Husbands that nap regularly

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Moms,
Please help settle this silly debate between my husband and myself....

Does your husband nap regularly, or at least every Saturday and Sunday? Does he talk about wanting to nap all the time?

My husband talks about or naps all the time. He will wake up in the morning and an hour or two later says he wants to nap. He also gets very tired in the car so he can't drive long distances (30 + miles) at a time.

I told him that most men don't nap past the age of 4 and he said every man does. So, I'm asking about your husbands so we can settle this once and for all. I guess if I'm wrong then I will owe him an extra long nap tomorrow :-) Maybe he'll cook for me tomorrow if I'm right :-) :-)

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My husband works very hard all week and of course participates at home each night. On the weekends he works on the house, the cars, plays with all of us and also helps his paretns with projects. He also has abusiness on the side that takes up about 10 to 15 hours a week on top of his own full time job.

He loves to nap, so if he does not get one on Saturday, he takes one on Sunday. I do not know where the rule is that a grown man who supports his family is not allowed to take a nap. It is the least he can request and easy to grant this request.

Now the not being able to drive more than 30 miles because he becomes too sleepy is a sign of something going on with him physically. He is not getting enough sleep, he is having high blood pressure or a thyroid problem. Make sure he has a full physical soon and that he mentions that he is always tired.

I love to nap too. I take a small one each day if possible..

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I don't know about most husbands, but my husband needs a nap everyday. He seems to need at least a 15 minute catnap most days. HOWEVER, he has sleep issues at night so the sleep he gets is not restful normally. Because of this, I don't complain much since he is much happier and helpful when he gets those catnaps.

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I work 50 hrs/wk doing home daycare and my husband works evenings as a restaurant manager. He gets up with me in the mornings and I stay up for him to get home at night. I'm not a good sleeper, however and am usually up longer than he is and up several times in the middle of the night. On the weekends, when we stay up even later than usual (1-2 am) and get to sleep in with our daughter (9:30-10:30 am), I am the one who takes naps when she does. My husband doesn't complain about my naps, even encourages them and offers to sit alert in the afternoons while the daycare kids are all napping so I can lay down. Oh, and I'm the one who does all the long-distance driving while he reads because I'm just a better driver and have more experience with long-hauls, mountains, etc.
It sounds like the real issue isn't whether he needs/wants a nap. It seems you resent the naps because you want him to be more present for you and your family. I would just talk to him openly about how you feel when he's napping, that you don't want to deny him a nap if he needs one, but would like him to participate more instead of taking so much time just for himself and not giving you time for yourself.
Good luck!

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I no longer have a husband so I can't speak from personal experience.
I guess it might depend on how old you are too.
My friends husbands all nap on the weekends if they get half a chance.
They do yardwork, paint the house, do chores, but they also like to lay down and just get some rest.
One of my friends is completely bugged crazy by this. Her husband works all week plus overtime and he gets tired. But, she works too. She is up earlier to deal with their dogs and the kid and on the weekends it's the same thing.
The men I'm talking about are in their 50's or close to it and I guess as we get older, we like a nap now and then.
I nap on the weekends too especially if it's rainy and yucky outside. It's nice to put on a movie and just doze.
Does your husband have sleep or apnea problems that keep him from being rested during the week? One of my friends husbands got a C-pap that he sleeps with. He looks like an alien. It gives him oxygen while he sleeps so he can actually rest. He's a pretty active guy....involved in a million things but he still likes a nap on the weekends.

Maybe there is a reason your husband is so tired. Maybe he just wants to relax. Who knows? It's not the worst thing in the world.
If you feel he might be depressed or have a health issue, it might be something to look into.
All I know is that he's not the only man that naps.
My son is 14, very active and social. He still takes naps. He puts lots of miles on his legs all week not to mention running the mile in PE everyday.
Heck yeah, he takes naps.

It will be interesting to see your other responses.
But, I know lots of men who take naps.
Maybe they are the odd ones, I don't know. :)

Best wishes

P.S. Just in case, have your husband checked for sleep apnea.
One of our friends got in 3 car accidents in two weeks because he fell asleep at the wheel. He was not on any drugs or alcohol or anything. He literally could not make it safely from his office to home without drifting off.
Your husband might have a point about the driving thing.
I think a good thorough physical exam might be in order just to be safe.

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Hey...my husband is napping right now! My hubby loves napping too....,and it drives me crazy!! He works during the week and on the weekend could probably sleep until noon (if I let him ;) ) Who needs that much sleep??? Then a few hours later he would love to take a nap....this drives me insane. I think he grew up with his father napping in a chair and has taken on the roll.

Good luck.

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I guess the real question would be----would he lovingly allow you an hour or two nap when your exhausted and really need it. My hubby works midnights and sometimes has trouble getting good rested sleep during the day (especially when its warm out). Therefore, if he gets really comfortable relaxing on the couch in the evenings, he'll likely nod off for about an hour. On the flip side, when I've needed a quick nap to keep my sanity, he's all for taking the two boys and letting me rest. Or when he comes home in the a.m. from work and the boys get up and I'm still sleeping, he'll let me just sleep until I feel like getting up.

Just a thought, but maybe he has sleep apnea, where he is not breathing well at night, thereby waking himself up without really even realizing it. Could explain how tired he feels all the time. He may want to check with a doctor about that as sleep apnea can have VERY negative effects on overall health.

Overall, naps aren't all that bad. There are far worse things he COULD be doing with him time. ;)

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The days my husband works he does not nap. Days that he is at home it is not uncommon to find him sleeping on the couch when my son is sleeping. If he gets up early for golf he most certainly will fall asleep on the couch by 7:30.

