I had a friend recently tell me that she thinks it is inappropriate for moms --especially mothers of small children-- to wear bikinis when at the beach or pool with their children. I had never really stopped to think about it. I was very fortunate to be able to wear the same size post-children and have SO many bikinis from before that I never went out to look for a "mom suit." I wasn't aware moms had to wear one pieces or tankinis. Am I missing something here? What is your opinion--IS IT inappropriate for a mom to wear a bikini?
Oh my! If you have the figure after kids then by all means flaunt it!!! It is not inapporpriate to wear what you like. I have seen women in their 70’s in bikinis!
I, on the other hand, would NEVER. I am plus sized and have ‘hangy’ parts that I want COVERED at ALL times! If I saw someone like me on the beach in a bikini I would think “either she didn’t look in the mirror or she is lucky enough to not care what others think”!
i think if you have a nice enough body to wear one, why not? (i’m not talking g-strings here, lol) i dont think ANYONE should wear those in public. haha
Wearing one around little kids would not phase me. However, as the mom of teenage sons…I think THEY would be embarrassed! lol
I have always preferred one piece or tankinis - even when I had a bikini body. They are just more comfortable and practical for swimming…diving…our ocean swimming.
A woman does not have to stop wearing a bikini just because they have children.
Heck, in some parts of the world, women go topless to the beach. And it is no big deal. And men wear scanty bikini bottoms. Too. And these are parents, too.
yes. I don’t care if you have saggy skin or are chubby or have a little ‘junk in the trunk’ if you can see the bottom and see the top and all your stuff is covered. go for it.
I guess I don’t believe in the “if you have the body for it” because it’s really no ones business:)
No way!! Usually people who say those things, are the people who can’t or don’t have enought self esteem to wear bikinis. I have a 4 and 6 year old boy, and I’ve always worn bikinis. Why should you have to cover up your whole body just because you had kids?? Now, that does not mean I would condone mama’s wearing g-strings around children, but bikinis are fine.
I hope not because I do! It’s not a skimpy bikini with strings (because that’s just begging for something to happen), but I do wear a bikini. After two kids, I’ve worked damn hard to be able to do so!
I think it depends on the woman and whether wearing the suit will impede her ability to care for your children. But this could be any type of clothing
Can she bend over, climb stairs, stretch, run, crawl, sit on the ground, with out her breasts, butt crack, and lady parts being seen?
I even think about wearing a sun dress when I go to my nephews baseball games, because people sit under the bleachers and can look up..
I have seen women wear wide legged shorts and when they sit down, I could tell you the style and color of their panites.
So I do not think there is a “rule” as much as common sense about what people wear in general. You do not want to be a spectacle, but you can also still look cute as a mom.. ..
I think it depends on the situation and the suit itself, as well as how you act. Around small kids, acting like a mature adult and wearing a modest bikini is ok. Around older kids (like teens) maybe not. Acting like your are at an adults only event is not.
My daughter’s pre-k class had a pool part last year, and one of the moms who actually has a grown child (like mid 20s) in addition to the 5 year old, was wearing a bikini that looked like she was going to pop out of, wearing makeup and jewelry. Acting like a diva and was in the pool but not wanting to get her hair wet…was clearly just putting on a show…inappropriate.
Did you ask her why she thought this? I’ve never thought bikinis were inappropriate for any reason other than the shape of the body. If parts are hanging out, as one mom suggested, it’s not appropriate.
I can’t think of any other reason for a mother to not wear a bikini. Yes, do continue to wear yours.
I suggest that her idea may be along the antiquated ideas that say a woman (lady) should not wear mini-skirts or show their knees or even way back when, their ankles. Perhaps your friend thinks that since she has children she shouldn’t look too sexy?
I’m not a fan of bikinis for women of any age or stage of life, but I can’t for the life of me envision that there’d be a magic cutoff for bikinis that is activated post-baby.
I don’t think it is inappropriate for moms to wear a bikini - only if the swim suit is INAPPROPRIATE. I have seen lots of moms showing more than I’d want to see, and I can’t imagine parading around like that in front of your kids, no matter their age. I’d also imagine, that lots of folks that don’t want to see moms in a bikini might be a bit on the jealous side. I mean, if you can wear one after having kids, who wouldn’t be a bit envious?
I wouldn’t say that it is inappropriate, but it is impractical! Moms, especially those with small children, need to be able to swim, run around and be active without having to worry about popping out. If you have a good fitting bikini that allows plenty of movement, and you feel ok in it, then why not.
I don’t wear a bikini with my young kids because they will pull it down when I hold them. I make sure I wear a suit that can withstand a 15 month old tugging at the top. Now when my husband and I go out without the kids, I wear a two piece. Now the mom at the pool with the perfect body and four kids. I wish she didn’t wear a bikini, but that’s my jealousy talking.
Oh good grief…where is that friend from. Does she think that once you have a baby you are supposed to molt into frumpy mode? Does she wear skirts to her ankles too?
What would she do if she happened upon a topless beach… YIKES
My daughter is 18 and I am the same size 0-2 and in shape that I was before she was born. Yes, I wear my bikini… it is not strings and inappropriate but it is a hot little 2 piece that I wear with pride.
I don’t worry about what others think. If you are comfortable in your own skin and you can rock the bikini, go for it.
Never heard of that one…However I do wear a tankini with shorts because our 6 year old was at the pool one day, looked at me and practically shouted “HAHA! Look at these ladies wearing panties mommy!” Later that day he announced to anyone that would listen that he saw ladies wearing undies where everyone could see them!