing at a strip club looking at a woman.
Point Blank, these guys are not doing anything wrong. They're going out, having a good time, and living it up. As long as they allow you to go out and have the same good time, there's not a darn thing wrong with it.
You know what? There was a time when I would have made a big thing out of it, but not anymore. I now my husband loves me and I trust him. If he wants to look thats OK. He's coming home to me!! Beside we are not here to treat them like our kids they are adults. It is not up to us to teach them.
Marcia
I wouldn't care so much if it were a boyfriend and the guys were just going out to have some fun, but I would if it were my husband. If that makes sense. When it comes down to marriage I don't feel there's any reason he should want or need to go out and pay money to see other women strip for him. I just feel it's a sign of disrespect. I definantly don't feel that way due to lack of confidence in myself, as someone stated earlier. But I guess it also depends on the marriage, religious beliefs, and what each couple is open to. Because I know my husband wouldn't want me wasting money to ogle at other men either. We have a strong respect for one another. And we definantly have more important things to waste our money on.
Not cheating. Cheating would be if they started fooling around with one of the strippers and that never happens. My husband goes out with the guys occasionally and I know it is really just a social kind of thing. If he starts going out by himself or makes it a weekly thing, then you have reason to worry.
I have gone with my husband to a strip club-I would have no problem with him going without me.
I do not consider it as cheating and I would be upset if I was not invited to go to the tittie bars with my man! But to eaches own...some women are not secure enough with themselves to "allow" their man to go check out some naked ladies, as long as he goes home and "takes care" of you when he gets home who cares?
Hello.I think it is ok for guys to go to a strip club its a guy thing.As long as they dont touch them or tip them to much.They always come home.But if theres more than just watching them then theres a problem.As long as he dont talk about the girls all the time with his buddies or brag about them around u then ur fine dont worry about it.
that is tough, I dont consider it cheating, but sometimes wonder why a happily married man thinks they need to go to a club like that.. if it is seldom done and not of regular occurance, I dont think it is bad. Although the friends he is with are they married as well? sometimes single men can influence through pressure the wrong way not meaning to. but if it is just a once in a while occurance, it is probably just male bonding "fun" good luck
first of all, everyone has their own opinions on this, and i respect that. I have friends who are/have been strippers and that's their personal story. i don't think it's CHEATING exactly. and i'd like to point out my feelings on it have nothing to do with my jealousy or insecurity when it comes to my husband. But he respects me enough to know that strip clubs bother me. I never tell him he CAN'T go... he just doesn't. Marriage is about compromise and making the other person happy. if you're uncomfortable about something your hubby should be willing to give a little & visa versa.
But basically my opinions all come down to the fact that this world is just going down the toilet (which i'm sure makes some of you roll your eyes, but again, it's just my opinion). Sex is such a beautiful thing and i believe that the whole strip club industry is cheapening the love and passion and excitement of sex between two people and just turning it into "nothing special", along with purpetuating the feeling that a girl is more important to a guy if she has a perfect beautiful body and will get naked for him. Basically though i just feel that it is all cheapening sex, cheapening women and encouraging infidelity. And especially if there are children involved - that is money better spent on your family not on random women taking off their clothes for you. But like i said, everyone has their own opinion on it... one group of my friends (some married and some unmarried) go up to the Canadian strip clubs often and just respect that on those nights i don't hang out with them. I refuse to support the industry.
I don't consider it cheating, If my husband goes out to something like that I just tell him not to come home and want anything from me. But I do allow him to go it really does not bother me to much. Well I hope I helped.
If he watches them and you reap the benefits enjoy it
take it for what it'sworth but i have been happily married now for four years this august.... All that said... i much prefer him going there than to a normal bar.... girls in these clubs are after his money... he goes to a normal bar and they are meat markets and looking for more than that. When hubby goes out it is normally to strip clubs. Although i can say it is not often, and i don't believe it should be often for a married man! hope this helps at least a little
Doesn't bother me in the least. I trust him.
Besides.. he's more interested in any food they might serve... honestly he a faithful guy.. way faithful and I dont' ever worry about him. Nor he about me.
Without that level of trust... I'd not be with him.
I would not want my husband going to the clubs. I cringe at the thought of my husband looking at another woman and feeling sexual urges or thinking sexual thoughts. Maybe I think that he will compare the two of us and find her sexier. I think it is unnecessary and if a man is happy in a relationship than there would be no need for him to see other naked women. I wouldn't say that it is cheating, but i do feel like it is some sort of betrayal.
I wouldnt consider it cheating unless he comes home with lipstick or smelling like them. He is coming home to you that is what matters most. I wouldnt worry about it, unless it were an every night thing.
Cathy
No, of course it's not cheating. I don't allow or disallow my husband, I'm not his momma. I married a guy who is just not into this sort of thing, so it's not a problem for us.
If this is something your guy thinks he'd like to do every other year or something, I'd think nothing of it. Any more than that and I'd think maybe he should be thinking about getting friends with more varied interests. It's a huge money sink, it attracts people I'd rather not associate with. That alone is reason enough to not make this anything more than a once in a blue moon event. Heck, if my husband wanted to spend $300 on a woman, I'd rather he buy ME a new purse!
Is this the same guy that prompted you to ask about porn mags? If you combine the two issues, you may have something to be concerned about.
If he's heavily into porn and and even moderately into strippers, face it, he may not be a good match for you!
It's a disgusting way to treat women in the first place. If you respect women, how can you go and sit and watch them take their clothes off for money. Men are supposed to protect and honor women, not make them so they have to stoop to such a thing to make a buck. If a man truly has respect for women, they wouldn't feel comfortable going to places like this. If he can't respect women, he can't respect you.
Yes, it's definitely cheating. A man that is drooling over another woman is cheating on you. I wouldn't want a man that would want to look at other women. If he doesn't like me, I would find someone that would.