He does not talk about napping but denies that he actually fell asleep :)

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My husband naps around twice a month.

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My husband does exactly the same thing. I used to complain about it because I never take naps. I felt it was a waste of the day, but napping has a lot of benefits. READ BELOW.
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If you are a mom with small children, you are well aware of the benefits of a nap for your little ones. You know that when they get cranky, whiny, unruly, easily frustrated, or just plain mean, it is time for a nap. And when they wake up later, you usually see a completely different child with a much more pleasant disposition.

So, why can't this work for adults? American society frowns on midday sleep for adults. But, studies show, napping can increase productivity, reduce stress, increase learning capabilities, and lead to improved health. In many European, Latin, and Asian countries, napping is a way of life. In those areas of the world, instead of seeing someone as lazy and unproductive because she has taken a nap, they greet each other with, "How was your nap today?"

For example, in Spain, the entire country has a2-3 hour break from work or school in order to enjoy a huge lunch with several courses, and take a nap or "siesta" from about 2:00pm to 4:30 or 5:00pm. Everyone in Spain enjoys this afternoon break, including government workers and school children. After their nap, everyone returns to their schedule and their day runs longer than ours in the US, however, they embrace this time for rest and recharging their batteries.

New research may suggest that a daily nap may reduce the risk of heart disease due to reduced stress levels. (Dimitrios Trichopoulos, MD.) Scientists and physicians have both researched the Mediterranean culture for years and their low incidence of deaths associated with heart disease. According to Florida cardiologist Gerald Fletcher, MD, of the Mayo Clinic Jacksonville, "It makes sense that lowering stress levels with a daily siesta or even a semi-siesta could benefit the heart," he says. "We are increasingly recognizing the importance of sleep in cardiology." (Webmd, 2/12/07.)

There aren't many downsides to napping, but many benefits such as improved reaction time, improved mood, improved concentration, and calmer behavior (patience!). Even if you aren't a daytime sleeper, you'll reap the benefits by stretching out and relaxing for 20-30 minutes just to clear your mind and rest your body - some call this meditation - which produces the same kind of brain waves as light sleep.

The next time you put your child down for a nap, take one for yourself! The laundry, dishes, and the pile of work on your desk will still be there later, and you will feel much more positive and energized about tackling all of the jobs that await you.

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Yep, my husband naps every Saturday and Sunday and weekdays if he is home for one reason or another. Sometimes it's just a quick 30 minutes in front of the TV and sometimes he actually goes to bed and sleeps for 2 or 3 hours.

FYI: My father always took naps, my FIL always took naps, my 2 brothers take naps. My BIL would take one if my sister would let him but let's just say she's not going to allow that :-)

Good luck,
Karen

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My dad loves to nap when he is babysitting my daughters... he will lay on the couch with them and fall asleep.

I guess you could say my husband naps too... if he's home and sitting on the couch, he will pass out. Must be nice. I could never do that when the kids are awake. :(
Sorry! i thought I was going to say no, but as I was responding, I realized he does!

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my husband has probably napped twice since we have been together. he's to worried about not getting things done or not spending enough time with our son (when i was pregnant he was worried that our baby wouldnt know he was because he works all day...i thought that was cute) from the responses it seems like a lot of guys do, but honestly i dont know any

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My husband naps on average once a week. I nap on average once a week also :) depends on the week. We both are up and out of the house usually between 6 and 7 am (and I mean we are on the road towards work usually no later than 7am). We both have high stress jobs (he's military, I'm medical). And our kids are no longer at an age where an hour or two of them being left unsupervised is dangerous.

All the other men in my life do the same thing :) Lay down on the couch to watch a game and sooner rather than later you can hear 'em sawin logs :)

Not at all uncommon :)

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Sorry, I'm with the hubby on this one. I LOVE to nap! My husband doesn't nap. Ever. But Im a total napper! My girls are good nappers too (they're 2 and 9).
My sister's hubby can fall asleep at the drop of a hat! You can have a 5 second break in conversation and he's out, so I guess everyone is different.

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My husband does pass out on occasion, especially if he is watching t.v. with the kids on the couch. He does this because he doesn't get enough sleep at night. He tells me this when he wakes up: " I was really tired, I went to bed really late last night." Oh, really? I went to bed at a reasonable time because I knew I had to get up with the kids at the break of dawn. So why should you get to stay up all night and have fun, and then sleep during the day because you are tired? I don't get to sleep during the day, and I don't think he should either. I know the benefits of naps to our children, when they are young. But when they get older, they eventually stop needing them, and get all of their rest at night, like adults do. If your husband is constantly tired, even after getting what should be sufficient sleep at night, then I would say there is a medical problem and he should see his doctor. It could be his thyroid, or a host of over illnesses that could be causing his excessive sleepiness. If he comes back with a clean bill of health, I would tell him to stop acting like a baby. Good luck!

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my husband wants to nap ALL the time. He gets up early for work and is home by 3pm. He will then want to take a nap till about 5 and then go to bed around 10. It bothers me sooo much because I don't get to relax like that. I actually don't even want to sleep that much. I would miss to many things during the day. So, your not alone.

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My husbands a napper too. Sometimes he'll tell me to wake him in 30 min. which actually means like 2 hours.

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my husband only naps some weekends and it's only if everything is taken care of in the house. He will nap for about an hour or two some Saturday afternoons, however I get the same privilege, if the house is not falling apart he will stay with the girls while I nap.
Why don't you guys trade and he can take care of the kids/house while you nap? two hours for you to nap will not kill him, just demand your time you deserve it too! even if you don't sleep just lie down and read a book/laptop etc.
Have a great weekend,