My baby just turned 5 mths old and everytime i put her down she starts crying extends her arm out to me and keeps crying and crying. she will not stop until i pick her up. sometimes she stops when i sit there and play with. is she spoiled? help!! what do i do??
nope you can't spoil a child under a year old. She's just a baby , and pick her up. You can get a front carrier so your arms arent engaged, and put her front facing so she can see what you're doing and even explain what your doing she will love it.
is this your first baby?
ok spoiled is when you leave milk out to long also when you buy a child things it does not need like every single toy they point at in Walmart. No you are not making a spoiled child she's a baby, pick her up or maybe even get a sling to carry her in. Trust me hold her now before her independent stages of being a toddler then her being 8 and too big to sit on your lap oh and of course when she's 13 and too cool to walk with you...hold her now.
It is not possible to spoil a five month old. If your baby wants to be picked up, by all means pick her up. She just needs to feel secure and all babies go through stages where they want to be held all the time. Don't worry. She will start working on her independence soon enough. By picking her up, you are helping to build her security and self esteem. You are also letting her know that you are there for her and she can rely on you. My son is 3 and somedays he say," Mama, will you sit with me". He also just wants to be held sometimes. It is completely normal and I would never recommend ignoring your babies needs. This stage won't last forever. Take in the love...
I agree with the other respondents. You can't spoil a five month old - pick her up and help her to build trust. You will be surprised how quickly she will grow out of this stage and you may actually miss it one day!
No, she isn't spoiled, yet. She is probably in a phase right now where she wants to be held, which is fine. But she is also old enough to learn that mommy can't hold her every waking momment either. My friend has a 1yr old, and she never drew that line of when to hold her daughter and even at 11 months old, she would cry and cry till mommy picked her up. And as soon as she was mid air, she stopped crying. If mommy acted like she was going to put her down, the crying started. She would follow her around the house crawling and crying, then walking!! Finially she had to buy baby gates to keep her out of the kitchen when she was cooking because she was climbing up her legs!!
So, what I'm saying is that over time, it can become a bad habit if you don't establish the guidlines now. Don't think 5 months is too young to start learning it either. If you are in the middle of cooking dinner, tell her, "sweetie, mommy is cooking dinner so I can't hold you right now." and put her in her high chair or something that she can sit in with you in the kitchen or close by with a few toys. And if you have a few mins after dinner is done cooking, hold her or play with her in her chair. Repatition is the key here. It's how they learn something new and over time, she will understand that there is a time for being held and a time for not being held.
Good luck!
Sharie
I agree with everyone else. It is impossible to spoil a child that young. They don't know what being manipulative is at the age. What is used to do with my daughter is put her in carrier and that way I could still do things around the house and she was happy being next to me. We all won in the end:) Good Luck.
I have four children....ages 12, 10, 6 and 15 months....and you cannot spoil a baby! If she wants to be held, and you can, just hold that precious angel. I have had babies that do well when you put them down and some need to be held. Try a Snugli or Sling so that you can get things done and have both hands. She will grow soon and be off and you cannot get this time back.
Spoiled is when the milk turns bad and you have to throw it away. Indulged is probably a better word. I have learned that the words that we use determines our attitude towards our child. I don't think a 5 month old can be anything but a small person learning their way and their capabilities. If she can cry to get what she wants, then that is what she is learning. If you don't want it to happen then that is up to you. If dad doesn't want it to happen then it is up to him. See where I am going? Everyone can determine their own relationship with the baby, just try to always make sure it is a healthy one for both of you. I learned from my daughter as she grows, almost daily. I try to remember I was younger once and probably did the same things she does, or similiar.
Crying is one of the only ways she can communicate with you right now. So pick her up if she needs you to, talk with her gently and start explaining to her what your needs are. One day she will understand wait, and be patient.
Pick her up! No, it's IMPOSSIBLE for a baby to be spoiled; she needs her mama. PLease don't listen to those who say that you can spoil an infant. Even as a toddler there will be many times that she just needs to be held and played with. Babies are not these self sufficient little machines that some of those books make them out to be; we ALL need human contact especially at this tender age. Have you thought about getting a sling to wear her in? If you want more info please let me know.
Love,
Connie
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it is impossible to spoil an infant--hold her all you can!!! It won't be long before she won't want you to anymore....
It's impossible to spoil an infant. They don't have the capacity to be manipulative, so people who suggest that she's "pushing you around" or anything like that are dead wrong.
Pick her up! Hold her all you can. Crying is all she has to communicate, and to ignore her is to teach her that when she needs you, you won't come. That fosters clinginess, because she gets MORE upset when you put her down because she thinks you won't come back.
Let her trust you. Pick her up.
Instead of laying her down in her crib, put her in a bouncy seat or a swing, so she is entertained and can see or play with something. She just may need some stimulation. Try talking to her before you pick her up, get her interested in something and then try walking away and then talk to her from wherever you are in the room.
No, she is not spoiled. She is just wanting to see that you are there for her. When they are that young, you can't do anything to spoil them...just respond to her needs :)
momma
no your baby is not spoiled she is 5 months old and all this stuff is new. remember she was in your cozy womb for almost 40 wks
also my second child was the same way and nursed for hours. days at a time and i wanted my body back.
so her father took her and entertained her. I do not know if you are a single parent ask for help from you child's father or some one in your support group.
you are doing a great job and so hold that baby a five month old can not be spoiled and they grow through touch. ffor real
remember bear cubs stay up under their momma for a whole season.
momma leslie
Every 1 will probably disagree with me, now I dont think she is spoiled but she is deff learning to manipulate you. If she is not in pain and not sick your baby needs to learn to sooth her self and entertain herself for a little bit. She will not think you dont love her or not trust you if you dont pick her up right away. If 1 year is the magic age do you think your child will suddenly start playing by herself or not screaming when you put her down once her 1st birthday has passed if you have catered to her every demand before then. Babies have a will to get their way. Im not saying you cant love your baby and hold her play with her, but you need to start giving her time to entertain herself, it's actually very good for her and her creativity she can learn who she is apart from you. She needs to learn it's ok to not be with you every second of the day. What I do with my 6 month old is take a time of the day when she is happy and well fed. I either put her in her jump a roo or on a blanket for tummy time. I have interesting toys in her reach some rattle like toys and some soft comforting ones. SHe is learning to play by herself and she is secure playing by herself knowing Im near. I can do things like start the laundry or dishwasher. She also goes down for naps around the same time each day I know I get a break then and she had a predictable day. If you dont have a loose scheduel set up mahbe you should try to set one up that way she could know ok I wake up and eat then I have tummy time by myself then morning nap, then wake and feed a walk you get the idea, it should be a little flexible. Good luck I have 2 little girls and they are a joy!
You really can't spoil a child that young- especially with love. Babies go through different developmental stages and it is perfectly normal for a 5mo old to want to be held by mom all the time. She is just starting to sit up and take in the world from a whole new perspective and she feels more safe and secure doing it from your arms. Enjoy it while it lasts- my 6 year old is now embarrassed to hug or kiss me in front of anyone.
Nope, she's attached to you, and that is perfectly fine and normal. I "wore" my babies in carriers much of their first year, so I could actually get things done with my arms. By the time she's crawling and walking, you'll notice a pretty big change in how much she wants to be held and carried. Before you know it, she'll be off and running...and you'll miss the days when you could get a good snuggle in!
You can't really spoil a child at this age...they really only know survival. I suggest a sling or carrier of some sort, then they are held and you can get things accomplished if you need to. My husband even vaccuumed with our daughter in a sling! Ours is now 2 and snauggle days are not as often. ENJOY! Soon they'll be running out to play with friends and be their independent self - and you'll want these days back to hold them!